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Hello (((( Jack ))))....

Well I have come to the conclusion that it can be tough if the body starts breaking down --- I am 60 and well fellas take a look at me and keep walking....... I understand how you feel. Just know you aren't alone in that respect.But I find that my attitude has changed too-- I'm more relaxed about things-- if you don't like me -- ok no biggie.....It is lonely but you will also find things to fill in the time-- or at least I have
I hope you find your lady
and I hope I find a frind who will care and want to be with me-- if not I'm ok with me
Hugs and Best wishes
to you

There it is.

Love your wisdom, lady.

Very good question mr. Wolf I'll also be 58 next month myself and I have been thinking the very same thing. Its my shoulders that hurt me. I played to hard in my younger years and am paying for it now. I'm lucky I can still ride my motorcycles. Going to the gym 4 days a week had really helped me get my health back.

Thank all or you for your concerns in my (mental stability) but that is not the issue of concern! For quite a few years i've been in touch with my inner feelings wondering if i am suitable for dating again! Before i injured my sholder i was camping and fishing for 2 weekends straight ,being alone you can do a lot of (soul searching) and it seems the river "digs deep" in my body and soul! Questions and answers seem to pop everywhere! If i am breaking down physically why would i even want to involve a woman and subject her to this? How many years can i offer to her before death,and again subject her to going through another needless sorrow? The only good i can conclude is of inheritance, especially Social Security which if not Married all i've been putting in reverts back to the Government. Yes it seems selfish of me about all of this but is her pain worth the sorrow? For some on here it would not matter as in my past relationships(greed) is the motive for their being here. I've still got a "long road" to travel in thought and preparation for the Future ! Because I am a good Man it has to be considered. To all my Friends on Mingle i wish the Very Best in Love and Life, You "ARE THE VERY BEST ANY MAN COULD PRAY FOR"!!

Double post(sorry)

Graywolf;

In business they say; If you don't like the conversation? CHANGE IT! In life, you don't like the situation? CHANGE IT?

Got told close to 17 years ago, I needed 2 knees, 1 hip & 1 shoulder. I continued to work, till I sold my business & now am a good handyman. doing any physical thing I chose. Sometimes I am sore & that tells me I am alive. All of life & relationships is a choice. I chose to keep going & want to go out with my boots on. I want my legacy to be; WOW what a guy he is/was. Push yourself, make changes, LIFE is meant to be LIVED.


Tried to mail you, can't due to your settings. Send me a mail so we can chat, Please.

Sage

In business they also say" look at the outcome before coming to a conclusion"! This i have done by listening to Men and Women older than myself with knowledge not a Know it All"!! Therefore I think in being prepared for situation of todays society as it is for a logical conclusion of situations others can't comprehend! old sage i value your opinion!!

Totally agree. We need to keep our minds open to new info. & then do our own research to see if it fits our life. Keep searching, never know what you will find.

Not wanting to be a burden is a legitimate concern. So is wanting to find someone that's going to look after you in your old age. It was an issue that I had with my ex. I discussed it with her again long after the relationship was over and I said to her that we would have looked after each other. She replied that at least I had faith in her.

Ask not what your girlfriend can do for you but what you can do for your girlfriend.

? "My x'es are exactly that x'es for a reason!! If they had been in a relationship for"the right reason" they wouldn't be x'es now would they? but thank you" being polite"!!

I gave up on riding my bike and sold it at 50. Considered myself unsafe for the Highway! But miss it after riding for 50 years( Yes i started young with a 300 dream honda.) As for the gym- these joints wearing out fast enough but i stimulate muscle mass electronically. But Thank You anyway!!

.. I guess at the end of the day gray wolf. it all comes down to this.. none of us truly know what are Destiny's are.. only the maker of us all knows the answer to your question...
.. I guess...

.. oh yeah and yourself of course..

Oh dear, blaming like that maybe says more about you you than it does about them. They were all with you for the wrong reason and you were doing it for the right reason? How one sided a view is that?

Wolf, as we older individuals are quite aware, our daily health and vigor does affect how people see us, and how we see others.

The younger and more vital we are, or behave, regardless the age, sends off positive energy that excites and attracts us, keeping us interested for longer periods of time.

While the more subdued we may be by our bodies natural slowing down process the less inviting we appear to be. And at this point we learn to accept what comes our way, or not.

Most of us have already experienced the first love ardor and sexual attraction might have been all we needed to stay together until the fire burned out.

But at our age we have to be concerned about the more serious side of life because we know that although we might be feeling good today, something unexpected could happen tomorrow and we would be down for the count.

Then, how will the person we're with feel about us if they have to become responsible for our upkeep, daily existence, so too speak. And it will depend on whether there is true love for each other that will keep us together fighting whatever aging and infirmities throws our way.

All these considerations make us leery about who we choose to be with. So sometimes we hold back waiting to see how much the other cares and don't give of ourselves until it's too late and another relationship bites the dust.

If we're together as companions because it's mutually beneficial in some way, but we don't really love each other to hang tough if the going gets rough, then we're screwed and we know it.

We also know our pickings aren't as great at our ages as they were when we were young for so many reasons. That sometimes when we get tired of being alone we do settle for whatever is there.

So your concerns are just. And I hope you do find the one whose heart and will is strong enough to weather anything and everything to the end. To me that is love.

Hope I didn't confuse the issues.

rather than worrying about what you can't do just do what you can and life will follow...I see people in the gym a lot older than you. some have pretty limited mobility but there are things that they can do. Practice making positive and proactive choices one by one everyday to say I can instead of I can't. You may find a new frame of mind that is attractive to women as well as increased health. You just sound a little down in your posts. Usually activity at any level helps that.

I want to Thank everyone for their incite in the situation by sharing your thoughts with me, especially my Friends and my New Friend,Old Sage. I see some trouble wanting to start in a back opinion ,so i'm bowing out in my own topic to not start trouble here because he is wrong!! My only purpose for even starting a topic, participating in a topic is to add my knowledge,humor or opinion here-not sarcasm. So thank you Again from My Heart!