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Topic: i need advice
LowRange Joined Sat 12/28/13 Posts: 664	Tue 02/25/14 02:43 PM
Every relationship I've had has ended badly. Now i find myself unable to hold a decent conversation with the ladies. What should i do Become a Ventriloquist franky I love your answer

pokepox Joined Sun 10/06/13 Posts: 39	Tue 02/25/14 03:06 PM
My experience has taught me many valuable and cruel lesssons. The more I want, desire or obese I know the likely hood of it becoming reality is almost nil. Like any goal in life, I must first accomplish the small goals to obtain the ultimate goal. So what I have done and many do this, is we get fixed on the end result. Obsession!!! We forget that while obtaining a goal is wonderful, but the real Gold lies in the journey. Once I began to enjoy the journey, my.... how sweet the flowers smell!!! Your woman will come if you sit back and enjoy the journey. The end result most of the time is kind of a disappointment in our heads anyway. Because we built it up so much. True love of life is enjoying here, what you have today! Show a woman that and you will have a person to walk with for awhile. But at some point, that journey too will end. Attachment is my worst enemy, everything in this life is temporary. Everything!!! I understand what your saying, and for the most part I agree. However i also know the best things in life are never easy to obtain. You have to put forth at least a little effort to get what you want. The problem I keep running into is either: places to meet women are too far away for the mode of transportation I have available, or cost too much money. On top of my self confidence deficiency and being unable to think of what to say at the proper time. like he said, you must first accomplish the small goals to obtain the ultimate goal. Work towards a profession, get reliable transportation, move. As you accomplish these, you will rightfully gain confidence. After all, why would you have confidence if you havent done anything to be confident about. You dont seem to like where you are....go thru the steps to move. I've tried moving to a new town but unfortunate circumstances have forced me back to this town time and time again. I'm beginning to think there's a reason I keep finding myself here but can't figure out what it might be

Fracus16 Joined Tue 12/31/13 Posts: 104	Tue 02/25/14 03:30 PM
Patients. Do you! That could be the first time I have given advice. I said I wouldn't. My bad all.

rmortonthatsme Joined Mon 02/17/14 Posts: 39	Tue 02/25/14 03:52 PM
Well, if you are a believer that things happen for a reason, then don't beat yourself up over things. You said that every relationship you've had has not worked out, and are perhaps a bit down on yourself for it. The other way of looking at it is that perhaps none of those ladies were the right fit for you. There might be someone out there just waiting to connect, but you wouldn't notice if you were otherwise engaged in a relationship. There have been some well thought out answers to your query. Reflect on those relevant ones.

pokepox Joined Sun 10/06/13 Posts: 39	Tue 02/25/14 09:03 PM
it seems I may be too preoccupied in looking at what i might be doing wrong where i need 2 meditate on what in common all my relationships have. I will take some time to meditate and reflect on what has been said. thx 2 all. If you read poetry check out mine on this site. Its under the heading "A compilation of my poems"