like I've said before I do check profiles and the ones I've checked are almost always blank and if they're not I send a message related to what was said on their profile, as for the whole getting frustrated bit I am getting frustrated but not at people, I'm getting frustrated in general because I don't get replies and because there's hardly anyone in my age group in my area that even has a profile filled out most of them are blank and I'm not going to date someone that's 4 or 5 years older or younger than I am.

actually she was directly insulting in a hurtful way
the words i would use for messages i would send

quote [still asking the wrong questions. I mean ...
"What are you're hobbies?"
Wow, mind-blowing question
If that's the best you can come up with in the dating/flirting stage, when you should be at your best, what is the conversation going to look like when you've moved beyond that 'best stage'?
"Pass me the potatoes."? ] end quote


I'm on disability at the moment
and if not having transport, a job, or funds makes it practically impossible to date someone then i am
flabbergasted that my friend who is 5,2 and a stoner can accomplish that with no funds or transport and that women hit on him and he doesn't have to lift a finger and i've seen it happen on more than one occasion and he doesn't even have to say anything.

@Crystal Fairy

I'm sorry I'm too stupid to know how to chat properly with other women.

@Crystal Fairy
well I'm sorry that I have very minute social skills and I'm sorry i'm a shut in and you had the urge to insult me,
what do you want me to do its not like I can just go out and talk to random people and I only have few friends that I knew from school so having a friend help me out with my social skills
is out of the question,
and I'd be too nervous to ask one of my female friends to help me out with learning to chat with other women.

you sound like a decent person
sorry to hear about your wife
hopefully it won't take long to find someone special
good luck finding someone.

if you're getting messages from scammers why don't you report it?
i'd be frustrated too if i got messages from scammers honestly.

thanks for the advice
that sounds like great advice and all but unfortunately i'm limited on places i can go, i get around using my bicycle which means i'm stuck going between a 20 mile radius as i have no drivers license, driving experience, or even a car

and i'm currently unemployed,
and given the lack of education that i was deprived of by my teachers back in high school i don't have much employment options either and doubt i would get hired given that most skills
i know were self taught and most places want a degree to prove that my skills mean anything although i wouldn't know if they would make an exception considering i've never actually went in for a job application considering the job applications found online state about having a degree.

most of my skills were self taught or
i learned from observing others and could replicate the task immediately

soldering(self taught)
as well as plumbing repairs(self taught)
electronics repair(self taught), computer repair(self taught)
as well as electrical due to knowledge of color coding(self taught)

i'm also told by others that i have a vast knowledge in physics and quantum physics but that doesn't mean anything to me since i have very little math skills to go along with it.

honestly i do try to ask that person something about them specifically but it's kind of difficult when most of the profiles i've been sending messages to actually are left blank which is why is ask simple questions
otherwise i try ask questions in relation to what they said on thier profile,
as for the "what are your hobbies" question
i genuinely do want to know what they like to do in their spare time so as to know if there is something in common that i can relate to
is that so much to ask? i mean i'm just trying to find some common ground i can share with someone

it's not like i'm asking them for their home address or asking them what they do behind closed doors
which would be an a-hole thing to do by the way.

and if there is most of the time it's someone that's immature and thinks it's okay to cheat on someone when they enter a relationship.

honestly I don't think there's anyone in Bakersfield that's my age that would give me a chance.

all I'm trying to do is find women with similar interests that I can get along with, Maybe chat and possibly go on a date but I feel like nobody is giving me a chance, either that or they're all being superficial.

I know I am
I think I find someone I can chat with
I send them a message and I keep getting ignored no matter who I send a message to
it's really frustrating
I would send simple things like "what kind of music do you like to listen to"
or "what kind of things are you interested in" or " what are your favorite hobbies"
no reply and all I know is it's really pissing me off.