I know I am
I think I find someone I can chat with
I send them a message and I keep getting ignored no matter who I send a message to
it's really frustrating
I would send simple things like "what kind of music do you like to listen to"
or "what kind of things are you interested in" or " what are your favorite hobbies"
no reply and all I know is it's really pissing me off.

all I'm trying to do is find women with similar interests that I can get along with, Maybe chat and possibly go on a date but I feel like nobody is giving me a chance, either that or they're all being superficial.

honestly I don't think there's anyone in Bakersfield that's my age that would give me a chance.

and if there is most of the time it's someone that's immature and thinks it's okay to cheat on someone when they enter a relationship.

Why do so many young ladies ask me to go off site.

Topic: who else is getting frustrated about not getting any message

Not me, because nobody is obligated to reply to a private message sent by a complete stranger.

Not really smart things to ask. I wouldn't reply either, I'd feel like "check out my profile and react to something in there!"
Ask something that is about her specifically, not something that you could ask just about anyone, make it personal. Show some interest.
"What kind of things are you interested in" and "What are your favourite hobbies" tells me you never even looked at my profile. So I'd ignore you. If you're too lazy to show an interest, to have an interest, and can't even be @r$ed to look at my profile, why should I be interested in answering you?

You're just asking the wrong questions (and then you get pissed off? Don't go blaming others, think about what you are not getting right, cos that's all it is.

To be fair most females profiles are blank so he probably didn't think to bother to look lol

Yeah, react to "hi..." "I tell you later" and "Just here for the Forum"

OP, don't get frustrated or peedoff. It's not you. There are a lot of fakes on dating sites, scammers who look for naive people with money to send> They won't reply to your messages and I have a feeling you have messaged more scammer profiles than anything else.
And when they're not fakes they're just window shopping. Most are not serious about wanting to find a man and if they are their expectations aren't to be met by the common of mortals.
But if you get upset about not getting replies then I'd say a dating site isn't your answer.

Hi Welcome to the Forums..

Honestly... It really depends anymore which ones I respond to.
I used to respond to all emails. Then after a while...
I quit. Why because they hadn't bothered to read my profile.

The internet isn't for the faint hearted nor the impatient.
You have a decent profile, and I get you are frustrated.

So I guess it might help if you take the time to search out profiles that are well written that give you a base to send that first email.

Best wishes in your search

sometimes folks can't get the stamps they want.....

....and the postman never appears when you are looking out the window

It's hard these days, but be patient.

You have to spend tons of time on the site posting before people consider you to be "real." Even then you get questioned due to jealousy, spite, etc, etc, etc.

You also have to build somewhat of a friendship before most people will respond to your messages. They are too busy answering "real" messages from "real" people to take a chance on you. It's a VERY snobby way to act for the people who actually use this site.

But, it's also understandable. It is frustrating to receive emails like "hi!" or "can you mail mme." or "I like you." or "call me I give bjobs at 1-###-###-####."

I have spent time creating witty fun messages that get ignored by active people on this site. Like others have said you can't force people to communicate with you. So, you get rejected(ignored), and move on to the next person, web site, or whatever.

Is it frustrating?

It ABSOLUTELY is! You know you are real and deserve a real response. But, that's not a good enough reason to get a response.

You have to put in your time period. It's not fair but what relationships are fair.



Oh yeah, I was going to send you a message but I couldn't because you have your settings to only accept unmarried females. So, was I frustrated after typing out a message to you only to get rejected from being able to send it to you.

It goes both ways. Although, I definitely do NOT!!!!

I make my own stamps.
Whenever I look out the window, I see the milkman coming out the barn.
Old Bessie cow is a harlot.

hi. welcome to mingle.

sorry, I'm one of those annoying people who these days is just here for the forums.

if you want to get to know people, join more of the conversations in the forums.

also, be open to possibility in the real world.
yes, Bakersfield might have limited opportunities for meeting people, but if you have the possibility, don't limit yourself to only one area.
for example, how far are you willing to go to spend time with someone?
I had a friend from mingle who lived over an hour away. we would take turns making the drive. I got to know his corner of the world, he got to know more about the area around here.

also, you're young and a musician. you meet all kinds of people through music (or hobby or professional interests).
good luck on your search.
in the meantime, enjoy life. you're young and have time to build your future

Goes for men's profiles too ...
Means you just skip it and go for someone who did take the time to fill out his/her profile. If they can't even be @r$ed to do that, to put in some effort to allegedly find the love of their life, they're likely not going to be bothered to reply to you either.

Meaning you're still going about it the wrong way. And still asking the wrong questions. I mean ...
"What are you're hobbies?"
Wow, mind-blowing question when you're looking for love!
If that's the best you can come up with in the dating/flirting stage, when you should be at your best, what is conversation going to look like when you've moved beyond that 'best stage'?
"Pass me the potatoes."?

And the worst is getting PO (with others!) because the you yourself FU?
RED FLAG!!!

honestly i do try to ask that person something about them specifically but it's kind of difficult when most of the profiles i've been sending messages to actually are left blank which is why is ask simple questions
otherwise i try ask questions in relation to what they said on thier profile,
as for the "what are your hobbies" question
i genuinely do want to know what they like to do in their spare time so as to know if there is something in common that i can relate to
is that so much to ask? i mean i'm just trying to find some common ground i can share with someone

it's not like i'm asking them for their home address or asking them what they do behind closed doors
which would be an a-hole thing to do by the way.

thanks for the advice
that sounds like great advice and all but unfortunately i'm limited on places i can go, i get around using my bicycle which means i'm stuck going between a 20 mile radius as i have no drivers license, driving experience, or even a car

and i'm currently unemployed,
and given the lack of education that i was deprived of by my teachers back in high school i don't have much employment options either and doubt i would get hired given that most skills
i know were self taught and most places want a degree to prove that my skills mean anything although i wouldn't know if they would make an exception considering i've never actually went in for a job application considering the job applications found online state about having a degree.

most of my skills were self taught or
i learned from observing others and could replicate the task immediately

soldering(self taught)
as well as plumbing repairs(self taught)
electronics repair(self taught), computer repair(self taught)
as well as electrical due to knowledge of color coding(self taught)

i'm also told by others that i have a vast knowledge in physics and quantum physics but that doesn't mean anything to me since i have very little math skills to go along with it.

im frustrated with the messages i get. all i here from is scammers

if you're getting messages from scammers why don't you report it?
i'd be frustrated too if i got messages from scammers honestly.

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