Why do olden days marriages last longer than modern ones?.Modern marriages have both the husband and wife either wishing for death or divorce as their only alternatives. Why marry if you hate your fellow human?

Uh, in the "olden days", getting a divorce was far more difficult.

These days women are more aware of their rights and mostly are financially independent. Gone are the days when a women had to suffer in a marriage just because she had no money of her own or feared to be looked down upon by the family as a divorcee.

True mate your bang right

Because the required effort and consequences to divorce (if even allowed, not sure how "olden" you are talking about) outweighed the risks of staying.


Because "marriage" isn't solely a social convention.
Marriage is an extension of the biological phenomenon of pair bonding.
But lots of people seem to have turned it into an extension of ego with a touch of disney thrown in.
Believing that marriage can shortcut, circumvent, or allow control of the natural process.

Because at the beginning, they don't hate their fellow human.
But if they're ultimately marrying by personal choice as a symbol or ritual it means it's an arbitrary decision.
If you're eating something because you're hungry, you can eat the same thing for far longer than if you're eating just because you decide you should eat something or are bored.
If you choose the latter, eventually you come to absolutely hate it.

and as someone else said in another thread...

back then we fixed things not threw them away

I don't think "olden days" has anything to do with that peeps were/are not happy in marriages/relationships. They simply stayed together because "that's what you are suppose to do"....that is not really a good reason, but it is a reason.
I think partially what lukinfolov said below.

I agree with this part as well.

There are MANY, MANY reasons IMO

Its not just womens rights.People these days live in a disposable society. They are not brought up with the same mind set that you have to look after something that you want to keep. That includes relationships. Both men and women are this way these days. Im sure I will get plenty of "Im not like that" from both sides, but you are! Out of the younger generation, of Everybody that I have crossed paths with I have met ONE person who actually has honor, respect and old school family values. No one has these anymore. Everyone wants everything NOW, these days. No one thinks about making anything last. Just jump in head first and suffer the consequences later. Whether it be a house or car or a relationship. I see it all the time. Kids these days ( I'm talking 20's) are getting together with someone at 19, having a child, then they break up because of whatever, meet someone else and have another child, then that relationship goes bad and the cycle repeats. No one puts the effort into a marriage or relationship, that is required to keep it alive, anymore because our crap society has programmed them that this is how we live now. Its no good..just get another one.

I asked my mother this question...She and my dad were married 67 years ...She smiled and said, "When two people love each other divorce is not an option."...I like her answer!

Pleasssssssssse tell us those "many many reasons" Someone can learn and thereby curtail the rate of divorces. Its just alarming these days

Maybe Generation Y (20's) has the disposable mentality. My generation X (in their 40's and up) still believes in family values.

IMO...peeps simply GIVE UP too easily. One or both peeps in a relationship have given up. They don't truly take the time and effort to take a step back and say "do I still love him/her?" "is this really worth fighting". Just because you have a disagreement or are not happy 100% of the time does NOT mean you don't love that person. IF you love them, then you WILL WORK THRU WHATEVER. Agree to disagree is OK.
I have encountered many peeps who, when asked why they got divorced, their response is "I wasn't happy". ANY relationship will not always be happy, and certainly not perfect, but peeps need to THINK thru a problem and not just jump at the conclusion of "I am not happy and he/she doesn't agree with me.. divorce".

And, like others have said....peeps go into marriages/relationships with today's mantra of "disposable"...If I am not happy, I can just get divorced.

This may be off topic....
...my 2 children are 23 & 24 and They were TAUGHT how to have relationships and not simply make babies.

I agree, woman did not have the independence then that they have to day. my mother never work back in those days, she stayed home and took care of the home and seven kid's , while my dad worked 2 jobs.

I wouldn't generalize. Most want to make their marriage work. I highly doubt that anyone goes through an expensive lavish ceremony attended by their friends and family with the idea that if it doesn't work out, they can fall back on a divorce. Divorce is also cost prohibitive and a last resort. I believe that everyone wants to make the marriage work. The problem may stem from communication breakdown. That is usually the biggest issue after money. Then when you factor in the children of the union who get caught in the middle and suffer the consequences of a broken home, I highly doubt that the married couple is contemplating divorce as the first and only solution. I myself have held out for so long because I want to be absolutely sure that the man I marry is the right one for me and that our marriage will last "until death do us part". I take my marriage vows very seriously.

Interesting.
The ones complaining of it are all men.
Gee..I wonder why.

Hmm..I don't hate!my fellow humans... I just hate the one I married LOL JK

But, but, that would make you..normal.
Another illusion shot.

Because men are the worst hit when divorce occurs. Not children as widely believed. The bitter truth (against our ego though) is that we men really cant survive very far without women.