Restraint is often times what keeps us from answering the door when opportunity knocks.

If you ever consider writing a book of "Sayings Worth Listening To" Lionsbrew, I want to buy some and send them out to all my friends!

I probably could but I'd never read the advice I give to myself is always wrong.

luvmeforlife, can I have a nibble of your cake?

let me run over and bake one real fast. lol

I like Oriental cake, even when it has a green topping.

Hmmmmm.

Let' see if I have the details right?

A gentlemanly trades man sees an attractive single lady and is making a point of more than just casual job related remarks. Nothing vulgar but mildly flirtacious. He suggests that for the pleasure of her company and a home made meal he will purchase a battery on his discount and do what is maybe a ten minute installation. (And exchange equal too maybe slightly more affordable than a date out.) He hasn't suggested he has to come to your home but two consenting adults would reasonably assume he isn't expecting it to be served on his desk at work if he is really lucky. He did, after all, say "sometime" and he did not rule out having other friends there.
It is also very close to traditional holiday times where home made meals would be expected. Did he give you a fair price on the other work? Make a special effort? Perhaps detail your car as a bonus?

This would not exactly be my first choice for a date invitation but I don't see it all that offensive.

I think he is subtly checking to see if the interest is reciprocated and you are looking for a relationship other than just a major "booty" discount. Frequently offered mechanics so he may be checking to see if your flirt is only "lady like" or a solicitation.

I think I would, if interested, do what most women do which is to counter with something that says yes you are interested but not going to be "dessert" on this free meal.

Since you are obviously a lady of considerable value he would be an idiot to refuse a friendly call to inquire if his bruise is not too painful to come to join friends at a small cards and dessert gathering, an art showing, or even a small holiday brunch. Surely you have a friend who could bring a date or couple that would make it possible to keep this from being a booty call. Don't mention the battery. If you genuinely need it rapidly that would be a nice gesture on his part but not something I would count on. He s testing you in a reasonable manner.

Generally I would expect a quality man to offer to bring what I would hope suggests he is more interested in you such as flowers, or a bottle of wine, or maybe food for the party such as a fresh loaf of bread or cheese nibbles rather than cultivating a customer.

Wish you the BEST OF LUCK and crossing my fingers and toes this is a budding relationship. LOL I better get invited to the bachlorette party. I am putting my best mojo on this. hahahahahaha

This is adorable, I think I'm nervous with you!

I'm so excited! And I just can't hide it!

Isn't it! But as I'm in it, it's nerve wrecking and a little less adorable, haha. I been on Skype with family over 2 hours, after that wasn't in the right mood. (Been on phone & Skype for more than 4 hours, almost non stop, lol).
And now I'm in doubt, the "yeah but, no but" thing. So for tonight I'm gonna give it a rest, it's gone midnight, tomorrow's another day.


Yeah me too, lol.

@PacificStar, he isn't going to give me the car battery, I wish, haha. He runs his own business, he's not going that far. He has given the impression that he's doing me a fave with what he charges, but he might do that with more ppl. He is a businessman / salesman after all.
I do think I am going to exploit that bruised finger as an excuse though Making up for the fact that my car 'bit' him by offering a nice meal.

Your lucky we're not there, or we'd be driving you over to his place and sitting outside. The neighbors would be looking out their windows saying, who are all those folks?

Woohoo ... CrystalFairy ... where are you?

Inquiring minds want to know!!!

How was dinner?

Ah shoot! I read about your being on Skype (procrastinating, my dear!) for so long.
When I'm struggling with a decision, especially one where I must step out of my comfort zone, I go through my mind and think of all the what ifs. What's the worst that can happen and how would I deal with each one. Also what do I have to lose? What's the good that can come out of it. It doesn't take very long to go through it all in your head beforehand.

Then by the time I decide to go for it, I appear very calm and natural because I am confidant I can handle whatever comes at me!
yack yack yack ...

You have a whole cheering section behind you, girl!
You are an awesome person and you deserve so much!
Take one step... and smile...

Haha, don't think there's going to be a dinner. I had a look at his FB was about to send a message, then saw a few pictures of a girl. On her site there's piccies of them with hearts and stuff, so I guess he ain't single. Only just found out.
I'm not going to take the risk of making a complete twat of myself by sending him a message, lol.
So sorry to disappoint you all
If I see him again, I might tell him to not wank around with single women in their 40s, hahaha.

Well, we'll save all our cheering for the next "hunk of a man" to come your way!

FB has been wrong because some people don't keep it updated.
However, you are probably right to step back.
Who knows what'll happen from here!

Man oh man, this was exciting!
I think I need to get out more!!!!


(((((CrystalFairy)))))

You know if you wanted you could flirt on here with us guys for practice. Some of us will even flirt back.

Just because she has hearts and stuff on her site does not mean he is so over the moon for her. Women try to stake out their desired territory on FB all the time but doesn't mean it is a lock. I would be cautious but don't think I would jump him for perking your interest. Take it as the compliment it was. If he gets around to asking you out to dinner I would go. Desirable guys have friends on their FB or here but it doesn't mean a whole lot.

Still rooting for a good outcome for you. Happy hunting.

Thanks :) Flirting is okay, not a prob, it's just starts to get tricky if you get signals that don't seem to compute.
Indeed ppl can put anything on FB, so should the occasion arise, I will do some poking around But for now I'm not gonna jump him.

Did you just say "jump him"?!!... ...Yea, just chill till your next service date and when he's leaning over the hood, jump his azz!!! ....Could not resist!...What I think you should do is take Lionsbrew up on his offer ...Now there's a hawt "younger" guy if ever I saw one!...

Hey Crystal, was going to say something about what mechanics are like because I trained as one but I guess you found out.

I was telling you before in this thread about a girl that I asked out and she told me that she was seeing somebody and some other stuff as well about not being interested in dating me.

To be honest, I thought afterwards that I didn't really like her that much anyway and maybe you feel that way about this guy now, or maybe you just want to put it down to harmless flirting or the guy just being friendly.

Other people have their opinions about this and say things about guys just wanting booty calls and wanting you for desert but I had this conversation with a girl who said how guys will have sex with anyone and I said to her that I wouldn't want to have sex with someone that I wasn't attracted to.

So, you met a guy and thought that he liked you and that you liked him but you weren't sure what his intensions were.

I've got a female friend and she phoned to say that she was going to come and visit me the other night. She said to me that she wasn't going to stay the night and I replied that I never said that she was.

She's a good friend and we flirt with each other. One time when she said that she might visit me one weekend and sleep in my spare room she joked about saying that I would try to drag her into my bed. The thing is though, that it's cold here at this time of year and it was a friend coming round and we spent the evening chatting and stuff and I was only saying that she didn't have to go outside at night in the cold and that I wasn't booting her out because she's my friend and I enjoy her company.

Not all guys are just after sex and by all means find someone that actually likes you as a person and enjoys your company. Just remember though that it isn't actually so important what a man's intentions are because he isn't going to make his mind up about that until he gets to know you.