Topic: i need advice
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Tue 02/18/14 05:59 PM
pay them

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Wed 02/19/14 08:24 PM

pay them

Those types of relationships have no real connections to them. I'm looking for something more on a personal level.

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Wed 02/19/14 08:31 PM

Just practice with woman that your not sexually interested in and go out of your way to make an effort, even if its your little sister, it helped with my kissing.:wink:


u were kissing ur little sister???noway surprised

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Wed 02/19/14 08:59 PM







Every relationship I've had has ended badly. Now i find myself unable to hold a decent conversation with the ladies. What should i do


define badly...
I think a basement may be involved.


Im thinking video games

when i say badly i mean they cheated on me. mabie im too much of a nice guy. or perhaps to old fashioned in holding open doors, pulling out chairs, and offering my coat to keep them warm. but in any case its their loss cuz i am as loyal as a puppy when it comes to those i care about.


sometimes, just because you want something to work doesn't mean it will... there are other women out there, go find one... or 2

Not easy when the only mode of transportation is a 21 speed bicycle. On top of a lack of confidence in myself. But I'm getting better as far as that goes.


So why can't you use the bike to get where you are going or walk or the bus Lots of people don't drive. Sounds like you are making excuses.

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Wed 02/19/14 08:59 PM


Just practice with woman that your not sexually interested in and go out of your way to make an effort, even if its your little sister, it helped with my kissing.:wink:


u were kissing ur little sister???noway surprised

Was that before or after her Daddy popped her cherry?

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Thu 02/20/14 06:15 AM



when i say badly i mean they cheated on me. mabie im too much of a nice guy. or perhaps to old fashioned in holding open doors, pulling out chairs, and offering my coat to keep them warm. but in any case its their loss cuz i am as loyal as a puppy when it comes to those i care about.
a gal doesnt want to have sex with a puppy. If she wants to take care of a puppy or take on such a responsibility, she will get one. Doesnt need a man shaped puppy getting in her way.

Having manners is not the reason she's not interested. Suggesting that women dont want, or deserve manners...That just tells me you actually have none.

grow up. get on with life. find out what you want from it as an independent person.


When i said "loyal like a puppy" i wasn't calling myself a puppy, i was using it as a reference to my personality in a relationship. Meaning I don't even look at other women when i have someone to love.

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Fri 02/21/14 02:48 PM





when i say badly i mean they cheated on me. mabie im too much of a nice guy. or perhaps to old fashioned in holding open doors, pulling out chairs, and offering my coat to keep them warm. but in any case its their loss cuz i am as loyal as a puppy when it comes to those i care about.
a gal doesnt want to have sex with a puppy. If she wants to take care of a puppy or take on such a responsibility, she will get one. Doesnt need a man shaped puppy getting in her way.

Having manners is not the reason she's not interested. Suggesting that women dont want, or deserve manners...That just tells me you actually have none.

grow up. get on with life. find out what you want from it as an independent person.


When i said "loyal like a puppy" i wasn't calling myself a puppy, i was using it as a reference to my personality in a relationship. Meaning I don't even look at other women when i have someone to love.
Ok. A gal doesnt want to have sex with a guy who can use a puppy to reference his personality.


I am glad you clarified that :wink:

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Fri 02/21/14 02:57 PM
Edited by yzhie012 on Fri 02/21/14 03:01 PM

Every relationship I've had has ended badly. Now i find myself unable to hold a decent conversation with the ladies. What should i do


same situation..all my relationshp before ended badly..

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Fri 02/21/14 09:21 PM





when i say badly i mean they cheated on me. mabie im too much of a nice guy. or perhaps to old fashioned in holding open doors, pulling out chairs, and offering my coat to keep them warm. but in any case its their loss cuz i am as loyal as a puppy when it comes to those i care about.
a gal doesnt want to have sex with a puppy. If she wants to take care of a puppy or take on such a responsibility, she will get one. Doesnt need a man shaped puppy getting in her way.

Having manners is not the reason she's not interested. Suggesting that women dont want, or deserve manners...That just tells me you actually have none.

grow up. get on with life. find out what you want from it as an independent person.


When i said "loyal like a puppy" i wasn't calling myself a puppy, i was using it as a reference to my personality in a relationship. Meaning I don't even look at other women when i have someone to love.
Ok. A gal doesnt want to have sex with a guy who can use a puppy to reference his personality.

i figured it would show how devoted i am when I'm in a relationship.

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Sat 02/22/14 09:06 AM
Edited by Candiapples on Sat 02/22/14 09:10 AM


ok ive got myself a girl and have popped the question to which she said yes. However i can't get in touch with her for weeks on end. Do i consider the relationship over or no?


Woah, horsey. Let's rewind slightly :) You don't mention how long you've been talking to her for. If you've only been talking to her for a few months, then no wonder she didn't reply to your proposal. Would anyone in their right mind marry someone they'd only known for a little while? You both still wouldn't know each other that well. If you've known her for a few YEARS, well that's different.

If she's blocked you from contacting her, she is trying to keep you away. She left you hanging. It hurts. It can be painful. But at the end of the day, there's nothing you can do about it. She clearly doesn't like you as much as you like her. So I'd move on. You both feel too opposite about each other. That's no good. Give yourself time to grieve, and then maybe you'll feel ready to date again. Jmo.

