ahhhh a woman after my own heart^^^^

two choices: keep doing it or stop

my dad used to say " ya got two days to wallow in self pity, then pick yourself up, kick yourself in the azz and get on with your life"


hold up...dad was a raging alcoholic


it was my militant mama that said that one

Drank you anothern...it'll all be OK

Some people take longer than 2 weeks or 2 months to get over a break up.

Some deal with a break up by medicating with drugs or alchohol. Some people bury themselves in their work, some dont talk about their pain at all ,but nurse it on the inside until it begins to manifest itself in health problems or begins to undermine relationships with family and friends in insidious ways.

Break ups can feel like a death of sorts to some people if they loved the person deeply, and everyone does not get over a death in 2 weeks or 2 months . Nor do they often deal with it in the healthiest of ways.

Should people be encouraged to deal with their pain in reckless or hazardous ways? Ofcourse not. The advice given throughout this thread is GOLDEN,and is likely to get the OP on the right track if he takes heed, and I hope he does.

But I don't see why he or anyone else going through a break-up should be made to feel bad about their period of venting just because they are not healing at the pace, or in the way that other people feel they should heal.

As the Russian saying goes; What does not kill me, makes me stronger.
Introspection is good for growing your spirits core. Once you realize you are unworthy, you can start to isolate the issues. As a great person said, back to the drawing board!

Hahaha...
And yeah ... I gave up on trying to help ppl that revel in self-pity. They can't be helped by others. They're the type of ppl that spend decades on a shrink's sofa and still don't do nothing to better their lives.
The only one who can change them is themselves, and if they haven't the strength, good luck, have fun. Revel in misery, but don't bother anyone else with it.

Needless to say I am a bad bad counsellor
I'm all for coaching. Less whinging, ppl that can be motivated, short and sweet.

I am not revelling in self pity & i never have. I was simply stating some things i came across.
And yeah u would make a bad counsellor coz u would misinterpret things.
Giving a last shot at love to someone that wanted to use ü for their benefit while ü were 100% sincere can get ü down & its not like i dont attract girls etc in the real world. I have a lot of options for me to do things with girls in reality but thats not the person i am

I understand you're desperate, but I lived that for almost a decade in a LTR. Still got my sanity, I'm resilient, bounced back, and am very happy. It just takes inner strength.
What you're doing now, is victimizing yourself, like you're the only one who's ever been in that situation. That train of thought is exactly what stops you from getting out ...
But yeah ... if it makes you happy... if not, like I said: get help.

Lol. I know other people go through that & i'm desperate in what way? A woman?? Sex?? A partner?? Plz tell me lol

Shovels another handful of popcorn down his gob.. munch munch munch..
Looks like we're really starting to get a show here..lol

Know how you feel Romeo. Take this time to figure out what you really would like man.