Do you know or ever wonder how other people see you in their eyes?
I've wondered at times & asked a few people sometimes in real life.....(i do not know about online)

I got a few opinions & being a pretty boy was one of them....

Well no i am NOTa pretty boy...i'm the dude that will knock your teeth out if messed with

sorry just needed to get that off my chest

Did I ever care how other people see me? No, I only cared about the opinion of people I love. Don't really give a damn what others thought.

Yes the people close to u is what i mean....not randoms lol

Honestly the older I get I could care less how anyone sees me.. even family...I do what I want to and when I want to.. my family and friends just look at me and shake their heads and say there she goes again... No telling what she will say or do..

They see me for who I am: straightforward, honest, loyal, helpful, kind, and sprinkle in hot, sexy and genius and there you are.

I did care what people thought of me and it did my head in. Now you dont like me that is your loss, tell someone who cares
I try to get on with everyone some times they just don't like you maybe jealous. I don't know nor do I care now

ahhhh when I was a little girl I cared very much what others thought of me or if they liked me
I was a people pleaser..get my grandpa a cup of coffee so he did not have to get up from reading the paper
do as I was told
got good grades..colored inside the lines
teachers always said what a nice, polite child she is



when I was married..I took my vows seriously
tried very hard to be good wife and mother
cared what the family thought of me
cared what my husband thought of me
what my children thought..of their mother
is she a good person, decent human being..
often times in the course of that 20 year union
I kept my mouth shut in order to keep the peace



now at 46? I think I have reached that point in life
where I am old enough..have put up with enough
or no longer care enough what people think perhaps

I now say what I want and let chips fall where they may

Of course.

The problem that can arise from doing it is obsessing over how they see you, worrying about how they see you, and/or trying to control how they see you.

Otherwise I think it's good to do it, to wonder how other people see you.

It offers another perspective.

I/you/we focus on different things.
Like men and women when asked "what's the first thing you notice about a person?"
Some say eyes, some say smile, some say face, some say shoes, some say body.

All of that leads to the next thing they focus on, then the next, then the next, and all of that information leads to a conclusion and judgment based on the processing of that information.

Figuring out how someone else sees you tells you that which they find important, what they focus on, how they process that information, how they make conclusions, what judgments they make.

That's extremely important information.

Especially how it effects communication.

It's good to wonder how others see you as long as you find it more important as information about them, rather than you.
Even though, sometimes it's good to get feedback about yourself.
That's how you find out things like your hygiene standards have slipped, or you need to remember to buy new clothes, or do laundry, or go outside for vitamin D, or you're changing in a possibly unhealthy way, or unconscious habits that you thought you stopped doing and wanted to stop doing but just started doing again without realizing.

The opinions of others is extremely important.
The only time it becomes harmful is when it's feared.
That leads people to either obsess over it or pretend it doesn't matter at all.



The bad news is that it's crap when it comes to online.
Like forums.
It's too controlled and edited an environment.

I mean

Online, how can that be proven to be consistently true?
It's an empty statement without meaning or purpose when just typed.

For all I know you are a one armed woman that went to prison framed by the yakuza and aryans for sexually molesting chevy cavaliers and you need to promote a tough persona in order to earn cigarettes to barter for a secret treasure map of 10 gallons of toilet wine hidden in the laundry.

Your statement is just as true as mine, online.

At times i do wonder when i get strange looks from people...i ignore it most of the times but almost each day it happens...men & women that Ive seen lookin a lot & ofcourse im not doing anything out of the ordinary but i do feel like saying ''what the f**k u lookin at '' like gets me paranoid at times Lmao & thats when i think why they giving me looks maybe i'm weird to them or whatever

Oh please. You know they want you. You're so sexy.

I usually think to myself that if I treat people with respect, they'll see how nice I was, by the time die. Hopefully.

Have you actually asked or are you merely filling in the blanks? *runs out of the room, lol*

I must admit I thought you were Jarsno, cos of the cat. Where has Jarsno gone anyways?

Actually, I got those adjectives from you, darling.

you better run fast, she's quicker than you. lol

I care very much what my family and close friends think of me.. very much as they love and respect me.

And I care how the people I work with in my industry perceive me to be as that is my reputation at stake, which took a life time to build.

I really don't care what most others think.

And yes, Romeo I agree with you, a comment of " pretty boy" would be met with a very fast reply.. Lol

You can't see me

i thought this was going to be a John Cena post lol




me myself
i have never really cared what people think or thought of me
yes i would like them to like me
but that is up to them
i am just myself
dont change for no one
you either like me or ya dont <shrug>

I'd like the freedom of not caring how people see me but in the family I grew up in that's not possible. How people see me and think about me reflects on more than just me, it reflects on my family and friends. So for the time being I'm going to keep myself looking pretty and saying witty things to hold up my reputation and the reputation of those close to me.

I think along this line too. I do care what people think about me. What the heck is toilet wine, ciretom?