The question is-- how will you handle disappointments within your relationship?

I was in this situation awhile ago. I was never used to this kind of situation and i felt very disappointed not to him but to myself. The lackness ones ability to fulfill ones reques. I failed but God knows i tried my best.

Disappointment in yourself.....self reflection is a good thing. For your betterment as you strive for growth. Recognizing it is even better to put a goal into action. Did ya learn anything?

I think everyone on this site has been disappointed in themselves at one time or another. It is a very natural feeling for people who care about themselves and care about others. We push ourselves to excel.. in most everything. and that doesn't always happen.

But your words at the end of your post are the key.. you gave it your best.. and if you have done that than while you may have failed at a particular thing.. you have not failed as a person.

I believe that if you worry about failing, you will never take the chances in life.. and that it the ultimate failure.

If you can like the person that you see in the mirror everyday.. you are no failure.

Some of the smartest and most respected people in history.. failed many many..times.. but they pushed on.

I just learn to care less, then you don't get so disappointed.

I don't advise 'caring less'. I would advise dismissing expectations as often as possible. You'll naturally have expectations, but don't dwell on them. Life is much more fun that way.

Disappointments are a part of life...They help keep things in balance...They inspire us to do better, try harder...Imagine a world where everything is 'always' perfect...Talk about jaded....

I wouldn't advice caring less, nor trying harder.
Analyze what actually happened, which to me isn't clear.
- Did you try to please someone? If so, why?
- Did someone expect/demand you to do something that you couldn't do? If so, was it an valid request/demand? If not, why did it trigger you in trying to please him anyway? Why didn't you say "sorry .. but I don't feel right about that"?
- Did you feel you had to live up to someone's expectations? Work on your self-worth, learn to say "No". Find out why this is difficult for you. Because you don't have to live up to anyone's expectations!
That's why trying harder is not good advice. UNLESS you are trying to do something for yourself, like learning to bake a cake, or trying to learn the samba etc.

And so on and so forth ... analyze, learn & grow. And don't beat yourself up over it, STOP telling yourself you failed!

I think disappointments are good lessons... :
-being disappointed in the others teaches us how to be more realistic and without expectations
-being disappointed in ourselves teaches us how to be more humble and how to be simply what we are

Why do you think you have to fulfil other people's requirements?
I know that "love" is often misunderstood as trying to fit into someone perfect "picture" of a partner (and we have all more or less been there), but life's failures, losses, disappointments, pains try to teach us exactly the opposite: to actually find out and be who we trully are (in other words: to fit only God's "perfect picture" of us...)

They teach us to be humble So very true Tessa!

Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear!!!!

The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra!!! if you apply that to your relationship you will go far

A person has to have goals.

I was disappointed when my star ship landed on planet Earth. Does that count?

Disappointment is the result of us setting our expectations too high. I try not to expect much from others, as to avoid being disappointed, this include relationships.

Don't expect too much..

Goals and expectations are two different things. It's good to set your goals high, but keep them realistic.

For example, a 62 year old who only has a high school education and has worked in a factory his whole life should realize that becoming an astronaut just may not be in the cards for him.

Yup, keep it simple.

Ohhh.. I see.. you have been talking to my ex haven't you...

Thank you for the trip down DM 2 memory lane.

Really? Did you learn that from having too high of expectations and had to resort your evaluated goals into some action? or did just keep them low enough to keep your pants down all day at work?

Life can give you a lot of disappointments at times but its to learn from those disappoinments and turn it into something positive so that the disappointments remain a thing of the past