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I think it would be a sad world indeed if men, and women, did not occasionally think about "booty calls" because come on that little nudge kind of boosts us out of our cozy little ruts and makes us get into the dating dance to meet our future mates.
And I would be soooooooooooooh disappointed if someone who was interested in the whole person I am did not see the part of me that loves lusty roll over and over in the hay grab the ears yippe sex and look forward to that part of a potential committed relationship. To me any guy who is so controlled or overly willing to self sacrifice to an eternally non-sexual relationship is just sad. Guys who want well rounded relationships generally politely or maybe in more masculine mode directly see if the chemistry exists with a little "muscle flex" moment flirt (that should NOT be insulting) seems NORMAL to me. To me the adult person who does a little dancing and takes the time to see if the person is MORE than a one demention player is valuing themselves and others and is the real catch. Do men, by and large, use good judgment and treat women with respect, consideration, and eventually love? YES. YES. YES. Had Crystal maybe been blessed with one? I sure hope so. I trust her to make a good choice. |
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I think it would be a sad world indeed if men, and women, did not occasionally think about "booty calls" because come on that little nudge kind of boosts us out of our cozy little ruts and makes us get into the dating dance to meet our future mates. And I would be soooooooooooooh disappointed if someone who was interested in the whole person I am did not see the part of me that loves lusty roll over and over in the hay grab the ears yippe sex and look forward to that part of a potential committed relationship. To me any guy who is so controlled or overly willing to self sacrifice to an eternally non-sexual relationship is just sad. Guys who want well rounded relationships generally politely or maybe in more masculine mode directly see if the chemistry exists with a little "muscle flex" moment flirt (that should NOT be insulting) seems NORMAL to me. To me the adult person who does a little dancing and takes the time to see if the person is MORE than a one demention player is valuing themselves and others and is the real catch. Do men, by and large, use good judgment and treat women with respect, consideration, and eventually love? YES. YES. YES. Had Crystal maybe been blessed with one? I sure hope so. I trust her to make a good choice. ^^ Steamy stuff ((( J )))...This belongs on my Steamy thread ...And I totally agree :-)...My mom is pushing 90 and still loves to flirt ..She can still get the old fellows heated up too ...Can't take her anywhere ...They say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree...When it comes to the art of flirting, I have to agree...Innocent, fun, exciting....and sometimes more |
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I think it would be a sad world indeed if men, and women, did not occasionally think about "booty calls" because come on that little nudge kind of boosts us out of our cozy little ruts and makes us get into the dating dance to meet our future mates. And I would be soooooooooooooh disappointed if someone who was interested in the whole person I am did not see the part of me that loves lusty roll over and over in the hay grab the ears yippe sex and look forward to that part of a potential committed relationship. To me any guy who is so controlled or overly willing to self sacrifice to an eternally non-sexual relationship is just sad. Guys who want well rounded relationships generally politely or maybe in more masculine mode directly see if the chemistry exists with a little "muscle flex" moment flirt (that should NOT be insulting) seems NORMAL to me. To me the adult person who does a little dancing and takes the time to see if the person is MORE than a one demention player is valuing themselves and others and is the real catch. Do men, by and large, use good judgment and treat women with respect, consideration, and eventually love? YES. YES. YES. Had Crystal maybe been blessed with one? I sure hope so. I trust her to make a good choice. ^^ Steamy stuff ((( J )))...This belongs on my Steamy thread ...And I totally agree :-)...My mom is pushing 90 and still loves to flirt ..She can still get the old fellows heated up too ...Can't take her anywhere ...They say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree...When it comes to the art of flirting, I have to agree...Innocent, fun, exciting....and sometimes more LOL Hugs ((((Ms L.))) Yea shocks me sometimes that some think that saying no to some doesn't mean yes to someone special. Always surprises me when people think that just because some women/men don't just throw themselves at the opposite sex that when they do "Get Behind Closed Doors" that things rock. I am selective about dating but don't kid yourself I have my "Victoria Secrets" and if the combination of Irish/Native blood doesn't make a fella's teeth sweat well he's just dead from the ears down. hahahahahahahaha Marriage gets such a bad rap when the very first party after the reception which none to rarely do the Bride and groom leave early to is about major intimacy. |
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I think it would be a sad world indeed if men, and women, did not occasionally think about "booty calls" because come on that little nudge kind of boosts us out of our cozy little ruts and makes us get into the dating dance to meet our future mates. And I would be soooooooooooooh disappointed if someone who was interested in the whole person I am did not see the part of me that loves lusty roll over and over in the hay grab the ears yippe sex and look forward to that part of a potential committed relationship. To me any guy who is so controlled or overly willing to self sacrifice to an eternally non-sexual relationship is just sad. Guys who want well rounded relationships generally politely or maybe in more masculine mode directly see if the chemistry exists with a little "muscle flex" moment flirt (that should NOT be insulting) seems NORMAL to me. To me the adult person who does a little dancing and takes the time to see if the person is MORE than a one demention player is valuing themselves and others and is the real catch. Do men, by and large, use good judgment and treat women with respect, consideration, and eventually love? YES. YES. YES. Had Crystal maybe been blessed with one? I sure hope so. I trust her to make a good choice. ^^ Steamy stuff ((( J )))...This belongs on my Steamy thread ...And I totally agree :-)...My mom is pushing 90 and still loves to flirt ..She can still get the old fellows heated up too ...Can't take her anywhere ...They say the apple doesn't fall far from the tree...When it comes to the art of flirting, I have to agree...Innocent, fun, exciting....and sometimes more LOL Hugs ((((Ms L.))) Yea shocks me sometimes that some think that saying no to some doesn't mean yes to someone special. Always surprises me when people think that just because some women/men don't just throw themselves at the opposite sex that when they do "Get Behind Closed Doors" that things rock. I am selective about dating but don't kid yourself I have my "Victoria Secrets" and if the combination of Irish/Native blood doesn't make a fella's teeth sweat well he's just dead from the ears down. hahahahahahahaha Marriage gets such a bad rap when the very first party after the reception which none to rarely do the Bride and groom leave early to is about major intimacy. Ten four sister!... |
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Hahaha, I definitely got people's hormones going here, LOL.
