Have to agree...politics and religion are two topics that shouldn't be brought up at all on a first date. Personally, nothing good can come of it if they do get brought up unless the people have an open mind with those things...

Otherwise, nothing good can come of it and pretty much ruin any chance of things possibly progressing along down the road.

I’m open to anything the woman would like to talk about.

If we have strongly differnet views on politics and religion why not discover this in the early going?

I think it would be a terrible mistake to walk on eggshells for the purpose developing deeply emotional and/or physical bonds of intimacy.

What would be the point to that if the relationship is only headed for disaster later because of all the opinions that were suppressed to during the development of intimacy?

I have no interest in even starting down that road.

I’m not out just for physical intimacy. If the woman disagrees with me so profoundly on issues of politics and religion that we can’t even discuss them peacefully, then what’s the point in trying to become intimate with her unless my only goal is to get her in panties?

Nah.

I don’t want a relation that had to begin by avoiding discussions of our deepest convictions.

“Give me a compatible woman or let me masturbate” – Peter Henry

Well really I think those subjects should be dicussed on the phone before the date... That way if a person feels so strongly about the other persons beliefs or opinions and feel they can not see themselves dating them based on those facts. Then no money will be lost or no time will be wasted.

Politics and Religion are serious topics that can go deep and personal...these should be left unsaid until you two are well acquainted or until you have a feel of how the person may respond to those topics.

It all depends how they are brought up. To argue a point then hell no. If it is an issue as far as a relationship to establish what religion you are or were you vote then for some those could be very important issues. But to me that would be the only reasons which if your already talking prior most already have those things settled.


Myself sorry not gonna argue either point anytime I have my views and others have theres. They don't have to believe the same way I do just to be together each person should be allowed to have there own views in life.

Actually those are the two subjects I refuse to argue with anyone now if it is just a debut and can keep things light hearted it is up to the two involved myself. I stay away from those subjects lol

Not actually good subjects for a date. WEll unless now that is like part of there life.

I think they are two topics that should be left for a time when you know each other better. Not a first date.

Tongue kiss wrote:
"Well really I think those subjects should be dicussed on the phone before the date... That way if a person feels so strongly about the other persons beliefs or opinions and feel they can not see themselves dating them based on those facts. Then no money will be lost or no time will be wasted."

This is true.

I don't typically just rush out on a date with someone I haven't talked with first. So like you say, compatiblities in those areas would most likely have already been addressed before dating anyway. Especially if the people in question met on the Internet.

Hopefully a first date is just a relaxed get acquainted time. Make it a safe, calm atmosphere where you can talk, maybe have a small snack, move around some like a Mall, small museum, or maybe a tourist attraction or community fair). You actually see the other person (do they attract you and vice versa pictures are only a snapshot moment, and if the "like" factor isn't there in an hour or so face facts and move on. This is the time you learn a little history (Pluuuleeze no sexual histories or preferences or begging just where you grew up, maybe went to school, work, vacationed). Trying to see if they have a compatiable tempo (are you intense or easygoing; give a little grace to being nervous but if that doesn't wear off that person is going to wear out fast. First dates seem like the time to discover a few compatiable interests (foods, sports, recreation, career, family situations. This could be some basic markers like religious affiliations or political interests but not in depth conversations.) This keeps the predate conversations from feeling like a job interview and disqualifying you or them from half impressions. First dates are suppose to be introductions not preludes to matrimoney or looking for roommates or hotel rendevous. If a date tried to get really physical with me I would think they were really desperate or dangerous. A nice hug or light kiss that says see you again; maybe.

i say leave the religion and politics out unless it is really important to one of you as in a deal breaker, which I know religion occasionally is...as for the rest, you really need to go with the flow and just see...sometimes you jump right into the kissing and sometines you hold off....depends on the initial degree of attraction.

I dont think anything should be taboo. more of a comfort thing. I would love to get to know their beliefs and feelings on those matters but certinly wouldnt start on a specific issue and fight about it.

unfortuanatley most people dont like talking about politics or religion to poeple who dont agree with them, so if u know ur preaching 2 the choir go 4 it

First dates should be fun!
Politics and religion are two risky topics that could lead to somebody getting offended or in an argumentative mood. That's no fun.

I say that talking about sex is fine! There's nothing more awesome than dating a man who is comfortable enough with himself to talk about it in a casual manner without turning into a horndog. And believe me, girls have a lot to talk about when it comes to sex.

Stay away from the topic of past relationships UNLESS you have positive things to say about your ex's. It's OK to tell a nice little anecdotal story that shows that you have no regrets about it.

hemmorroids........lets not talk about them k???

toe jam. it is usually not a good idea to get into this topic. no idea why though...

my daddy always said never to talk politics & religion on any first meet.............. or are you a spitter or swallower

that problem diarrhea you have......

dont ask me about my "cycle" on a date.

YOUR HAIRY BUM PROBLEM!!!

In the right context, all is fair game I say. The whole reason you are having a first date is to find out how compatable you are and in the right circumstances, you should be able to talk about anything, just talk about it if your comfortable and go with your instincts

I think if the subject is raised on the first date, address it honestly. If that ends a chance to know the person more then so be it.

It is obvious this could be a touchy subject to the individual but part of getting to know a person is seeing their sensitive side too. If a person judge you from your understanding of their Q’s on any of the topics you mentioned, it is obvious that this person will always have an issue with that either it is now or later in the relationship.

A wise one will work through it because there’s more to politic or religious issues. You are both adults, should know what is important.