Eh....he is going for the world record for most marriages in a single lifetime.

After my wife passed I remember I going through this. My mother who had two husbands passed on her said, "You poor thing. What will you do?" You are just like one of your sisters." The sister did okay but I wasn't as fortunate. Mom didn't get into another relationship but is still is okay with it because she is always spending time with one of her nine children or their offspring. Mom had nine kids so it really wasn't a big thing. You would think I would be compared to one of my brothers. I can't sometimes really imagine just how smart my mother is. Mom really never has to worry about the other nine kids; Just that sister and me. And now just me since that sister is doing fine just me. But then she sees I am doing okay so she doesn't worry about me now, either. And I owe all that to my mother now. It sure took a while though. Yeah. Don't rush it; Nature doesn't really abhor a vacuum. It took a lot of friends helping out though; Not just mom. Mom was just someone I could turn safely to in the beginning.

Three and a half years ago when my last relationship ended, was the first time in my life I had not rebounded within a 6 week period.

These last 3.5 years have been liberating and will make my next relationship all the more special.

sadly, true from my observations, some men are lost when faced with having to start over and are too eager to get back into a comfort zone again quickly.

there are no absolute rules, love can develop under many odd circumstances

that being said though, I believe it is IDEAL for a person to be able to love being on their own, to love their own company and their own self for a while, ,before they can truly love and appreciate someone else

some are just so uncomfortable being on their own, that they HAVE to be in some relationship constantly,,,,,I don't think its a healthy way to live,, but to each their own.

The described situation sounds like a rebound relationship, that the guy is soon to regret if he goes through with the marriage.

The described situation sounds like a rebound relationship, that the guy is soon to regret if he goes through with the marriage.

Men are equally capable of jealousy .. Just manifests in a different way :-)

I had never got jealous of my ex because she had never gave me reason to distrust her. But later when I was infatuated with someone I was so jealous I couldn't help it.

As you grow older petty emotions matter less and less, if you trust your partner.....emotions like jealousy fade away with your insecurities.

For me I discovered that shrugging of jealousy freed my mind to focus on loving more.

That's good he didn't. The freedom to be yourself is always there. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean it's gone. Only you both know the reasons it fell apart.

I reckon the clubs in Canada look more like this

speaking on this scenario, you could have just as easily not gone dancing and chosen to spend the time with him. what we do with our freedoms is up to us...

being jealous doesn't show how much one cares, it shows how insecure one is.

when someone hands you the freedom to do the things you like and be yourself, how can you view that as anything but positive? trust is a rope, if it finds its way around your neck, it is not the other persons fault, it's yours.

But did you asked him about it? I wonder what he said....

And I agree with Mariah..

We're waiting.

Because some men have figured out that with a lot of women no matter what they do they will never "win."

I mean

Implied in all of this is that you bear no responsibility for choosing to go out dancing with another man every weekend.

Almost as though you are sitting there thinking "you know, if that a-hole was just more jealous and didn't give me as much freedom and trust as he did, then we would have had a better relationship, he caused the relationship to fail. Men have to be more controlling in their boundaries in telling me, dictating to me, what I am or am not allowed to do."

He could just as easily have started a forum asking "Why are women never considerate? I was dating a girl and she actually went out every weekend with my buddy to go dancing. I know there's nothing going on between them, I simply know and trust her and my buddy, but why does she take that for granted? Why do women only want people to see things from their perspective and what they want and never try to see it from others?"


Only if you are the type of person to do anything behind their back all while shirking the consequences and responsibility for your own behavior.
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He let me go out with his buddy..he was fine with it..and since i love dancing, i went..i was kinda testing him too, to see how far i can go or how often i can go out like that before he tells me something..if he would say something, then i would stop for sure..but since he didnt mind, so ya i took advantage of it..I just wished he cared more and rather i didnt go out often like that..thats when we started growing apart..i ended going out all the time, come and go as i please and it felt like we were living as roomates..but thats the past..i was just wondering why men in general dont worry or get protective when they should, makes the woman feel cared about..and im not talking about the crazy possessive jealousy, just the normal jealousy..

I think it will be better if you ask him, right?