Not that anybody cares but i'd like to make a confession about thyself.
I'm unworthy of love and probably a shiit with a damaged bleeding heart which has lead to a fkd up mind at the moment which has got me drinking alcohol.
Im not looking for sympathy or attention or whatever but just want to get this off my chest.
So im a worthless shiit that nobody will ever really love or care for & umworthy of anything & often misunderstood.
Moral - im not made for love or relationships so i should eliminate all hopes & dreams of it forever
That is all. Thanks for reading this useless thread

Cheers.. pretty boy ! We all go through those thoughts sometimes. Maybe not ALL of us but me and quite a few friends...
and some amazing artists, sports people too...

Soooooooo....I recommend to remember we are nothing more than a drop of water in this world and to not put too much thought in it...there is no judgement on being "worthy" or "not"...

Love and receive to the best of your liking and that's complicated enough

hmmmm...ya know

the fact that you are aware of your own damaged parts

is a real good starting point

for change

G'day Mate.. I don't know what got you feeling like you are but you have made a start to being your normal self and that's to acknowledge your feelings to others.

As was previously stated, most people go through what your going through (myself included) and with the help of friends in most cases (I worked myself out after watching Dr Phil) you will start to see the light at the end of the tunnel and it won't be a train.

If you need to talk you can message me..

Laurie

Wow, you're about the same age I was when I said screw it and started posting messed up profile on dating sites. I would advise you not to continue down this path, unless you want to have your darkest secrets paraded around in you head every waking moment of you life and you enjoy carving yourself up mentally to the point you can't stand looking at yourself in the mirror anymore.

You are way too young and way too drunk to assess yourself objectively in the romantic department Romeo.

Your wounds are still raw after your last break up, which is typical for most of us in that situation.

Its kinda like what happens after a hurricane. Nobody surveys the damage of a hurricanes or drafts a plan for rebuilding ,during the hurricane or immediately after the hurricane.

After you sober up and get some more distance from your romantic past , you will be in a better place to survey the damage and assess what parts of thinking need to be rewired to prepare you for a healthier relationship.

Almost all of us here have been unsuccessful several times over in our romantic lives. Clearly none of us have this love-thingy figured out. We are learning as we go along.

I thought we went over this on the topic a place to repent..lol..
Love thy self...frist..comeon man!! pull it together...you are better then all this self bitty crap...pull up your panties..and get on with the job of living your life..for you ! And know one else..yes...

you should just go out and have lots of meaningless sex to forget about all that...take some of the alcohol and use it to get them drunk first, faster that way...

Everybody gets the blues my friend and life will kick you when your down for sure.Its been my lesson that when things get this way the best thing to do is to stop the bleeding because things can get worse.Step back regroup, your young and you will recover quicker then you think, don't rush anything, concentrate on working out again, call a few old buddys, pound a few beers, listen to some good music. I wish you good luck.

But he already had lots of meaningless sex that's why he thinks he's all fkd up. I think the OP just needs to call his mama and say "Love you mom." or call a buddy (male friends) to get drunk with.

I think your suggestion makes better sense though.

(((romeo)))
Feel better?
Now...

Hi Romeo,

You are still young. Still a long road to go.
Learned from experiences, mistakes ( nobody perfect).....that's life education.
Most importantly, LOVE YOURSELF.

Hey i didnt expect to get replies but thanks a lot i really appreciate it.
Im always out & with friends or business contacts & hangout with friends. Im out each day doing things but no matter how hard i try she ends up in my mind like crazy...as for meaningless sex i dont see any point when all i wish for is that 1 woman.

You know I don't really know you that well.. all I know of you is what I see you write here in the forums.. and you seem like a really upbeat funny person... we have all had bad relationships in our life... we have all made bad choices.. it is how we pick ourselves up that counts...It doesn't matter what other people think of us... its how we think of ourselves that count... I hope you find your self-worth soon and go on from there... That is all we can do in this life is just put one foot in front of the other and try to do better... make better choices and if we make the wrong choice... don't stay down just step up and go on...
tonight I was supposed to meet someone from this site... he stood me up... I could be down about it and think I'm not worth meeting ... but that's not me... I know I'm worth meeting ... I choose to look at it as his loss not mine... and I had a couple of glasses of wine and talked to other people while I waited... It was a good night for me... You just need to learn to be a glass half full instead of half empty kind of person... good luck to you... you seem to have a lot of friends on here so lean on them..

Thanks a lot love u all...even tho at times i might seem like an aazzhole i really do not wishbto harm or offend anyone

I've read a few of your posts on different topics and you speak well. What your going through is a hurt that many go through but you will I'm sure take the advice from ordinary people who in my book are the ones to listen to.

Good luck mate..

Laurie

..yes..you are right.. I'm to blame. But I have big shoulders I can carry the weight.... but I am not to blame for taking his virginity.. I like him !but I don't like him that much..lmao..wink

... Big shoulders ...
*15 minutes later* ... right, where were we?
Carry the weight. Good point. I think ... I'm still a bit dazed..

Well, you got 2 choices:
1 - Continue drinking and waste your life away and revel in self-pity. If that makes you happy, there's nothing anyone can do. Enjoy it! But please don't start whinging about it. Accept that it's your choice and grab another bottle of whatever your poison is.

2 - Get some inner strength, tap into it, snap out of it and make something of your life. If you can't do that yourself, get help. A coach/counsellor should be enough. If you can't forget about that woman, there quite likely something that she gave you that you cannot give yourself. And no, I'm not talking sex. People latch on to another for a reason, and love has NOTHING to do with it. They think it does, but it's not.
Could be that she was your lifeline, your backbone, your security, and anything else, that you don't have yourself, and need someone else for. If you can learn to give that to yourself, you are 'free' and can live a happy life and the woman will become but a memory.
But for this option you gotta have some strength and willpower to get out of it and to make something of your life.
Get help! Or revel in option nr1 and shut up about it.
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