At least you know where they are and who they are hanging out with.
I just want to say good on you as and it is hard to be a single parent. Keep going and figure out what works for you and your boys.
Wow 50 inch tv! Where the flipping is mine?

Man I missed this boat lol

.. then you are really going to hate me for this..... I have a home theater room...60 in... and 5 other big screen TVs in my house..... .... but hey if you play your cards right.. .. christmas is just around the corner...

Boys and toys, pffff ...
We had a screen for movies that was 2 - 2,5 meters wide... not diagonal, wide. With a professional beamer, thing was huge, weighed a ton, later on one of those small new ones. Home network with 11 computers, all online, there was just 4 of us. One in each bedroom, one in the drum/music room and lord knows where else.
What my boy do when he got his first real big paycheck, after he paid all his bills? Get one of them monstrous tvs! I couldn't believe it!

The faster refresh rate, I get that... handy when gaming. I just do everything on my PC monitor, 40 cm diagonal I think. Maybe 50.
Watch tv on it, write my sexy stories on it, just everything. If that screen could talk!

Funny, all my college roommates with their 35 children, between the 5 of them, all offered to do the same.

Do I look insane?
Mmmmm?

.. it probably would talk if you would take the duct tape off of its mouth..lol..... I know technology runs this household..
... believe me..... I would turn the breaker off.... if I knew where It was..lol

.. yes insanely beautiful...

This cracks me up... I would ground my kids to their rooms.. mainly to give me the sanity not to kill them. Til one day I realized my youngest daughter deliberately would get grounded to her room. That was over.. I would ground her somewhere like the loft with only books to occupy herself..


Lock them in their rooms nah I would have sold them at times...JK

I have sworn I would never do it again.. I look back on it now and wonder how we all survived and now laugh about it..

Yes... indeed never do it again!
I'm so glad now that I didn't have a 3rd with my ex.. the thought of having a 9 or 10 yr old now, on my own ... teenage years knocking on the door, again. Twice is enough for one lifetime, lol

Birthday comes just before Christmas. No I am a girl who likes people talking to each other but a good movie will do just as good on a huge screen with popcorn.

Birthday comes just before Christmas. No I am a girl who likes people talking to each other but a good movie will do just as good on a huge screen with popcorn.

Urmmm, do you have any photos taken together with your boys? That would prove, urmmm, I mean show us that you're a real family.

If he does I hope he doesn't post them. Maybe ask him to send through private email... Kids in my opinion don't belong on dating sites...

I love my kids although I did try to sell them on Ebay when they were younger.

My daughter is 15 now and I took her shopping last week, she said one of the guys in some shop was handsome, drove me crazy

I wanted to hang this guy just because he caught the attention of my beautiful daughter lmao.

Dreading the day she gets a boyfriend GGGrrrrrrr hold me back

People can post whatever they wish on a dating site and they usually post photos of pets, children, and their pride and joy. Let Daddy decide that for himself.

Hi, baby.

That's your opinion. Thanks for your concern.

Well... A child abuse thread. How interesting.

Totally agree with you... People post all kinds of stuff on the internet. People do post their children.. Again in my opinion I don't think is such a great idea... Looking at it from a professional stance and seeing some of the repercussions of said act I stand by my opinion...Sharing photos of loved ones in my opinion should be done privately... EAch to their own

In saying that I don't believe I have ever seen you post anything but "you"




There were times I wished I would have thought of that

I know I offered my neighbor money if they would take them..No takers..

I am very proud of my children and my grandchildren they are awesome people..
Mine Oh Gawd moment of how fast they were growing up was when the first left for college. Now that was depressing...

Yep, my son was 20 a few months ago, strange but it was that day that it hit me that I'm getting old

My choice was to share photos of only me since I am single and have no children. What else should I share photos of, my building swimming pool? Lol Daddy's choice was to share his family photos. I asked for one with all of them together. Not a big stretch.

OMG this thread brings back memories. Got a good chuckle. Not at anyone just with you. Kind of a been there done that know your pain dude.

I have to say ANYONE who says they have not had the burning desire to throttle the living stuffings out of their kids at least once a day better take the kid to the doctor. Why; because the kid is walking on egg shells and or so depressed they can't think of ways to challenge the "authority figure in the house so be glad for normal. Or the parent is so permissive that the child will be a mess by the time they reach age of majority. Anyone who tries to tell me it is all warm and fuzzy I just call them a collossal LIAR.

BUT hear me loud and clear on this one if you want to survive as a parent; especially a single parent NEVER EVER parent from guilt. It will tie you up and gag you and the real losers will be your kids.

SO FRIGGING WHAT the absent parent might have been better at WHATEVER. NOBODY says you have to be perfect at something or even DO everything the parent who is often missing in action used to do. Your kids rarely expect it but yea occasionally they will fight dirty and give you a zinger. (You really think they never played that song and dance on the missing parent? I stake my life on they do. Because Wonderwoman and Superman were NEVER single parents I exactly why SINGLE PARENTS MUST NETWORK !!! You think all the Super hero type parents do it all themselves? New flash they delegate, bribe, plead, and pay for help too. Remember that little "honey will" whisper in your ear when they wanted something? Yea maybe that wore off or they found a bigger sucker but the one who is gone doesn't get to be a myrter and neither do you. Figure out what you need help and recruit , recruit, recruit and be willing to do your share in return. FYI keep it plutonic or your resource pool will dry up faster than a California reservoir.

Who ever brought up and said "allow natural consequences" step forward and take a bow. I fall at your feet in admiration. Why ? Because it works and the on duty parent should never feel guilty for using GOOD PARENTING technique. And about the time your kids out grow pampers it should start being deployed but BETTER LATE THAN NEVER. Now I am not talking about waltzing your kid off a cliff here but kids are smart and they catch on fast. If they know they have to pay their favorite outfits out of Duty parent's Found on the floor bag or go to school with no socks or in their pajamas they may pretend they don't care but I assure you when their friends make fun of them they will. So will having to pay mileage when you have to double back to get the "left behinds".

A much better "grounding zone' is the bathroom. It has the essentials but is very boring. Let them spend a few hours sleeping in the tub or washing the cruddy dishes you find with their toothbrush and they are way more likely to eat in the dining room where they should be eating with you on a daily basis.

Boo hoo you miss the absent spouse; better you miss them than miss what is going on in your kid's lives. It will get to be the new normal fast if you give it a chance. Might take a while if you have offered another option but be a force of nature. Kids won't starve. They may sit at the table and pout a meal or two but eat and clear the table and let them miss what you served until the next meal they will be the first one to the table.

One thing about food and actually eating together it seems to loosen up lips. Use your ears and mouth proportionally and if it kills you stop talking and chew your food a hundred times to give them time to get a word in edgewise. Especially if you are smart enough to have a few of their friends around for meal times. Yea your grocery bill might look like the national debt with boys but hey it is a LOT cheaper than bail. It is amazing how co-operative another parent is going to be if you occasionally give them a break.

This does not have to mean bedlam. House rules posted and punishing your kids for letting friends break them is a great step towards giving them a much needed life skill when they get in the real world. Company is only company the first time. You tell the kids to clear their plates and do the dishes you have a better shot at not being exhausted. Even better if you teach them to cook and sometimes you do the dishes. Kids have a sense of fairness and you can learn a lot over a dishpan about what is really on your kids mind. Why I was real serious about giving my kids their night for this one on one time.

But yea I used to tell mine I would rip their arms off and beat them with the bloody stubs. Raised a few eyebrows but they knew they were skateing close to the edge and it was their one and ONLY warning. No need to repeat yourself with kids. Tey have selective hearing only if you allow it.