If you're honest with yourself you can tell how a person feels about you, no matter what they say. If someone consistently treats you like crap and constantly says they care about you, unless you're in serious denial you know they're lying.

You don't say how long you have been dating the guy, most guys do treat ladies very well despite what some may say, even if they are only in the friend zone.

I don't really understand your confusion, most relationships start out as friendships that hopefully move forward from there to a relationship.

As others have suggested, you may be moving faster than he is, but only time will tell in my opinion.

Early on in the relationship I had an ex wanting me to tell her that I loved her, so I did and she just told me to f**k off. Told her that I loved her other times and she said that I didn't and it was just lust.

With other relationships that I've had, as soon as I started telling them that I really cared about them they backed off, as if I was being possessive or going too fast for them or something.

I am an honest guy and too much for my own good sometimes. I do like to talk about feelings with a girlfriend though, even if saying, "I love you" is really corny and can come across as being fake, or some line that you use to get into their pants, or something that women just expect you to do, like sending flowers.

My mistake is that I'm too direct. People keep telling me that I should play it cool and pretend I can take it or leave it. And it seems as though this guy you're going on about is doing a good job at it. He's got you dangling on a string. But does he know when to pounce? Too much toying with the prey gives it a chance to get away.

Well, you have a point mate but you can still play it cool with women and get your way with them.

I've had women practically stalking me and ringing me up for those booty calls and I rarely call women myself. One got my phone number from the tag that's on my dog's collar.

There's a difference between "playing it cool" like some little kid that pretends that he's not interested though and being cool and flirting. Here's an example:

A girl that I met from the internet said to me that she didn't like emailing and she had to meet me to know. So, I was sitting there with her and I got this smile on my face. She asked me why I was smiling and I said that I was about to say something about that but probably shouldn't. She told me to go ahead and I said that I had to see her boobs to know.

So....did she show them?

I agree with this but for men sometimes I think It just hard for some of us to be as emotionally deep as women,It can be a curse but sometimes its hard to open up.
@ side note no worries JT I think your hilarious!

personally i think she's in love with me.she does tend to find my posts pretty easily and always replies

i have an admirer


"my posts brings all the girls to the yard
and i'm like,my replies are better than yours
and i'm like,my replies are better than yours"

Well, I have to put my vote in on this one "JT" does know how to crack ya up.

She sure did and very nice they were too.

Well, that's a good thing.......

Well, I already knew that she was a sure thing and I was just making "the move". It's not like I would come out with something like that with the sort of woman that might be offended by something like that. I think that the point that I was trying to make is that you don't have to "pounce" and if a woman is interested you can just play it cool and let her take it at her pace. I've found that even a woman that is "easy" won't like it if you come on too strong.

This guy says that he's looking for intimate encounters but even women that are on here for that sort of thing complain about perverts and guys that are too pushy.

Lol; Too funny TwatStrat
grinning the whole way;life's "funny", isn't it.
Funny Posts!

Well I did dt smtym cos I knew I cldnt gt ha...so y bother tellin ha hw I feel anyway?

Well, how nice it is to see a man with some integrity. People like to sugar coat it and say it's okay to lies as long as it is a white lie but that doesn't change the fact they lied and it certainly doesn't make it any better. I hope you never change and if these women can't deal with your honesty; then it's their loss.

I live in an area where women out number men about 7--1. I hear complaints that "every man I meet is married, gay, or leaving next Wednesday."

Some are on Mingle. Try and strike up a conversation and you treated as a stalker. Where is the honesty there?

It isn't just the expats, but the local women also. I think the gals play more games than the guys.

The only conversations I seem to attract is over my dog.

I get that a lot too. Don't think it's to do with honesty though, it's about being open. It's as if ppl are so not used to others being open that they simply don't believe you when you are.
I sometimes wished I wasn't that open, but I can't change myself and don't really want to either. Ppl that are worthwhile react differently, both men and women, so I'm hoping to some day find this one man who's like that too. A man who will appreciate it.

Well, like I've said before I'm an open book and I'm too honest for my own good sometimes.

Sometimes it annoys people and they call me a shite stirrer. I mean, I'll be sitting round the dinner table at a family meal and they are all there with their plastic smiles, keeping up appearances. I have a really close relationship with my mother and she looks to me for support and advice with problems in the family and I do that. When I think that people are talking crap I call them on it and I'm prepared to take criticism myself because I don't pretend to be perfect and blame everyone else for my problems.

Sometimes when you are very honest people don't like it and it can cause problems in relationships but I don't pretend to be something that I'm not and I do like to talk things through. I've talked about this before on here but I didn't talk to my ex for five years until recently and we were able to resolve our issues because we are both more mature. I told her why I had ended it and about everything that she had put me through and what I thought of her. She listened and was finally able to see it from my point of view and she apologised.

When we were together I didn't always say to her what I thought about her and about the way that she was behaving towards me though because it would just have caused more arguments. Perhaps though I was too honest about myself and my past because she did use it against me, or would just say, "Yes, I know all about your childhood and that. Get over it".

Hmm, maybe your approach or conversation is all wrong? I know when I met guys; I loved talking about a number of different things but the once I mentioned say doing my own renos; that usually ended the date. They simply didn't want to hear a woman saying she could do things for herself, so I had to pretend to be dumb to keep their interest in me. That approach worked for a while but eventually I had to be myself and again it was game over. Incidentally; it was my friends' idea to act dumb but it made me feel very dishonest and guilty; so this is why I would have to come clean with them as I make a lousy liar.