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Topic: Why?????
paintecards01 Joined Wed 09/11/13 Posts: 4725	Mon 01/20/14 04:10 PM
This is all a load of crap. The idea that women want a jerk is only an excuse men make up when they can't get a woman. This.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Mon 01/20/14 04:23 PM Edited by isaac_dede on Mon 01/20/14 04:26 PM
hello I'm angel, there's been a question that has always bugged me and I've always ask myself. is that why do girls nowadays want guys that treat them bad cheat on them hits them makes them sad doesnt appreciate them and plays around with there emotions and feelings and everything but yet that's what a girl really wants and when they have a nice guy right in front of them they dont want him they don't even take an interest in getting to know him that has always bothered me and I've always ask myself why why is that why does a girl prefer a douche over a guy thats going to treat her like a princess I real gentleman... i understand the whole "rebel and bad boy" crap... but still doesnt answer my question... i know the saying good guys finish last and its true so very true... sometimes i feel like giving up and being a total douche maybe girls would find me more interesting... so please if u have and answer help me out... Here's my opinion, take it or leave it, agree or disagree but here is what I think. I think that woman don't want a Jerk...However they DO want a MAN! A lot of 'nice guys' are less manly than many women i know, and as a result they often leave the decision making up to the women Him:"let's go a see a movie" Her"Umm, okay, what movie?" nice guy:googly eyes: "Whatever YOU want to see"....puke. "Her, i don't know I'll think about it and call you later" Him:wonder why she never called...she must just like jerks boohoo Vs. Guy with confidence "Hey, I am going to see the new superman friday night at 8, I would for you to join me if you are free" her: "sounds like fun!" ....nice guy is complaining...The guy already made the decisions...and even if she didn't go the guy should still go and then tell her how great it was next time he saw her, and maybe ask her to another film. The point being, stand up, make a decision, have a little confidence, and if your interested in being more than friend TELL HER, I use to rely on my sister, because I was shy, and I would ask her if this friend liked me or that one, and I NEVER asked the girl directly(if I would have my high-school life would have been A LOT different) I thought none of my sisters friends liked me, found out later that many of them had crushes on me, but were waiting for me to make the first move...which I never did....and I would complain about the jerks than too....turns out they weren't jerks, I was a being poosy(block that), and the reason I didn't have many girlfriends in High-school was entirely my fault.

paintecards01 Joined Wed 09/11/13 Posts: 4725	Mon 01/20/14 05:25 PM
hello I'm angel, there's been a question that has always bugged me and I've always ask myself. is that why do girls nowadays want guys that treat them bad cheat on them hits them makes them sad doesnt appreciate them and plays around with there emotions and feelings and everything but yet that's what a girl really wants and when they have a nice guy right in front of them they dont want him they don't even take an interest in getting to know him that has always bothered me and I've always ask myself why why is that why does a girl prefer a douche over a guy thats going to treat her like a princess I real gentleman... i understand the whole "rebel and bad boy" crap... but still doesnt answer my question... i know the saying good guys finish last and its true so very true... sometimes i feel like giving up and being a total douche maybe girls would find me more interesting... so please if u have and answer help me out... Here's my opinion, take it or leave it, agree or disagree but here is what I think. I think that woman don't want a Jerk...However they DO want a MAN! A lot of 'nice guys' are less manly than many women i know, and as a result they often leave the decision making up to the women Him:"let's go a see a movie" Her"Umm, okay, what movie?" nice guy:googly eyes: "Whatever YOU want to see"....puke. "Her, i don't know I'll think about it and call you later" Him:wonder why she never called...she must just like jerks boohoo Vs. Guy with confidence "Hey, I am going to see the new superman friday night at 8, I would for you to join me if you are free" her: "sounds like fun!" ....nice guy is complaining...The guy already made the decisions...and even if she didn't go the guy should still go and then tell her how great it was next time he saw her, and maybe ask her to another film. The point being, stand up, make a decision, have a little confidence, and if your interested in being more than friend TELL HER, I use to rely on my sister, because I was shy, and I would ask her if this friend liked me or that one, and I NEVER asked the girl directly(if I would have my high-school life would have been A LOT different) I thought none of my sisters friends liked me, found out later that many of them had crushes on me, but were waiting for me to make the first move...which I never did....and I would complain about the jerks than too....turns out they weren't jerks, I was a being poosy(block that), and the reason I didn't have many girlfriends in High-school was entirely my fault.

