Link12hh, you sound just like me. I feel exactly as you feel. I've had no luck messaging women here. The best I can hope for is they'll look at my profile and not reply. Ever. Like you, I'm unemployed, on disability and completely lacking the means to get around. Nobody hits on me. The city I live in is worthless for dating or jobs. I've gotten to the point where I've stopped believing there to be any woman for me. I'm almost dead certain there isn't an Asian woman for me otherwise I would have met her by now. I've given up on there being any future for me, there just isn't one. And I get so mad when I see the "celebrities" and their lives, how "madly in love" they are with some other celebrity. I'm terminally ill from all the times the Kardashians end up in the news.

I don't know what to tell you...I'm in no better a position than you and I find it difficult to believe in "love" and "romance". To me, those only happen in books and movies. They never seem to happen in real life because the only thing women want is money, college education and job. They don't care about "love" or finding the man they want to be with. If a guy doesn't have a job, college degrees or money, he is most likely to be ignored by ALL women. And that's where I am. That's why I don't have anyone. And, yeah, I'm a loner, a shut-in for all time. What the f**k else am I supposed to do? There's no job, no opportunity for one. Women are virtually extinct. What would you like for me to do about it? I guarantee, whatever you ask I'll find it undoable. I always do.

Only scammers want you to go off site right away....something to do with less security and monitoring, I think......so u are an easy target, and more likely to part with your hard earned money....and yes, there is a real Akeem in Nigeria or whatever waiting to get his paws on it...

Sounds like a perfect time to move. Sounds like you need to get to a big city. There are so many groups that you can join and meets others.

YOU ARE ONLY ALONE IF YOU WANT TO BE, YOU ARE LAZY, OR YOU ARE MENTALLY CHALLENGED!

I had a neighbor in WAY worse condition then you and older. For over 2 years he had a girlfriend. She would drive him all over the place because he didn't have a car. Eventually she gave him a car.

It all about taking charge of your life!

Nobody else will do it for you!

If you believe you are worthless and nobody wants you then you are.

thanks for the advice
that sounds like great advice and all but unfortunately i'm limited on places i can go, i get around using my bicycle which means i'm stuck going between a 20 mile radius as i have no drivers license, driving experience, or even a car

and i'm currently unemployed,
and given the lack of education that i was deprived of by my teachers back in high school i don't have much employment options either and doubt i would get hired given that most skills
i know were self taught and most places want a degree to prove that my skills mean anything although i wouldn't know if they would make an exception considering i've never actually went in for a job application considering the job applications found online state about having a degree.

most of my skills were self taught or
i learned from observing others and could replicate the task immediately

soldering(self taught)
as well as plumbing repairs(self taught)
electronics repair(self taught), computer repair(self taught)
as well as electrical due to knowledge of color coding(self taught)

i'm also told by others that i have a vast knowledge in physics and quantum physics but that doesn't mean anything to me since i have very little math skills to go along with it.

honestly I don't think there's anyone in Bakersfield that's my age that would give me a chance.

honestly i do try to ask that person something about them specifically but it's kind of difficult when most of the profiles i've been sending messages to actually are left blank which is why is ask simple questions
otherwise i try ask questions in relation to what they said on thier profile,
as for the "what are your hobbies" question
i genuinely do want to know what they like to do in their spare time so as to know if there is something in common that i can relate to
is that so much to ask? i mean i'm just trying to find some common ground i can share with someone

it's not like i'm asking them for their home address or asking them what they do behind closed doors
which would be an a-hole thing to do by the way.

Sounds to me like it's time for you to get up and get at it. Get your priorities in order. I'm not meaning to be hateful or mean. Just honest. You shouldn't even be thinking about women at this point. You should be thinking about bettering yourself. Getting yourself into a better place. If you have just the basic knowledge of computers, get into a trade school.

Yes, Ride your bicycle to the nearest trade school. And better yourself. You have nothing to offer a prospective relationship. If you want a relationship with a woman, first you need to prove yourself a bread winner. Right now you can't do that. I'm sorry, but this sounds like whining to me. Poor ole pitiful me. Women don't want me. What do you expect? You have no job. No means of transportation and no future.

I'm not trying to brow beat you. I'm trying to motivate you. You can find a way to get it done. It's all in how badly you want it. I've been where you are and worse. If I had to walk to a job at 4:30 in the morning, shoveling horse pucky. If all it did was make me enough money to buy a used moped that would get me to school and back, even if I had to ride it in the dead of winter, I would do it. If that's what it took to get me out of whatever mess I was in. By the way, Women will admire that. Women tend to admire a man that will go after what he wants. And will not stop till he gets it. Especially bettering yourself.