Friend of mine had a look, her reaction: "WOW, he's HOT!" I have bloody good taste when it comes to flirts, I seem to go wrong when it's a (potential) partner Tawt, I didn't start any flirting at all, he did. And as far as I'm concerned he kinda pushed the borders of 'acceptable' flirting, so it gets somewhat confusing. But at least we all got some excitement out of it, And really love you all for being so nice |
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The guy sounds like fun. I just read the original post, haven't read the replies, except the part where it sounds like he has a girl on FB. Oh well, if so, harmless flirting isn't bad, as long as both people know the boundaries.
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CyrstalFairy This guy is hot for you no doubt. When he offered to fix your car for a warm meal he stepped outside the work lines and offered a social situation.Don't be discouraged by his facebook pictures it could be his sister or maybe a old flame. Men are not usually as fast as women to eliminate old pictures.For the love of god don't go up there wearing the black outfit from your mingle pic's the poor guy will slam the hood on his whole hand this time. LOL and good luck
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.... For the love of god don't go up there wearing the black outfit from your mingle pic's the poor guy will slam the hood on his whole hand this time. You are putting ideas in my head now... Would be really interesting to see reactions, lol. |
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Hahaha, I definitely got people's hormones going here, LOL. Friend of mine had a look, her reaction: "WOW, he's HOT!" I have bloody good taste when it comes to flirts, I seem to go wrong when it's a (potential) partner Tawt, I didn't start any flirting at all, he did. And as far as I'm concerned he kinda pushed the borders of 'acceptable' flirting, so it gets somewhat confusing. But at least we all got some excitement out of it, And really love you all for being so nice Yeah, sometimes it's just difficult to tell with some people if they really mean anything buy it, or if they are just joking about. There's a girl that flirts with me sometimes and she has given me the impression that she could be genuinely interested in me but she's got over six hundred friends on Facebook and a lot of them are guys. She posted a photo not long back where she was with some guy and people commented, saying how they looked like a lovely couple. There are other posts on her Facebook where she talks about cooking a meal for some guy and it's quite flirty. I've talked to people about her and they say that she just flirts with everybody but even if that's the case, I like to flatter myself that it's how I respond to it that matters and that if I take her flirting seriously she might think that I'm really interested in her and that I could get a date with her. Sometimes when people flirt they are testing the waters, so to speak. Just because someone likes to flirt, it doesn't mean that they aren't a bit insecure and worried about rejection themselves. That's the thing with flirting; it's not really being direct and you aren't sure how seriously to take it. There was this girl that I went to school with and she used to flirt with me a bit but at the time I didn't really take her seriously. Years later I heard from a mutual aquaintance that she had said that she had tried to be friendly to me but that she thought that I didn't seem to like her. |
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Personally, I don't usually see this sort of thing as a dilemma. Last year I met this girl through a couple of aquaintences. Every time we all went out together she came along and although I wasn't sure if she was interested in me or not I was getting fed up with the situation and having to sit in the pub with all of them every time, so I just asked her if she wanted to go out with me without them. If she said no I was just putting an end to an awkward situation and if she said yes I would get a date with her. People that worry about knockbacks are just insecure. I used to be like that when I was a teenager. Why would I feel stupid if some woman that flirted with me said no thanks when I called her bluff? This is where a lot of people go wrong and end up whining about not being able to get dates. You flirt with someone and end up getting some dumb crush on them, without even knowing where you stand. I just tell women that I'm fine as long as I know where I stand with them. I've got a lady friend coming round to visit me tonight actually and I know exactly where I stand with her. Sure, we flirt with each other but we also talk properly. Here's how I talk to women: Do you want to go out with me or not?" Interesting approach Tawtstrat... You offer a positive and a negative which leaves you with a 50% chance of success. If I may offer a suggestion, would be to offer 2 positives and let her choose one. Example: I'd love to take you out, can I pick you up Tuesday or Thursday for a night out on the town? Crystal, Be bold, Be serious(so there's no misinterpretations) and watch his reactions. Oil changes can be reciprocated yes? {{{John}}} Interesting interesting jonny see, I say how 'bout SEX I'll pick you up for SEX but a don't fully enunciate the word but clear enough,depending on her response; the subject is on the table now,or I will say no I said SIX Pick you up for 6:00...if her respond was completely incompatible. then something could suddenly come up that was a Seinfeld episode with the deaf tennis player and she read his lips wrong..lol the genius writing of Larry David *bows down* I had a buddy that moved from the Island to Van.and said they're is a certain culture of woman he dated and said, "if you asked them to meet me here tomorrow they wouldn't show. Instead telling them was in fact the difference". |
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{{{John}}} Interesting interesting jonny
see, I say how 'bout SEX I'll pick you up for SEX but a don't fully enunciate the word but clear enough,depending on her response; the subject is on the table now,or I will say no I said SIX Pick you up for 6:00...if her respond was completely incompatible. then something could suddenly come up Pony, My uncle... my countryman. It's ok to be direct and to the point, right? kinda?... I think your chances of success just dropped to 1/8th of TwatS 50/50 chance |
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