I feel pathetic. I found a girl I really want to connect with, I put her as a favorite and emailed her. Nothing, says she checked her site within the last 4 days. I know, I know, she's probably busy, on vacation, taking a break form all of this, or a thousand other perfectly good and logical reasons. But I keep checking to see if she has checked her site, like some pathetic stacker waiting in the building elevator to meet that pretty girl who lives in the building. You'd think by my age I'd be better at this. 35 years of relationships and I've learned exactly......nothing, nothing. OMG I need to seek help.

It happens all the time. Get used to it. I see girls all the time on these sites that catch my interest but all that you can do is to contact them and if they don't reply, just forget about them and look for somebody that you'll have better luck with. Certainly don't pin your hopes on someone just because you like their profile.

just relax, send her an email about once a week and see what happens... don't be telling her about how you want her, just chat like she was chatting back, telling her about your day... sometimes they will, sometimes they won't... but, like anything else, it's a numbers game...

and don't say anything about you feeling bad, pathetic, or anything else that puts yourself down, women like confidence...

Cheers mate!!! Very good advice from you both. It's just been a while since I had to deal with all this, got a bit frustrated with myself.

Putting someone as a favorite, in my experience, means nothing. Although I get notices all the time about guys adding me as a "favorite", most make no contact whatsoever, and I have myself learned to think nothing of those gestures. That and the fact that most of these turned out to be scammers. I would not suggest you send any more messages until she responds to one. If she is interested, sooner or later she will respond to the message you already sent. If she does not respond, it's pretty much a given that she is busy with other things or people in her life, or she is not interested in you for one reason or another. JMHO

Thank you!!! My amin problem is I'm new to all this, I've never really dated, even in High school. WARNING THE NEXT SECTION WILL SOUND VERY EGOTISTICAL: I've always had a girlfriend or wife, never really tried to go out and meet a girl before. I could date women her in Sweden, but that would be very complicated if I am trying to move back home.

You are very nice to answer me.

I assume, since you said she has 'been on in the last 4 days'
that she is not in Stealth mode, because when someone is,
that does not show at all.

There seems to be many more men than women on here, so the
gals get a LOT of attention, being one of many is never any fun :-)

Forgive me, but the fact that you had a girlfriend or wife would seem to suggest that you did SOMETHING to keep that girlfriend or to get the wife which would automatically include dating of some sort. The only exception to this would be if you had a prearranged marriage by a parent or other family member as in some countries. So, a further explanation would of your situation would seem to be necessary to offer any more suggestions based on your circumstances. At any rate, just try to make friends for now, join in the forums if you have the time to do so. You can learn a lot about characteristics of women you might like in your future just by seeing how they interact with others on the forums. Good luck!

I could bully her Into responding. Who is she lmao jk

Sorry, yes, I can see how thy can be confusing. I had 3 girlfriends in high school, they all asked me out. I never asked anyone out. At university I was friends first with some girls in a larger group of friends that eventually grew intorelationships. Then I was just too busy to date, then in Sweden I met my ex at work, again we had a group of friends, slowly we became more serious. I've never approached a woman and asked her out on a date, just never worked out that way. So, this getting to know a stranger and seeing what happens is new.

From my point of view, I usually Don't email people who have made me a favorite before I've spoken/ emailed with them.

It tells me that he's shallow and a bit of a perv.
This may not be who You are, but in my experiences, this is what I thought.

Well, now it makes more sense. So, now you're on a dating site, looking for a possible match. You can either do what worked for you before only in an online forum situation and wait for the right one to take notice of you and ask you out, or this time you might take the initiative and recognize the type of woman you would like to be with just by mutual interaction on the forums and make the first move yourself. The choice is always yours to make.

absolutely great let's give her a little more time before I call in the big guns. :-)

Really? Well, I can do that in future. Live and learn, live...and...learn

I'm not saying this woman, who's caught your eye feels the same way, but when I get " Joe Schmoe has made you a favorite" I delete it YET
If I have emailed a guy and we've had communication, and I get " Joe Schmoe has made you a favorite" It means a little more to me, like he wants to get to know me... not find out the color of my undies.

TeeBee, I'm sensing a theme. So, I must get past my inner caveman...girl pretty, want meet girl. :-)

haha! It's been months since I've been on here. I was on here everyday and then one day...I just stopped. So coming back online there was 20 emails and some favorites added. I spent the time to look at each one. They were the typical "hey shoot me an email back". Deleted and moved on.

So I think the other guy had the right idea. If you want to catch her attention then send here emails once a week. Eventually she will catch on that you might be interested.

you say this as if it is a bad thing...