I think I've always cared about what people thought of me. I mean, I just never felt I fit in anywhere and when I tried, I felt like I couldn't keep the act up for so long.

I hope one day I can just be myself without worrying about how others are seeing me.

oh,, consistently,,,

'laid back'


its both a negative 'you are too laid back',

and a positive 'you are so laid back'


I think people can view my 'laid back' in the negative as a sign that I dont care when I actually care deeply about others

Im just not very into big 'gestures' of emotion,,,and sometimes that gives the wrong impression,,,and hides how big my heart is

What? Who said that? [Looks around the room and sees nobody.]

Oh, great. I am starting to hear voices.

In a literal sense: I've been told that if you hold a mirror perpendicular to another mirror (like holding a hand mirror to the bathroom mirror on the wall), you actually get a different physical view of yourself than looking at your own reflection in just one mirror. That's supposed to show what you look like to another's visual perception.

P.S. yes, it's a weird angle to try to view a reflection from.

... I would have a hard time not staring at you... ...

Was just talking about a similar issue.. I was expressing how it bothers me that here where I live I have to dress down and try not to talk to some men because the women get so nasty about it...stupid.. I Love being me...and I have my faults and flaws...just stinks that I can't just be me without some flaky woman wanting to beat me up..and I am not flirting with their men... I might smile or say hi in passing..but I try to respect couples...just don't get it...

Basically !!I try not to step on anyones toes ..and do the best of living my own life as I can.... as far as perception how people see me... it matters that my loved ones see me in the best light possible.. although they have seen the darker uglier side of me.. and they are still here.. so I guess that counts for something.... it is like looking into the mirror you see your reflection one way.. but to others perceive you the same way.. oh god I hope so.. or all the years of telling myself I'm so pretty would have just being lies lol

...your very pretty...pretty handsome, pretty funny, pretty smart...

I actually have no idea how other people perceive me. My answer then would be more about how I perceive myself, which is probably more than I want to share.

I will say as a boss I'm demanding but I try to be fair and honest. In fact brutally honest, I don't belive in sugar coating things. If you do a crap job, then I will tell you. If you do a good job, well that's what I hired you to do. Keep it up you may get promoted.


As a father and a friend I try very hard to be supportive and kind, but honest.

Whether at home or work I want people to know they matter to me and I want them to be happy and successful. Hopefully they know I will always be there for them.

I USED to really care about what people thought of me, I wanted everyone to like me, and many people took advantage of my kind nature and this was when I was at the worst I could possibly be.

when I look back I think what a fool I was for wanting these horrible people to like me, but at the time I was so sick I just didn't see it. I lost a lot of my own money for being that way. Sick people target the vulnerable, fact and in many cases like mine it works.

NOT ANYMORE.

all I care about know, is what my family and friends think of me, as for anyone else I couldn't give a monkeys azz. I am 100 percent loyal to those I love and care for and I would do anything for those people. Family is everything to me, especially my parents.

Though I will admit at times when things get rough I fall back into that trap but I soon pull myself back out of it.

I have learnt not everyone will like me, just like I wont like everyone and that's ok. I learnt that the hard way but that doesn't matter.

Please, don't butter him up. I have seen his ugly side and it's not pretty.

I you, anyway, Daddy. Am I a fool?

You look like a kitty in hippy sun glasses to me..

Andrew's reflection.

Reflection, this law so resonated with me and it made me think so differently about myself and life in general. Every person that is in your life, whether it is a relative, or a friend, is a mirror of an aspect of you. The same is true for every situation in your life as well.

No matter who is in your life or what situation you are encountered with, they are always a mirror aspect of you. The earth as a learning school gives you the opportunity to always see yourself in the mirror. Do you like what you see? Do you like your life and what is in it? And that mirror is very, very accurate.

Someone else in your life or any situation in your life is also a mirror. You have to look in the mirror and change yourself. Do not change the reflection in the mirror but work on yourself. You must observe the outside but change on the inside to get the results you want. That is how change will happen for you. Anything and anyone in your life that you do not like or do not resonate with are showing you aspects of yourself that you do not feel comfortable with.

Everything in your life is a mirroring aspect of yourself. If you don’t like the outside, then change the inside. It’s that simple. When you do this, these situations and people will disappear from your life and life will flow for you.

So people who you like or enjoy being around are just mirroring aspects of yourself that you feel good about. And people who you do not like are showing you aspects of yourself that you are not comfortable with. This mirror is very accurate and honest so the secrets do show up in the reflections you see of yourself.

So what do you do when there is someone in your life that you do not like? Do you try to change them? NO! If you try to change them, then you are trying to change the reflection in your mirror. Don’t do this as this is a form of denial. Work on yourself instead. Do not ever try to make someone else to be different so that you will feel more comfortable.

Just observe the outer and change the inner. Change yourself! Ask yourself what is this person or situation teaching you. Look at the situation or the person and what lesson is to be learned. What is the reflection that is being mirrored back to me and why? And make the change inside and watch the reflection change.

So when someone is hostile to you, look within at your own anger issues. Whatever issue is presented to you in any situation in your life, look within yourself for an aspect of you for that situation and change it on the inside. So the more someone bothers you, the more your soul is trying to draw a reflection to your attention with respect to that issue that bothers you.

Pay attention to the people in your life and how they treat you and how you feel. Pay attention to the situations in your life and how you feel. These are all reflections in the mirror of you. When you understand the law of reflection, you can make changes on the inside and your life will be better. These people and situations that you do not like will go away as you have now made the changes inside. This works the other way as well.

For example, take someone that you like or admire. Why do you like them? What qualities do you like about them? Those qualities are within you as well. Otherwise you would not have been attracted to that person. The mirror is showing you the beautiful part of yourself through these people who you like and are drawn to. So enhance these qualities by practicing them and more and more people with these characteristics will come into your life.

Shine your beautiful light and watch as more light enters your life. You will see that you will be a changed person. You will not get angry, you will not worry, you will not be upset and your friends will all be loving and your life will flow so much better. Remember that everything is a reflection. What are you looking at? Is it time to see something better?

Something less stressful and hectic? Some better friends? Whatever comes into your life, always look in the mirror and ask what it has to teach you. There is always a lesson. Always look to see what life is telling you. Throw away the emotions and look at the lesson that is presented to you. Always look within and change yourself and never try to change someone else for they are reflecting you. Understanding the law of reflection will make your life flow much easier and as a result, you will be more happier.

have a pretty day..:-)

Interesting article, Lu. But why do I have to work on myself to get rid of unpleasant people? Isn't there an easier way? I can think of so many.

Hi, New York Girl. Do you feel that you need to work on yourself?
You can only choose what's best for you.

I think the solution is in your hand, heart and mind. Choose wisely and have a pleasant day.

I can't think of a thing I need to work on. *wracking my brain here*

Yes there's one thing and one thing only. You can say Hi back :)

Thank you.

My bad. Hello, baby.

...wouldn't say buttering up as much as paying him a much earned compliment...when I first got on here he boosted up my self esteem and he had a way of making me smile..probably a good thing I will never live near him...would have broke my heart ...stupid L word would have had him at a dead run for sure...lol...and his admiration of all the pretty ladies and the ladies that adore him...yup..just stick to admiring the veiw...