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Topic: When is a rebound, a rebound?
Rina74's photo
Wed 08/13/14 12:16 AM
A guy that is fresh out of a relationship, then a week later he starts dating another girl..supposedly so in love and looks like they gonna get married too, they have the rings and everything..just a month of dating, this is what he is doing now..why so quick? why jump from one relationship to a marriage? most people said its a rebound..but i thought a rebound is usually a casual fling to get over his ex, but this is too serious of a relationship to be a rebound..I even read somewhere, when a guy is too happy and too enthusiastic especially at the beginning, especially when he is fresh out of a relationship and if he wasnt the one to call it quits, which is exactly what happened, then the reason for being so happy so fast, is that he wants to make himself believe he is happy, and just trying to fill a void in his life, just doesnt wanna be alone..

mikey5360's photo
Wed 08/13/14 12:23 AM

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Wed 08/13/14 12:24 AM
The described situation sounds like a rebound relationship, that the guy is soon to regret if he goes through with the marriage.

Rina74's photo
Wed 08/13/14 12:29 AM






True..good way to put it..

Rina74's photo
Wed 08/13/14 12:31 AM

The described situation sounds like a rebound relationship, that the guy is soon to regret if he goes through with the marriage.


Yup, i agree..its way too fast and so rushed..oh and i forgot to mention, that she also just broke up her boyfriend too...so these 2 people are both on the rebound basically and they think the grass is greener on the other side..

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Wed 08/13/14 01:13 AM


The described situation sounds like a rebound relationship, that the guy is soon to regret if he goes through with the marriage.


Yup, i agree..its way too fast and so rushed..oh and i forgot to mention, that she also just broke up her boyfriend too...so these 2 people are both on the rebound basically and they think the grass is greener on the other side..
This is a situation where they say, "fools rush in." "Fools fall in love." this actually kinda makes me laugh and think dumbass.

Rina74's photo
Wed 08/13/14 01:46 AM


The described situation sounds like a rebound relationship, that the guy is soon to regret if he goes through with the marriage.


Yup, i agree..its way too fast and so rushed..oh and i forgot to mention, that she also just broke up her boyfriend too...so these 2 people are both on the rebound basically and they think the grass is greener on the other side..
This is a situation where they say, "fools rush in." "Fools fall in love." this actually kinda makes me laugh and think dumbass.

I know eh..after a break up, u should take time for yourself, not rush into a new relationship..It wont last, they wont even make it to the wedding..they both think they found gold, thats the problem..

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Wed 08/13/14 02:29 AM
"Fools Rush in" made a entertaining movie, but not if it happens to you in real life.

Some people cannot be alone and have to have a relationship at all times: sometimes more than one relationship at the time. They are what I call, "sad, needy people trying to fill a void in their lives."

JMO.

msharmony's photo
Wed 08/13/14 02:30 AM
there are no absolute rules, love can develop under many odd circumstances

that being said though, I believe it is IDEAL for a person to be able to love being on their own, to love their own company and their own self for a while, ,before they can truly love and appreciate someone else

some are just so uncomfortable being on their own, that they HAVE to be in some relationship constantly,,,,,I don't think its a healthy way to live,, but to each their own.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Wed 08/13/14 02:46 AM

there are no absolute rules, love can develop under many odd circumstances

that being said though, I believe it is IDEAL for a person to be able to love being on their own, to love their own company and their own self for a while, ,before they can truly love and appreciate someone else

some are just so uncomfortable being on their own, that they HAVE to be in some relationship constantly,,,,,I don't think its a healthy way to live,, but to each their own.

Totally agree with this
flowerforyou

Rina74's photo
Wed 08/13/14 10:18 AM

there are no absolute rules, love can develop under many odd circumstances

that being said though, I believe it is IDEAL for a person to be able to love being on their own, to love their own company and their own self for a while, ,before they can truly love and appreciate someone else

some are just so uncomfortable being on their own, that they HAVE to be in some relationship constantly,,,,,I don't think its a healthy way to live,, but to each their own.

Yes i agree..after a break up, u should be on our own for a while..

MariahsFantasy's photo
Wed 08/13/14 02:08 PM




This is a given for a man.

mikey5360's photo
Wed 08/13/14 02:36 PM





This is a given for a man.

sadly, true from my observations, some men are lost when faced with having to start over and are too eager to get back into a comfort zone again quickly.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Wed 08/13/14 02:38 PM






This is a given for a man.

sadly, true from my observations, some men are lost when faced with having to start over and are too eager to get back into a comfort zone again quickly.


the comfort zone is nsa and women do it too. some of us.

Rina74's photo
Wed 08/13/14 03:24 PM






This is a given for a man.

sadly, true from my observations, some men are lost when faced with having to start over and are too eager to get back into a comfort zone again quickly.


Yes true..

mikey5360's photo
Wed 08/13/14 04:06 PM
Three and a half years ago when my last relationship ended, was the first time in my life I had not rebounded within a 6 week period.

These last 3.5 years have been liberating and will make my next relationship all the more special. :smile:

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Wed 08/13/14 04:19 PM
A rebound is a rebound when the basketball bounces off the backboard, sometimes hitting the rim of the goal.

If I wish to date before the ink dries on the divorce, it's nobody's freakin business.

If I go nosing in my exs business and I find out she's getting hers, I might resent that.

It's best for me if I stay da f outta her business.

Busy bodies suck eggs.

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Wed 08/13/14 04:43 PM
Edited by RainbowTrout on Wed 08/13/14 04:44 PM
After my wife passed I remember I going through this. My mother who had two husbands passed on her said, "You poor thing. What will you do?" You are just like one of your sisters." The sister did okay but I wasn't as fortunate. Mom didn't get into another relationship but is still is okay with it because she is always spending time with one of her nine children or their offspring. Mom had nine kids so it really wasn't a big thing. You would think I would be compared to one of my brothers.laugh I can't sometimes really imagine just how smart my mother is. Mom really never has to worry about the other nine kids; Just that sister and me. And now just me since that sister is doing fine just me. But then she sees I am doing okay so she doesn't worry about me now, either. And I owe all that to my mother now. It sure took a while though. Yeah. Don't rush it; Nature doesn't really abhor a vacuum. It took a lot of friends helping out though; Not just mom. Mom was just someone I could turn safely to in the beginning.

Rina74's photo
Wed 08/13/14 04:58 PM

Three and a half years ago when my last relationship ended, was the first time in my life I had not rebounded within a 6 week period.

These last 3.5 years have been liberating and will make my next relationship all the more special. :smile:


Aaawww thats nice..and true too..

Rina74's photo
Wed 08/13/14 05:02 PM

After my wife passed I remember I going through this. My mother who had two husbands passed on her said, "You poor thing. What will you do?" You are just like one of your sisters." The sister did okay but I wasn't as fortunate. Mom didn't get into another relationship but is still is okay with it because she is always spending time with one of her nine children or their offspring. Mom had nine kids so it really wasn't a big thing. You would think I would be compared to one of my brothers.laugh I can't sometimes really imagine just how smart my mother is. Mom really never has to worry about the other nine kids; Just that sister and me. And now just me since that sister is doing fine just me. But then she sees I am doing okay so she doesn't worry about me now, either. And I owe all that to my mother now. It sure took a while though. Yeah. Don't rush it; Nature doesn't really abhor a vacuum. It took a lot of friends helping out though; Not just mom. Mom was just someone I could turn safely to in the beginning.


Poor u..ya time heals..and definately need family and friends for support to get u through a hard time, anything helps..but thats good your doing better now..

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