There is a huge shortage of available men who have the emotional skills, desire and financial stability for a successful and monogamous relationship. Ok now you can resume fighting over the men.

Well I certainly wish they would fight over me. Then again, no. I just need the one.

I have seen no shortage.
All I see is picayune peeps
who seek the impossible.

Estelle some people won't agree with me but that's fine.
I actually do feel a little sorry for you and I don't mean that to sound condescending either.
It seems obvious to me that someone has hurt you badly but you can't live your life in a cocoon of spite.
Get some professional help before you meet the one who may be the greatest guy in the world. Otherwise you will turn him away.

And I 150% agree with Joe. If you get bitter, bitting around, you won�t help yourself and you won�t prove anything to anyone. I�ve seen it already in someone and it scares me. Because of you. You�ll just be more alone because you�ll pour cold water on people who might be your friends. And that will prove only to YOU that the whole world is against you, although it isn�t. And there are so many good and honest men out there who don�t deserve to be treated and seen in a way you see them. I�m sorry, I am a woman and I�ll never agree with you.

.. Ohhh..(((Lucy))
. I think use not looking hard enough..
..
I.know!. back to my corner.

Kleenex corner

I agree with Joe. Posts like this that come across as bitter make you less attractive to the type of man you say you want. We are out there, but when jilted women with unresolved issues either ignore us or assume that we are just like the last guy, we don't waste our time. We move on to someone who won't let their past pain interfere with their future happiness.

sure Kleenex corner...
No1 has to wipe his eyes of tears...
laughing tears

The people who tell you to seek professional help are probably some who do not understand that this is a matter of character and sometimes you might be a very good person and to have never meet good people and trusted only the wrong who wouldn't help you even for the easiest thing and they would even mislead you to destroy your life. I live in a very scare country where friends kill their 13 years old friends or dads rape their daughters. You just talk like addicts who unfortunately do whatever they like and are happy in the end while good people are destroyed by them. Sad!

luckily. ..I got one..safe and covered. .lol

lucky you, really!

Drugs could be involved...I can't see them across the screen and they don't ask that in the profile. I will say however that I don't do drugs, as in illegal drugs, or marijuana (which is legal sometimes). I think people who do drugs tend not to like me much...so who knows.

There is a lot to be said about your opinions... or are they statements of facts?

This statement happens to be a fact (just the part about financially stable rules out so many guys and women outnumber men anyway), most women are going to have to settle or be alone. And we shouldn't even be so hard on ourselves, it's not our fault.

Based on my experience, women who say they want what you say you're looking for only want that if the guy is also over 6 feet tall, has at least a master's degree, earns no less than $250,000 a year, can bench press 300 pounds, and is between 25 and 32 years old, and has certain political views. Women often have unrealistic expectations, and if every single trait isn't there, she's "settling."

I can admire the assertiveness and tenacity that you exhibit in voicing out your desire for justice and equality, I can also understand that the constant search for another's accountability for one's present situation may not the right way to achieve that.

It's just that in a number of your posts, it seem like you want to promote a degree of certainty or absolutism in the statements that you release.

Life doesn't work that way. No one and nothing is like that. And the most painful and frustrating part of it is when we keep expecting it/him/her to be.

Your posts and topics seem to hinge a lot on looking for supporters to validate your statements...or maybe just to rile up the general male population of mingle...

I dunno, it's just something I noticed...I might be wrong...

Anyway, back to your topic...
Even if the absolute ratio of females outnumber males, I hardly believe that the proportion of positive traits vs negative traits between the sexes follow that ratio the same way quantitatively and qualitatively.

Due to the absolute ratio, there may be a relatively larger number of women who have decided to be alone compared to men, but then again, there is also that larger tendency hence, population of women who commune with each other in the absence of men, compared to men who commune with each other in the absence of women. But either ways, both genders do settle for what they have intrinsically and externally and make the most out of it.

Therefore, everyone wants to be not so hard on oneself, and wants others not to be hard on them either, but ironically, we sometimes tend to be harder on others.

Fault finding is a subjective matter. To look for it from an outside source means to expect someone to own up to our personal situation. To hold oneself accountable is to own up and take full responsibility and control for our lives, regardless the situation. The most important part is to be able to go beyond the fault and move forward and find contentment.

I don't know why we need to fight over men. Seems a futile endeavor...Tho, I think there are a couple of them on here wouldn't mind having ladies mud wrestle over them...

^^^so very true Pansy.

Estelle, why don't you make threads that SAY facts, such as what YOU yourself can not find and not validate. Your threads have been subjective.

Time to rethink your picky list.

To Maddog1974
The things you mentioned are what a Barbie doll would go for, not real women needs (and it is a little offensive the way women have been portrayed to be so shallow on TV). I think you don't understand that women still need a man for security in 2015. Still, if you look at the list there will need to be sacrifices made by women that shouldn't need to be made, just make sure of the things you won't put up with under any conditions, such as violence.

All I read was mud wrestling.