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.... do your kids ever make you so crazy!!!... that you just want to lock them in their rooms... and throw away the key..lol... but then you realize... they have everything they love in their room..... locking them in there... is more of a reward than a punishment...lol....... sometimes... and god knows I would never do this....
. but I would just like to slap my kids..... just hard enough to wake them up...lol..... you know when they leave their dirty dishes... in their room... .. and you have to remind them to bring them into the kitchen...lol... . or when they leave something at someones house.... I don't know like through phone...lol... or school backpack..... I'm like.... HELLO HOW CAN YOU FORGET THIS STUFF...... .. they're like.... I DUNNO... I JUST DID... at that moment...... for a split second... WHAM OH... RIGHT ACROSS THE SIDE OF THE HEAD.... just hard enough to ring there bell...lol.... .. of course I would never do this.... BUT SOMETIMES...grrrrr . |
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Edited by
SparklingCrystal 💖💎
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Tue 05/12/15 02:27 PM
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Yup, been there ... glad that's over, haha.
The worst thing is... you got to remind YOURSELF to remind THEM to get their chit out of their rooms. I'm a scatterbrain myself, so I always forgot I had to remind them. I needed someone to remind me LOL The stacks of bowls, plates, cutlery my boy used to collect! You'd think it was the new trend ... crockery with dried up oats and cereals on 'em .. Even the dishwasher would choke on that chit! My advice: get a countdown calender on the wall, and cross of a day at the time till their 21st birthday when you can kick them out of the house without feeling too guilty... Or ... pray they get a girlfriend quite early on ... that usually helps too. Either they suddenly want a clean room, or the girl takes care of it 
But ... apart from all that: Once they have left the home, you have forgotten about all that stuff... You will occasionally laugh about it, miss it even. May sound unreal, but trust me ... it's true! . . |
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nothing for nothing but are you out of your mind..lol.. the last thing these boys need is a girlfriend... if they can't remember to bring up their dishes.... there never going to remember to wear a condom...
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I never had kids..so I still like them.
And tend to take their part. You mean Daddy!!!! |
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nothing for nothing but are you out of your mind..lol.. the last thing these boys need is a girlfriend... if they can't remember to bring up their dishes.... there never going to remember to wear a condom... .....lol
Oh yeah, that worry .... pffffff... Crap, I had forgotten about that (Thank God for that!!) I remember when my girl was 15, lots of her friends in school got pregnant ... and she was fascinated by it... at the time her boyfriend was my ex's son and I so did NOT like that kid... nor the idea of my baby getting a baby when she was still a baby basically. Phew, the headaches that stuff gives ya! I take the dirty plates any day! |
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Edited by
TMommy
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Tue 05/12/15 02:40 PM
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put that foot down about the dirty dishes in room
" there will no longer be any dishes allowed in the rooms until the dirty ones are taken care of" " I will no longer be doing laundry since you cannot seem to take care of your dirty clothes" allow the natural consequences to occur..if they are too absent minded to remember to bring home their backpack from a friends house then they will not complete their homework that night and go to school next morning without it if they cannot take care of their phone? stop paying for it |
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Have a rule no eating or drinking in the bedroom. We did, it was a good rule.
Hang in there Dad, you are doing a great job. |
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Awww.. Thanks....soooo.. I guess I can't just hit them just a little bit...lol..
. just a quick slap..lol . I tried that rule....lol.... boys no food or drinks in your room.. I just put new carpet in your rooms.. I don't want a... Ohhh.. DAD... TOO LATE... GRRRRRRRR... .... besides since the separation... .... it is just..... easier I suppose.. . to let them eat.. in their rooms.. . sitting at the dining room table.. Hmmm..... just the three of us........ .. just not the same... 
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you have shared custody or full custody?
you cannot always be the good parent ya know it is up to you of course but by allowing this you are allowing the behavior to continue because it is easier to turn other cheek |
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.. first..mmmm... can you say! turn the other cheek.. really slowly one more time for me...mmmmm..
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they are with me full time.....  ..lol..... and I allow it..... for my own sanity..lol.... they have their TVs.. and Xboxes... in their own rooms....