My parents married after knowing each other for six months and stayed happily married for 52 yrs until my mother died

Been thinking..why would I ask for love, marriage and dating advice from strangers who have been on this site single for a long time?

Go read some good books or ask friends who are in good relationships themselves.

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Sat 02/22/14 09:27 AM



ok ive got myself a girl and have popped the question to which she said yes. However i can't get in touch with her for weeks on end. Do i consider the relationship over or no?


Woah, horsey. Let's rewind slightly :) You don't mention how long you've been talking to her for. If you've only been talking to her for a few months, then no wonder she didn't reply to your proposal. Would anyone in their right mind marry someone they'd only known for a little while? You both still wouldn't know each other that well. If you've known her for a few YEARS, well that's different.

If she's blocked you from contacting her, she is trying to keep you away. She left you hanging. It hurts. It can be painful. But at the end of the day, there's nothing you can do about it. She clearly doesn't like you as much as you like her. So I'd move on. You both feel too opposite about each other. That's no good. Give yourself time to grieve, and then maybe you'll feel ready to date again. Jmo.

My parents married after knowing each other for six months and stayed happily married for 52 yrs until my mother died

Been thinking..why would I ask for love, marriage and dating advice from strangers who have been on this site single for a long time?

Go read some good books or ask friends who are in good relationships themselves.

True dat!!

Most of us can give long lists of what doesn't work.

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Sat 02/22/14 09:32 AM
laugh

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Sat 02/22/14 09:51 AM

i figured it would show how devoted i am when I'm in a relationship.


Sometimes people confuse what devotion means, devotion "love, loyalty, or enthusiasm for a person or activity" it doesn't mean "follow the person around and be a stage 4 clinger"

Ask yourself this question, it may help

When you get a girlfriend are YOU joining THEIR life?

Or are THEY joining YOUR life?


Meaning are you going to hang out with all of their friends, all the time, because you don't really have much of a social life without them

Or are they joining you and your group of friends?


It may also help choose the girl, no one wants to be all the pressure for entertainment and social activities to be on one individual.

It is best if you are COMBINING lives instead of one dumping their life for the others.

For me personally, I don't want a girl that just follows me around, doesn't really participate in conversations, and is just kind of "there" If I wanted that I would buy a dog.

So again ask if you are joining their life, or are they joining yours?

If it is the first one, maybe focus on trying to build a life that a girl would want to join, and trust me they girls will come.

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Sat 02/22/14 10:17 AM
I've dated a few men from here, over the years, but never totally relied on any dating site to get a date. They're just another way to find someone. I'm just grateful for the men I met. I cherish those memories. Unless you're housebound, getting out there shouldn't be a problem. Heck, I go anywhere just to get outside. Sounds like you just need to get out more. There's only so much people on a forum can do to help. You need to live life a bit more. I don't see how having the world at your feet can be a bad thing.

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Sat 02/22/14 07:15 PM
I hear what everyone is saying. I do want to get out into the world but in a small town where i have to drive 35 minutes to go anywhere that is even remotely considered a night scene. Madisonville is essentially a retirement community.

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Mon 02/24/14 11:07 PM
Be patient :wink:

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Mon 02/24/14 11:15 PM
Relax, dont focus on your failures, know that your worthy of something good.when you find a comparable girlfriend you will feel at ease and exhale in relief.

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Tue 02/25/14 07:31 AM
My experience has taught me many valuable and cruel lesssons. The more I want, desire or obese I know the likely hood of it becoming reality is almost nil. Like any goal in life, I must first accomplish the small goals to obtain the ultimate goal. So what I have done and many do this, is we get fixed on the end result. Obsession!!!

We forget that while obtaining a goal is wonderful, but the real Gold lies in the journey. Once I began to enjoy the journey, my.... how sweet the flowers smell!!!

Your woman will come if you sit back and enjoy the journey. The end result most of the time is kind of a disappointment in our heads anyway. Because we built it up so much. True love of life is enjoying here, what you have today! Show a woman that and you will have a person to walk with for awhile. But at some point, that journey too will end. Attachment is my worst enemy, everything in this life is temporary. Everything!!!

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Tue 02/25/14 08:07 AM

Every relationship I've had has ended badly. Now i find myself unable to hold a decent conversation with the ladies. What should i do

Become a Ventriloquist

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Tue 02/25/14 12:40 PM

My experience has taught me many valuable and cruel lesssons. The more I want, desire or obese I know the likely hood of it becoming reality is almost nil. Like any goal in life, I must first accomplish the small goals to obtain the ultimate goal. So what I have done and many do this, is we get fixed on the end result. Obsession!!!

We forget that while obtaining a goal is wonderful, but the real Gold lies in the journey. Once I began to enjoy the journey, my.... how sweet the flowers smell!!!

Your woman will come if you sit back and enjoy the journey. The end result most of the time is kind of a disappointment in our heads anyway. Because we built it up so much. True love of life is enjoying here, what you have today! Show a woman that and you will have a person to walk with for awhile. But at some point, that journey too will end. Attachment is my worst enemy, everything in this life is temporary. Everything!!!

I understand what your saying, and for the most part I agree. However i also know the best things in life are never easy to obtain. You have to put forth at least a little effort to get what you want. The problem I keep running into is either: places to meet women are too far away for the mode of transportation I have available, or cost too much money. On top of my self confidence deficiency and being unable to think of what to say at the proper time.