You've dated this really nice person a couple of times and he/she invites you home. Not for sex, mind you, let's say for coffee in the afternoon.

- Do you care about what his/her home looks like, inside and out?
Do you look at the state / type of furniture, what kind of books are in the bookshelf, how clean it is?

- Or couldn't you care less, you simply focus on him / her?

- Could something turn you off, and if so, what would do the trick?

I do all of the above, look at the state of furniture, what things he has in his home, the hygiene of esp the bog and the kitchen.
Someone's home can tell you a lot about a person. If his hygiene is very poor, his personal hygiene is likely to be poor as well, yuk!

I can't help but look at stupid small things, like dust on the plinth in the bog, lol, whether or not taps are clean etc.

Even online I look at what's around a guy in the picture. The type of furniture etc.


I have noticed different reactions from men when they come in my home. Some wander around, looking at my paintings, crystals, asking questions about them.
Had one that was completely absorbed by one of my cats, didn't even notice my presence anymore.

I just wonder if men care whether a woman's home is tidy and clean or not. Do you even notice if it's not?

Oh yeah.most definitely,a roach may walk up to me and ask,what am i doing there, ,dirty house ya know what I mean?And you can tell if she keeps it that way,what type company she may have there also can say alot!

I think it would be unavoidable to not notice things that might influence me if i was thinking long term. Obvious things like cleanliness would become an issue if it was that bad. But if i liked her a lot,i would hope it would be something to work on.As for choice of books on shelves etc,as long as they weren't tutorials on bomb making or how to get rid of your partners body ,i would just be happy that she was literate and enjoyed reading as i do...

Then there's going to a smell soon as you hit the door,that alone,can be a deal breaker,good or bad!!

that happened to me walked into guys house and the smell knocked me backwards.i said oh sorry just remembered I have to meet my friend and bolted

LMFAO

I was off faster than an Ethiopian chicken trust me

gawd can still smell it now pooeeee.it was bad.

I would have bolted as well, dirty houses make me feel dirty. eeew

argh just remember another guy from st.helens.went to his house and it was wall to wall floor to floor covered in various motorbike parts ladders papers and old furniture.again I didn't stay long.couldnt even make a path thru to the other rooms.

Yonks ago I read or heard somewhere that when you have a look at someone's bookshelf, you know what type of person you're dealing with. I thought about that, and decided it is true. If someone had a look at mine, they'd know what I am about.
My Tarot, Lenormand cards and other oracle cards are in there as well And some crystal skulls, that might suffice to scare some off


Also this dating guru mentioned it as a tip to notice toxic men: If he has fancy magazines on his coffee table that look impressive, but when you look closely, they've never ever been opened.

True,but as long as the subject matter on the bookshelf wasn't offensive,or went against the grain of everything i believe in,i think i would be okay.But we don't really know until we are there do we ?
Also,having to wipe my feet on the doormat on the way out of a house is a bad sign

am having nightmares now remembering all the dates that apply to this thread geez lmaoo,ok this one didn't go to his house but friend set me up on blind date.the guy was gorgeous smiled mouth closed when we met.(bear with me this bits important mouth closed smile lol). we went to a pub sat down him opposite me at the table then he started chatting and smiled mouth open.i was hit by a wave of the baddest breath ever and his teeth had a yellow fur coat on I said am just going to the toilet and ran out the back door of the pub and jumped the first bus that appeared lmaoo

you've took me back to the days when I did dental nursing. oh geeeez, the sites, and the smell. excuse me, im about to chuck up lol

blimey this is bringin back not good memories lmao.i detest dirty hygiene and dirty homes

ha ha I know. im the same as you. old fashioned furniture puts me off to, get with the times lol

Most Virgos are clean freaks!

pmsl my living room original 60s furniture am a retro freak.gawd am thinkin of other bad dates houses now