From the last couple of months, I am feeling that he is lying to me about almost everything, I also got to know that he cheated on me. Our relationship is not on good track. What should I do? Should I stop and move on?

Golden Globes anyone watching it? Myself I have listen to it the first 30 minutes and it's all about Women rights and the Sexual Harassment that has happened...

I'm one if I watch something I want it to be what it is about.. If they want to make it Political they need to buy air time just for that.. Those that are interested in it would watch..

I have been in my office listening to it or I would have already turned the channel~~~~

So am I the only one that thinks this way???

I know many say freedom of speech.. I just think if it is going to be about the Golden Globes then stick to what the Golden Globes is suppose to be about.

What does that mean exactly?

If one can be aroused 'watching' the adult movies,,,

how likely is it they can be aroused 'watching' the real thing,,,?



whether involved as a threesome, foursome, orgy, or swinging event,,,,,

IF one can diminish it to mere excitement of viewing,,,how much of a stretch would it take to concede to personal experiences where there are others to 'watch'?

I've gone through my stages in life, and I think the times I would have been most 'open' to less than strictly one on one interactions was when I Was into 'watching' the movies, when the visualizations themselves were a source of turn on,,,


It has been so long since Ive had or even been around sex..... I watch porn I just think about having one man there and Id be good....lol
Don't know what Id do with 2 men...lol

..good for you... exactly that's what takers do everything is everybody else's problems but God forbid if you ever tried to sit down and work things out with them.. logically.. it's like talking to a brick wall... because then they have to take what you're saying and really honestly process it.. and we all know takers only want to take what they want to take and the rest they throw away..lol

If a giver and the taker break off their relationship.. a giver will try their best.. to make it work.. a taker won't try at all. They will sit there cold and abstain taking the giver's words..of love and.. what that means..
And only hearing the negative .. only hearing that The Giver didn't give enough..to them..
And then when the giver finally gives up.. and realizes they are with a taker..
The taker will close the door on The Giver and go to bed and sleep. Soundly insured in the thought.. that it's not their problem.it ended.
Well The Giver we'll stay up all night tossing and turning.. thinking perhaps they Should Have gave a little more..to the taker..but.. then The Giver.. will give themselves a piece of advice.. stop giving to the taker..

. Do you have any little antidotes to contribute to this topic..lol

forgive my ignorance but whats the definition of sbw?

I know, huh.
But he looks so silly in it.

Technically the OP starts the new day considering she asked her question in the afternoon of yesterday. So it hasn't been 24 hours yet.

I think I know why I quit sending messages.....I got tired of no reply. Exceptions to those in the forums.

I do of course say more than "Hi Pretty" or "Hi". I try to find something in a woman's profile that gives a commonality and try to go on that. Unfortunately though, many do not have information to go on and make it quite hard to come up with a message that may perk her interest.

Better yet, once a week (or so) I get a woman who views my profile and then deactivates her profile. Had one a few hours ago.

I'm going to assume he's not just a scammer or phisher sending out 10,000 emails to every profile he comes across, or that shows as online.
That he's not one of 100 people sitting in a shack in a 3rd world country getting paid by the number of responses he gets to his email.

Assuming he's "genuine," just some local guy looking for love/dating/female interaction for genial purposes or romance, then:

- many guys are using the phone app. They aren't really sending you a message, like email, so much as texting you.
Typing out lengthy emails on a small screen with a touch keyboard tends to be a pain.

- They are trying to start a conversation, not send you a sales pitch and purchasing contract.

- The mindset between a reader and a writer is different.
Readers inherently have a perspective like "ok, I have this email in my hand. I can read it or not. I can take my time, really get into it, see what it says, it's mine, it's not going anywhere. Ball is in my court, they're waiting for my response."

Writers don't have that luxury. They're more of "here's a profile, maybe online and they could sign off at any moment and maybe never sign on again, they may be in the middle of talking to someone, they aren't directly asking me personally to contact them, I don't know this person, they are a stranger, I'm putting the ball in their court."

- Majority of messages sent do not get a reply, or get a negative (unsuccessful/"not interested") response. Doesn't matter if someone spends a lot of time on their email, or sends a "hi."
Most message attempts end in failure.
People build shortcuts in handling their consistent experience.
No incentive to send anything more than "hi."
There are no perceived consequences to sending just "hi."
What consequence do they get?

"I have thought about sending a message back asking them but then I think that would be rude so I don't"

No reply.
In your head, on your end of the computer, completely unbeknownst to them, you (may) have refused to respond because they only said "hi pretty."
On their end, they simply get "no reply."

That is the same consequence as when they've sent out longer emails.
Other women may have sent nothing because of the picture, or he had a cat, or she met someone, or she hasn't signed into the website for 8 months.

But from the guys perspective the same thing happens the majority of the time no matter what they send.
No reply.
No reason to put any effort into it.
Better to just send something quick to see if there will be any response at all.

- A lot of people try to force online interaction into an offline equivalent they understand.
What do you say when you first meet someone in real life?
Something like "Hi."

Since this is an international site...many different cultures have different ways od approaching people

I believe its just an immitation of real life introduction

when someone walks up to me anywhere in real life they usually only say
hello initially,,,,