Always a touchy subject. Most people react out of fear when you mention "��polygamy"��. They feel threatened, threatened in their feeling of safety a relationship offers them. But if it makes you feel threatened, doesn'��t that mean that safety and feeling secure is an illusion? If it was real, you wouldn'��t feel threatened, there wouldn'��t be a reason to feel threatened if you truly felt safe.

I think monogamy is an illusion, a form of relationship that was forced upon us long time ago, probably by church. We'��ve been made to believe that it'��s the only way, the right way and that people that stray are bad people.
But is it realistic to demand of people to only feel love and lust for the person they hooked up with when they were in their twenties? Until their dying day, which could easily be 50 or 60 years? Half a century of not feeling love or lust for anyone else? Isn'��t that a load of crap? Until you got hooked it was perfected okay and accepted to drool over and lust after whomever you wanted, even it were a hundred different people. When you'��re single (again) it'��s perfectly okay to lust after a gazillion people. But as soon as you'��re in a relationship you can only lust after you partner? Does that make sense? Suddenly you'��ve got to flick a switch in your brain and make yourself believe that you will only get turned on by your spouse from that moment onward, till the day you die.

That may sound wonderful when you'��re in love and only want to be with the one you love, but we'��re talking half a century here, not about one month of cloud 9!
People made themselves believe that monogamy equals true love. I think it'��s true love if you set each other free. People should be free, you don'��t own each other once you'��re in a relationship! You don'��t become each other'��s prisoner & warden! That'��s NOT love at all!
Throughout life everyone meets other people that arouses him or her. Someone he or she would love to share intimacy with, whether it'��s based on lust or love. And not the same kind of love that one feels for the own partner. There'��s not just one kind of love. You can have loving feelings for someone else, which don'��t have to affect your relationship or the love you feel for your partner at all!
The way it is now, with monogamy forced upon us, and most of us believing that is the only right way, you don'��t have a choice. It'��s suppressing your feelings or get judged because you suddenly are a cheater. Tainted for life. You betrayed your partner, because you shared a moment of intimacy with someone else. Guilty!! So you have to feel bad, show you feel you've done wrong and suddenly you have to prove your worth to your partner, and he/she might make you feel guilty for the rest of your life. Isn't that ridiculous?
If we had a different "��system"��, polygamy, and would be free to choose to make love or have sex with someone else, things would change completely. Most seem to think that a polygamous society would turn into Sodom and Gomorrah, I think that is again based on fear. I like to believe we are responsible beings, we'��re not animals merely driven by lust. People wouldn'��t feel like they own the body of their partner anymore. They might in actual fact start to respect their partner more.

I don'��t really believe in having multiple regular partners, as in 4 husbands or 6 wives, for instance. I believe in a one on one relationship, but without the forced monogamy. If people choose to be monogamous, fair enough.
I know a number of women who wouldn'��t have a problem with it. Never spoken to a man who feels that way though? Maybe men like the idea of being intimate with other women, but cannot handle the thought of having to share their partner?

I think if it was more commonly accepted to have sex and share intimacy with others, people would become far more responsible and maybe even choose to not do it. If it'��s allowed and okay to share with another than the partner, people will have to take responsibility for their actions, think about their choices and make wise decisions. Very different from the current situation where we are EXPECTED (= demanded) to NOT do something.
Now people have no choice, they have to be exclusive, whether they want to or not. And no one likes "��have to'��s"��.
So many people may choose to be exclusive because they love their partner, and that IS true love.

Source http://factastic.wordpress.com/2014/03/09/polygamy-true-love/

I love the saying "If you don't believe in something, you'll fall for anything". If society did not have social or moral boundaries, we would be living in a world in which none of us would survive for long. As for the issue of monogamy or polygamy, I choose monogamy, always have, always will. My heart dictates that being faithful to the one I love is at the top of my list, as I would want it to be with him. True love goes beyond the selfishness of wanting or needing more than one partner at any given time. JMHO

Good morning Missy. Not into polygamy.

(((1j))) Good morning!

And the fox says that the grapes are sour.

i think monogamy is the best

Polygamy of course means marriage to multiple mates. I desire a committed relationship with one mate that satisfactorily fulfills both of us emotionally and physically. Intimate partners whether 2 or more that form a harmonious unit should be celebrated. People truly committed to each other should not need archaic tradition, ceremony, or legal documentation to compel them to remain faithful.

Yeah, should've been "polyamory", cannot change it anymore though :S Although that might not properly cover it either, but think closer to what I mean.

I think because people change over the years. I was with someone for many years and we grew apart. I didn't see the point of staying with him unhappily. I couldn't comit to a lifetime of misery

But..theres reasons for Monogamy..think about the sexually transmitted diseases for one.

I see a new Sodom and Gomorrah..everyone doing anyone and anything in every way possible. We are most of the way there already Crystal

Now I suppose if your talking multiple wives hehe!

Then I want multiple husbands

The more the Marryer

Relationships are defined by those participating in it.

So, if both agree to forever and forever, no sex or seeking intimacy outside, their that is their agreement/contract.

If those choose to have other partners, but share financial responsibility .... good for them.

A relationship/marriage/commitment/etc is between those involved and is their business.

I think marriage to multiple partners in most if not all countries are banned and for many reasons, one of which being the possible exploitation of women. In past polygamous societies, some men had concubines of secondary wives usually ranked in order, the number of wives probably depending on their wealth. I am of the opinion that men and women in polygamous marriages viewed spouses differently than men and women view them in monogamous marriages, particularly in western culture. Personally, I would only ever want a monogamous marriage/relationship because I believe I could only ever find true love with one person, my preference.

This is next we already have gay marriages. How about some three ways.