.... don't get me wrong we have meals together..... but on average.... okay we are guys....lol... food and TVs... .. do I need to say more..lol |
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Awww.. Thanks....soooo.. I guess I can't just hit them just a little bit...lol.. . just a quick slap..lol . I tried that rule....lol.... boys no food or drinks in your room.. I just put new carpet in your rooms.. I don't want a... Ohhh.. DAD... TOO LATE... GRRRRRRRR... .... besides since the separation... .... it is just..... easier I suppose.. . to let them eat.. in their rooms.. . sitting at the dining room table.. Hmmm..... just the three of us........ .. just not the same...
Holy crap, Tall One ... what a shame you let that happen! It's SO important to maintain some sense of family and togetherness, esp. after the other parent has left. Sure it is weird and awkward at first, but you gotta build a new sense of family with what's (who's) left. Problem is that without that, you end up being nothing more than the janitor, cleaner, provider, the guy that whinges and wines etc. From my experience, it tends to kill the very last shred of respect for the parent they live with as well ... I came very close to that with my kids, but thank god we still did dinner together, downstairs. That way you can still share a bit of 'family', hear what the kids are up to (and when you don't judge or interfere, they will tell all the bad stuff too! Which is great, cos then you'll know what they're busy with. You can't stop them anyways, but when you're informed, you can guide them) I have learnt that it's very difficult to turn back such habits, esp if they gotten used to gaming etc. You run your own comp, put your freakin foot down! |
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.. well first off... you forgot to mention wallet...lol
.. no its not that bleak...lol.... ... we spend time doing other things together..... like me yelling at them to clean up their rooms....lol... . are asking them to go cut the grass...lmao...... but seriously.. we are as thick as thieves...we 3..ok 4.. with milo.lol....... I usually come home around 3: 30..... and give them an after school snack...... then I go back to work..... then I come home... we hang out in the kitchen.. and talk while I make supper.... sometimes they even help....lol.... and then everybody disappeared to. their cell rooms...lol..jk.. |
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I never had kids..so I still like them. And tend to take their part. You mean Daddy!!!! I will box them up and send them right to you...lol..... |
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I know you come in here to blow off steam and de-stress
and talk naughty on occasion to other adults but just gotta say I think it's fantastic that you are the one with full custody raising your kids every day 
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my child is 4 legged and covered in fur , i could lock her in a cage and get away with it , if i wanted to
but she knows she has me wrapped around her paw |
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.. well first off... you forgot to mention wallet...lol .. no its not that bleak...lol.... ... we spend time doing other things together..... like me yelling at them to clean up their rooms....lol... . are asking them to go cut the grass...lmao...... but seriously.. we are as thick as thieves...we 3..ok 4.. with milo.lol....... I usually come home around 3: 30..... and give them an after school snack...... then I go back to work..... then I come home... we hang out in the kitchen.. and talk while I make supper.... sometimes they even help....lol.... and then everybody disappeared to. their cell rooms...lol..jk.. The wallet, yeah, haha. And I know you're a great dad... parenting on your own through teenage years is just bloody hard. But then ... it can be worse ... if I tell you some stories about what I've experienced with stepchildren ... esp if one stepchild ends up having a relationship with your own child. Hell on earth does exist! If you'd know the ins and outs ... you'd thank god on your knees you only got to deal with your own two rascals, haha. I am so never ever going to do the still-at-home stepchildren again! f***, I should sell the rights to those stories, make a bleedin fortune! May the thought it CAN be worse, help you through the next let's say 8 years or so
Else look in the mirror every day and think ... I still got me wide shoulders, my ***, my legs, my wit and my charm. I can handle this chit! And if all else fails ... it's Myth busters' C4 
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well to be honest... it's not all that hard with boys....
