A lady friend of mine did something very dumb a few months back. She just came off
of a relationship with a man that she had been with for almost a year. She loved him.
But in a fit of stupidity and anger, kicked him out. Turned around three weeks later
and married another man that she had been friends with for seven years.
Now, She wants back with the man that she kicked out about five months ago. Now, as
they say, "Hind site is 20/20." She can't seem to let go of the guy she kicked out.
She says she is so sorry for doing what she did to him. But the guy she married will
not let her go. He won't because of his religious beliefs. She has told him to his
face that she doesn't love him like she does the other. She wants to be with the other.
She told him she wouldn't have sex with him. She doesn't let him touch her. She doesn't
even let him kiss her.

But here is the real kicker. She sees the other guy as much as she can. For any reason
she can find. She has got caught making out with the other guy. And even told the guy
she was married to how close she came to having sex with the other guy. She wanted to
really bad. The guy she married, She does anything she can think of to try to run him off.
She's mean to him in all forms and fashions.
She has told him to his face that she thinks he is weak. And he still will not leave.
He knows that she doesn't really love him the right way. He knows her heart really belongs
to the other guy. So far, with the other guy, she hasn't had sex with him. But with the
guy she married not willing to let her go, It's only a matter of time till she cheats all
the way.
Why would a man take this crap?".

maybe he has faith and hope that she will change and will love and be more accepting of him.

Oh my gosh that's so mean. I can understand where the husband is coming from. He wants to fight for his marriage.
I hate divorce but there are somethings you need to let go. She doesn't want to be there. Why doesn't she apply for it? Why is she still there when she can move out?

No self esteem.

What a ridiculous situation. I have no sympathy for the bunch,
sounds like they deserve each other. :/

was this a Vegas drive thru wedding?

holds his spoon high up in the air..lmao

Some properly DUUuuum People.
HE is dum for living a life guided by religion, and denying himself the Woman he deserves, not this C-caroussel Whore

SHE is the C-caroussel Whore who is out of her frickin Mind, ruining two men's lifes

and the other Guy better wear double condoms and get snipped.
His offspring with that Lay-deee will probably be just as nuts as she is, if an accident were to happen.
He is the dude playing russian roulette.

Dumb. All 3 of them.
Does this take place in the southern Part of the US of A?

Who's name is the house in?

Is meth involved in any way, shape, form, or fashion?
Seriously OP, congrats on the patience, I would have told all involved to leave me out of all that drama.

Kick the drama addicts & drug addicts to the curb. It's their crap,not yours.

Suspicions why he is taking the crap?
1) He is after her money
2) She was after his money, but found out he doesn't have the money
3) He used potion#99, and it wore off
4) He knows Guy#1 is a brute..... and not going to let her go back to hell!
5) He loves her......!

To tell the truth, I've known her for a good while. She has always been very sensible and level-headed. As a matter of fact, a very smart woman. This just came out of the blue. She has never done anything like this before.

From the best I can understand, She lost sight of her feelings for the other guy. I don't know, Just went nuts all at once. And the guy she married, He seems sorta stupid to me. Most men know, (At least I hope they do) to leave a woman alone for a little while after she breaks up with a man that she loves. I've never wanted to be "Mr Rebound" myself. So I always knew better. But, Within a couple of weeks he was all over her like a fly to poop.

When she asked me what I thought, I told her to wait. This is crazy. She wouldn't listen. Now she is miserable. She gets nothing from this guy. The other guy was really good her. Paid attention to her. Tried to give her what she needed from a man. He was always there. He had his short comings. So does everybody. But he was good to her. She said that every night for the year they were together he would cuddle up with her and talk to her. He gave her understanding.

The guy she is with now, Every night, He just rolls over and goes to sleep. Doesn't talk to her or come close to spending the kind of time with her the other guy did. Now she wants the other one back. But can't get free. She can't afford it. "Lots of bills to pay" Now she is backed into a corner that he will not let her out of. And he has the money from what I'm told.

I don't understand it myself. If a woman told me that she loved another man better than me, that she missed the other man and wanted him back, Who am I to stand in the way? I would tell her to go for it. I wouldn't hang in that.

As far as religious beliefs go, I don't think God will hold against a man for getting out of a mistake of a marriage.

I have put up with alot more before and during marriage while I served in the Marines then Army. Seems like all my ex cared about was being spoiled. I didnt have an opinion at all, so I given up.im starting to see alot of women like to hurt or be hurt to be happy. I dont think I'll ever get married again

He must have had his good qualities for her to want to marry him, whether on rebound or not. And whether it is for religious or his personal reasons, he sounds like he is 'smitten' and 'really in love with her' to stand this crap.

Whatever the reasons she had when she kicked Guy#1 out, it could recur.
Whatever the reasons she had to marrying Guy#2, it existed and is probably still there.

Whether you call it stupid or not, since Guy#2 is still hoping for the best, maybe, ask your lady friend to give it another go? Tell Guy#2 what she likes to do, how she likes to be treated, TALK! If it still doesn't work, then.... she still need to TALK and resolve the matter.

Anyway, just my opinion based on what you related

Don't look for rationale, where there is none. You will only hurt yourself.
It's their drama/ craziness/ dysfunction.. not yours..

OP your lady friend is a S l u t

Aw......come on! I'm sure Charles cares very much for this lady friend of his, and needs to keep an eye on her in case something more unpleasant happens. I would like to think I have a friend like him in times of my need.... when I am being stupid!

Moreover I suspect he is in the picture somewhere #1 or #2 or #3

Aw.. come on!
I have no doubt Charles cares. And in my opinion... Cares too much.
* my advice was for HIS sake*

You could post to some MEN that object to his involment