As in all my subjects on mingles i ask your opinion based on my life present& future!! On this one i'm needing all my friends on here to Please Respond.
Here lately i'm going through a lot of bodily breakdowns and am starting to wonder about even a remote chance in finding a Woman or being able any future with me for an extended period of time? I will be 59 next month and the past relationships i've been in was not as i felt when Younger! Companionship was there but it seemed as if "True Love" had burnt away long ago! Have any of you Felt this in dating? Or is that i'm still guarding my future relationships from past letdowns with Women? Just asking? To me it seem that (Toleration) is the component that exists from Me and the Woman i'm dating not Love? Please respond as a friend, " If you have nothing nice to say, Don't say it"!! Its just a Concern of mine!!

Sending you a hug. You could be guarding yourself from past let downs I do that often. When the right one comes along he will slowly break down your guard.

I'm 60.
I don't feel that hot love teens feel when their testosterone is surging.

It is very possible to love the woman and her female companionship without all the teen lust desires.

I understand the body breaking down.

Pain, exhaustion, death is all a part of life.

It'd be nice not to have to do that trip alone.

Some of us will.

For all you older guys and gals out there.

Careful about hooking up with a much younger man.

Get sick and can't perform, they might kick ya to the curb for one that can.

A good question for us old timers! ...Your feelings are both subjective (mind) and relative (body)...Not only that, they influence each other in ways that can change your outlook...Everything is connected...If you are having physical problems that create chronic pain, your mind is going to be swept up in the negative energy that pain produces...It can manifest in many ways...Anger, sadness or depression, feelings of hopelessness...I know many peeps who find true love in their 50's, 60''s, all the way up if you will ...I have a friend here in Tennessee who was 77 when she met the love of her life and I know another couple who met when he was 86 and she was 90 ...They are so in love and lust, they still grope each other in public!... It's disgusting!!!...You are a vital man...Engaged in life, curious about people and places, fun and funny, smart...I think a lot of what you are feeling is due to the pain in your shoulder and maybe some unresolved history...Chin up and keep doing what you're doing, reaching out, communicating, trying...

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If u concentrate on the destination u may not c all that's around u during the journey.

Graywolf, you can just keep going thru the motions, or might just have to ask your significant other, "What is it that we have here?" If it doesn't feel loving and more of toleration as you put it, usually is a good time to discuss if you have more of a friendship as opposed to a relationship. Of course as it's been noted, I know you are also having a lot of pain with your shoulder. Unfortunately pain can bring negative thoughts, and may have to see how you heal to see if it could have been bringing negative thinking in the relationship. Wish you well, Gray.

Its not (pain) in my shoulder that is bothering me, i've been through worse in learning to walk again at 22 when my knees were operated on (that was a 6 month fight)! And i'm feeling more alive now since i liquidated all of my holdings,then moved in this School Bus recently! Its the part of the pain in my relationships that i don't feel when they go sour that really bothers me! Am i getting as immune to Love as i see in people of today? Or am i too guarded in my feelings to think its possible for any further relationships? As mentioned by a few in this topic(infidelity) that's not the problem with me Yet. On a breezy day i still point N.S.E.W and walk a straight line getting there(without the pill)! No its the Feelings that concern me in this topic that i'm really bothered about!! I've always talked to a Woman about what is bothering me before a sexual relationship evolves and listened to their future outlook as well! It just doesn't feel the same now anymore! If they aren't compatible for a mutual relationship then i don't feel the Pain in letting them go anymore! Is this being Hard Harted? If so then i think of what they feel in loosening again this late in life? Hurting anyone anymore is not an option for me,Then,Now or Forever!! Guess that's the Old Fashion in me showing? It just feels as everything that is involved in a healthy relationship is just ones Hopes is all (onesided)anymore!

. graywolf. may I view your profile please. it will help me respond to your topic.