.. what is hard... and don't even go there crystal...lol.. . is... ok you women know! that you do all those extra things... my ex did.... a lot of the after school. activities with the boys.. like soccer Taekwondo.... she would . sign them up for all kinds of things..... not only that.. but she would help with their homework.... hell..pretty much do all the things that I never did.... . I mean most days I come home from work.... I can barely move..... and then there was always.. the revenue properties to look after..... ... she was and is a very successful lawyer..... but that's more mentally tiring than physically....... and I know you women..lol.. are going to take issue with that...lmao... .. but my point is.... without her.. a lot of the things the boys used to enjoy... well they no longer get to do... .. so as you can tell guilt plays a big part in my life....lol.... . . |
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.... do your kids ever make you so crazy!!!... that you just want to lock them in their rooms... and throw away the key..lol... but then you realize... they have everything they love in their room..... locking them in there... is more of a reward than a punishment...lol....... sometimes... and god knows I would never do this.... . but I would just like to slap my kids..... just hard enough to wake them up...lol..... you know when they leave their dirty dishes... in their room... .. and you have to remind them to bring them into the kitchen...lol... . or when they leave something at someones house.... I don't know like through phone...lol... or school backpack..... I'm like.... HELLO HOW CAN YOU FORGET THIS STUFF...... .. they're like.... I DUNNO... I JUST DID... at that moment...... for a split second... WHAM OH... RIGHT ACROSS THE SIDE OF THE HEAD.... just hard enough to ring there bell...lol.... .. of course I would never do this.... BUT SOMETIMES...grrrrr I'm not a Dr Phil fan..,but,he does have great books on parenting, in particular ' tough love'. IMO- & his  YOU are the parent, you are the provider, you set the rules & behavior.
Everything in their room, is yours. Take it back. Remove the PERSONAL HAVEN. Let them have ONLY their needs meet. And MAKE them eat at the table in a civilized, family way. Set the tone, how YOU want it & for THEIR future. What you have given them, should be earned. Too often parents give, because they want their children to have MORE than than they did. Or it is given out of GUILT. Too many people / & children, now have "entitlement thinking". What you have given them was NOT owed because you brought them into this world. What you have given them is unearned privileges & rights over YOU & FAMILY rules. Make them meet the 'family contract'. Make them RESPECT you & APPRECIATE what they have.... from YOU. * Dramatic Music*  |
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well to be honest... it's not all that hard with boys.... .. what is hard... and don't even go there crystal...lol.. . is... ok you women know! that you do all those extra things... my ex did.... a lot of the after school. activities with the boys.. like soccer Taekwondo.... she would . sign them up for all kinds of things..... not only that.. but she would help with their homework.... hell..pretty much do all the things that I never did.... . I mean most days I come home from work.... I can barely move..... and then there was always.. the revenue properties to look after..... ... she was and is a very successful lawyer..... but that's more mentally tiring than physically....... and I know you women..lol.. are going to take issue with that...lmao... .. but my point is.... without her.. a lot of the things the boys used to enjoy... well they no longer get to do... .. so as you can tell guilt plays a big part in my life....lol.... . . It's my birthday, I do wanna go there! 
Guilt ... can be hard to deal with, but you're being to hard on yourself... (dang, can't get away from this hard business... lol) You cannot expect yourself to be two parents. And I'm quite sure your boys are smart enough to understand that too. Try not to beat yourself up over it ( oh god, is that sexual slang as well? Must admit I ain't sure, lol) You're there for your kids when it matters, and ... that's what matters and that's what they'll remember! You can't keep your kids from getting hurt, not from this kind of stuff either. Part of life ... And I'm sure you know all that ... Maybe it's time you and PhD had a good talk, time for you to tell him he's a wonderful father who loves his kids to death (apart from when he wants to smack them 'round the face  ) and that he's gotta learn to let go a bit!
And tell him his kids are kinda old enough to (want to) go to things on their own, not while holding mommy or daddy's hand. And tell him he's gotta stop fussing over things that are out of his control. After that man to man talk, you should smack him in the face. Real hard. And if he's stubborn, you deck him, lol. Keep repeating that till he listens. It may take some time though, but persevere! You're doing great, J! So stop this chit!
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well to be honest... my eldest came and worked for me.. for two weeks in the summer last year.. because he wanted to buy.. a smaller monitor.. with if I understand this correctly.. a faster refresh rate..lol.... and some equipment so he could post on YouTube..... I was like..
Omg.... I just put... A 50 inch flat screen TV in your room...... now you're telling me you want to go smaller....... Im.. not paying for this.... . so he came and worked for me...lol... and yes I get the irony....lol.... so he does know what it is like to earn his own things....... and I do threaten to take things out of the room.s.... but then I say to myself... you know what they are pretty good boys..... they get good grades... they stay out of trouble..... and for the most part they make good choices...... ... so I do not come down on them too hard....... oh believe me they know what the belt is....lol..... although I never really use it on them....... I just threaten them with it....lol..... go get my belt you little bastards...grrrrr... |
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