hey, i've been single now for like 4 months, but i just got out of a really long relationship, so im dyeing to find someone again. i've recently gone out with 5 guys... ALL of them just wanted it to be a one-night-stand, and that's it... i really need help with this one...

am i not good enough for a real relationship? i and many other people consiter me atleast half-way decent... so why do i only attract the men that make me wanna pop every single man on the planet's little head off? am i doing it wrong or somthing? all my friends are ether married, gay, or in a nice relationship...

can anyone help me?

~Brok-en~

well i think u ar fine and any guy that doesn't want to be in a relationship with u need their heads examined

I suspect beause you aren't done with the old relationship yet. Haven't finished doing the work, sorting, and shifting, processing, and owning responsibility...

Take a break from dating, perhaps..

Five months is no biggy, and at 19, it's not like you are running out of time, (whatever that means)...chill out, learn you, be your own date, and develop a great relationship with you...discover more about you..

Learn to be independent, not co-dependent.

ur beautiful and any guy who cant see that is blind

close your legs!!

A guy cant have a one night stand if you don't open the legs!!!

uh oh muriel is being terrible now

Fabulous advice Jess!!

hey,
i totally understand what you're saying. when you break up with someone, it sucks and there are a LOT of times when you feel just really lonely and insecure and messed up..believe me I've struggled with this a lot. but that does not mean you aren't good enough. it just means you haven't found the right person...and in all honestly, you shouldn't try so hard to look for him. have you considered that maybe the reason why you're ending up with this ass-hats may be because you're trying to hard to find anything that could be love? it just doesn't happen that way. it's got to be right for both people...right in a really cool, very real way.
i know it sounds like a copout...but take it from someone who's been there. wait it out. get to be comfortable just being yourself, be comfortable living and relating to yourself. people in general, not just guys, like a person who's okay with who they are, and don't need to be with someone to be happy. once you're happy with you...then you're going to have all of you to offer to that one lucky guy who's going to cherish it.
whew...so yea, that's REALLY cheesy...but I swear to God it's true.
hope this helped ;)

It's ok. You have all the time in the world. Try being 35 and not good enough. Tons of fun!!!

I am sorry to hear about your breakup though.

nothings wrong with you...face it guys are complete jerks! well most of them anyway. it is rare to find a decent guy now these days who doesn't want girls for their body or for sex or whatever else is perverted. i know cause i have had a lot of my online friends whom are practicaly all girls tell me that all the time. but don't worry, what people tell me i will tell you...you WILL find that perfect one someday who loves you for you and nothing else someday. it may be a couple years, a couple months, maybe even a couple weeks. you don't know. but don't give up cause you think you're not good enough for anyone cause it's really the other way around - they aren't good enough for you!

and i have been single for 3 years i've been looking for my girl ever since but i have yet to find her....

~you find many loves in your life, but you only find true love once...don't let it pass you by~

I think you need time to heal from the past relationship. Who says that when one relationship fails we have to automatically jump into another one? You need time to be alone and to get to know yourself.
I think if younger people would learn to WANT someone instead of NEEDING someone...they would be so much happier. All that takes is time to get to know yourself and to become independent.
I am sorry about your break-up and I do wish you lots of time for healing

huh...
well i just read your profile. and you're attractive, as your pictures do attest quite obviously. So i wouldn't worry about it too much at all.

you know? i only came on this site this week. I ended up getting involved in the forums, as I noticed that there were some interesting topics and I was able to crack jokes and be rediculious and maybe you should try that?

i dunno, other than it seemed to work for me. I've also met someone on this system which is a surprise as i'm not prone to online anything to be honest...

so, as you're younger, more attractive, and a woman (which is always better than being a guy on these systems) I think you have nothing to worry about :)

so keep smiling, soon you'll have more guys wanting you than you know what to do with!

sexisassy,i was just recently in a 10 year relationship.
and am out of it now.Lonliness is a hard thing to deal with.
I try to stay positive and hope the right one comes along that will fullfill all desires.

hope this helps.

You are young and should be enjoying life and dating. You are not going to miss out on anything in the dating world if you are not committed to someone. One day you will look back and you wished you have explored more in this field. There’s plenty time in the future to settle down with someone. Enjoy your freedom and being a young adult.

As some of the others have said your young enjoy life for a while. 5 months Shssssssssh try 16 years lol then come back and complain. lmao

But no serious take you time we dont have to alway have someone take the time and look at your life and what you want to do in the future. Set goals be happy the rest will fall into place.

As the old old saying goes "anything worth having is worth waiting for". I realize, you want to skip the preliminaries and be in the thick, of a loving relationship, but it does not work like that! Make friends and you choose!So listen to all of the great advice here and take your time.

Just be yourself, keep smilein, and be patient. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Actually, if thats you in the pic, your very cute. Get to know a guy before you go anywhere with him, and don't under any circumstances have sex with anyone you don't think you love and visa versa. The relationship your looking for is going to require at least 4 things to be sucessful, love, respect, trust, and honesty, and it takes a while to find and verify these. Just be careful and take your time. If a man really cares about you, he will wait quite a while before he tries to be intimate with you. It's really promising if he hangs in there attentively, yet waits totally for you to give him the sign that your ready to advance to the next level. Please be patient, it will happen.

to begin with, look at your name, sexy ass? its an add! girl, you have to have self-respect. cop an attitude because, you know what? you are special and you are damned well worth being treated as such!! make them the lucky one! lol