Any Man sending me a flower has me concerned? No just kidding help yourself, i'm very secure in my sexual preference! And anyhow i can guess that many a man with this (stealth mode) on here has done that already!! (Perverts)

^^^ . ok now let me take my apron off! and I'll Go view your profile. ..

Don't forget the pictures they probably say a thousand more than my introductions can!! And my topics even moreso!!

.Ok.. well seeing how this is not rate me topic. I cannot speak to your profile.. however. are you speaking to the fact that you have lost your passion.. your desire to feel love. the effort that is required.. it is a two way street. and it takes work like everything else. it is easy to let the Love die. and be replaced by complacency.. the mundane the everyday.. but this too is love. we do not live in a Harlequin romance novels. but you need to open yourself up to the possibility of love..
. not the needing to be loved. but the desire to fill the spark the electricity the romance the passion that comes along with feeling love.. it is the most beautiful thing. we as human beings have been gifted with.. to fill that glow that warmth of someone's love. and to generate that feeling in another person.. so please just try to think with your heart.. not with a side of you. that has been let down.
. that obviously has been disappointed.
. the past shall lay in the past.. is it only the lessons that we have learned !that we bring with us into the future...ok.. and for every shoe there is a foot..

I respect your opinion, but my past cannot be changed only a lesson of life! I do not and can not change that! But as for a Future Relationship my past is never considered only in a possible future commitment!! All my Skeletons in my closet come out without prejudice before a commitment is considered as for her skeletons she can share if she wants. Full disclosure is a must for me so it is not brought up as a reference in Future Plans! In laymen terms" My past is mine and so is Yours" Not to be relieved by neither!! But again thank you for that opinion, its apperated!! And as any relationship i've been in"i give all, wearing my Heart on my sleeve to share as Equals through Life"!! I don't live to be Loved! That expectation if futile!

Graywolf, I totally understand how you feel. The past sometimes plagues us more than it should, after all, it is past and does not have to predict your future. Sometimes when we go through health problems, we seem to lose a little hope, then more and finally we feel hopeless, until that day when we pick ourselves up and say, my health will improve because I will make a determined effort to make it improve. At that moment, when we start to heal our mental attitude the physical starts to line up with your mind. Giving up on finding a satisfying love relationship is not in my dictionary, as I believe it keeps us ever expecting and anticipating in a very good and a very healthy way. Keep looking forward to finding that love defined within the boundaries you consider healthy for what you need in this period of your life...and keep smiling!

Age (in theory) brings wisdom.
Even the body is aware.
It seems perhaps your heart has been numbed
by various experiences.
It is self-preservation.

I think though, were you to meet just the right
gal, at this time in your life, you would throw
all that off and be involved again.

Even surprising yourself :-)

Boy there are a lot of good and intelectiol opinions today!! And i'm not saying that Love is not in my Future. And i cherish all of those opinions knowing i've chose my friends on here well,as they have chosen to be mine!! I may or maynot find Love here ,(whose to say") But i am an open door in trying to The End!!)

Hi Graywolf,
I took the liberty of looking at your profile before responding to your post.
Even before reading it, I would say don't give up on finding the love you seek. I don't think your age stops you from being attractive or from being loved.
I will say that sometimes our ideas are different in different stages of our life. Before we seek to find something in others we need to define ourselves and what we hope for.
You seems from reading your post that your physical pain and finding love are somehow connected in your mind. Maybe I'm reading that wrong. I would say that as we start feeling the effects of age, we might sometimes think that it somehow defines us. It may limit us to a point but doesn't change who we are inside. All this I was thinking before reading your profile.
After reading your profile I would add, with all due respect, that you have some very appealing qualities as a man. I believe you will find that special kind of love. I wish you everything good. Send you a hug.

I suppose I 'd say the challenge for me is that I , we have so much history now that it is hard to feel bonded with a new man my age. there is just so much he won't know and I am impatient & not inclined with the telling...

I have felt that way and also wondered about the same things you are expressing but I believe that when all the pieces fit with the right person those feelings of true love will come rushing in.I think the good lord has someone in store for you Grey wolf!