izzyphoto1977 Joined Thu 06/06/13 Posts: 5016	Mon 01/20/14 05:29 PM
Maybe you need to work on your taste in women, not all women are interested in jerks, just like all men aren't interested in sluts. We're not? Are all men interested in threesomes at least? lol

paintecards01 Joined Wed 09/11/13 Posts: 4725	Mon 01/20/14 05:31 PM
Maybe you need to work on your taste in women, not all women are interested in jerks, just like all men aren't interested in sluts. We're not? Are all men interested in threesomes at least? lol Nothing is true of everyone. I know some men want threesomes, some don't. Some want sluts, some don't. Generalizations bother me because they're not true. That's where you get stereotypes from, generalizations.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Mon 01/20/14 05:31 PM
Maybe you need to work on your taste in women, not all women are interested in jerks, just like all men aren't interested in sluts. We're not? Are all men interested in threesomes at least? lol only if you're the other woman izzy

paintecards01 Joined Wed 09/11/13 Posts: 4725	Mon 01/20/14 05:32 PM


izzyphoto1977 Joined Thu 06/06/13 Posts: 5016	Mon 01/20/14 05:34 PM
Maybe you need to work on your taste in women, not all women are interested in jerks, just like all men aren't interested in sluts. We're not? Are all men interested in threesomes at least? lol only if you're the other woman izzy Sorry to spoil it for ya. But I'm a guy and I have no intrest in getting a sex change.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Mon 01/20/14 05:58 PM
Maybe you need to work on your taste in women, not all women are interested in jerks, just like all men aren't interested in sluts. We're not? Are all men interested in threesomes at least? lol Nothing is true of everyone. I know some men want threesomes, some don't. Some want sluts, some don't. Generalizations bother me because they're not true. That's where you get stereotypes from, generalizations. stereotypes aren't true....being in the navy and showering with 80 other guys I could tell you a few that aren't... some would prove them true....some would not!

paintecards01 Joined Wed 09/11/13 Posts: 4725	Mon 01/20/14 06:10 PM
Maybe you need to work on your taste in women, not all women are interested in jerks, just like all men aren't interested in sluts. We're not? Are all men interested in threesomes at least? lol Nothing is true of everyone. I know some men want threesomes, some don't. Some want sluts, some don't. Generalizations bother me because they're not true. That's where you get stereotypes from, generalizations. stereotypes aren't true....being in the navy and showering with 80 other guys I could tell you a few that aren't... some would prove them true....some would not! Exactly. I'm proof that a few aren't true either....

izzyphoto1977 Joined Thu 06/06/13 Posts: 5016	Mon 01/20/14 06:24 PM
I am proof that a mind is a terrible thing.

isaac_dede Joined Sat 11/24/07 Posts: 10632	Mon 01/20/14 06:49 PM
I am proof that a mind is a terrible thing. and that with a wig you wouldn't require a sex-change

izzyphoto1977 Joined Thu 06/06/13 Posts: 5016	Mon 01/20/14 06:51 PM
How does that make sense? Have you been in prison before?

paintecards01 Joined Wed 09/11/13 Posts: 4725	Mon 01/20/14 07:04 PM
Omg

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Mon 01/20/14 07:21 PM
Maybe you need to work on your taste in women, not all women are interested in jerks, just like all men aren't interested in sluts. I agree with paint on this one. Just keep on being yourself sometimes it seems that you go through a cycle where all you meet are the wrong people and it makes you think they are all bad. I believe women want nice guys who treat them with respect and kindness its just that its got to be natural fit and not forced. You seem genuine and I think a nice woman will notice you before you know it. Just remember how frustrated you were before you met her and treat good so you can keep her. Good luck in your search my friend.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Mon 01/20/14 07:33 PM
Has ever occurred to anyone here that there may be a kernel of truth to the complaint about women rejecting nice guys for bad boys? Sure, the kernel may be tiny, but a tiny kernel is still a kernel. I see that kernel every time I learn about an alleged "Christian" woman who decided to date (and even marry) a non-Christian man, contrary to what the New Testament says in 2 Corinthians 6:14.

paintecards01 Joined Wed 09/11/13 Posts: 4725	Mon 01/20/14 07:36 PM
Most so-called "nice guys" are only nice by their own definition. I have yet to meet a self-proclaimed nice guy who wasn't a total douche.

markc48 Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 5536	Mon 01/20/14 08:37 PM
I posted twice today before this. And I got an invite. I'm wondering why.

paintecards01 Joined Wed 09/11/13 Posts: 4725	Mon 01/20/14 08:39 PM
I posted twice today before this. And I got an invite. I'm wondering why. Because you're not a douche?

Candiapples Joined Thu 07/18/13 Posts: 1941	Mon 01/20/14 09:09 PM Edited by Candiapples on Mon 01/20/14 09:33 PM
I think the men are confusing nice guys with bad guys Theres a difference between being a push over and a nice guy..I don't think most women want a guy thats easily controlled and manipulated although there are women who do like that. We want a man who has confidence, his own interests, his own mind and isn't afraid to speak his mind. That does not make him a bad boy. Speaking for myself..I like a man who can take control but isn't controlling.