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| Topic: Can you maintain a ten years lie-free relationship? | |
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Personal opinion only: It takes a person with great courage and character to make the decision to be truthful. If you lie, your show a lack of courage and character and the only person you really deceive is yourself.
 So bottom line, everyone will do what his/her character is but the knowledge of that remains within the person himself/herself unless they are actually caught in a lie. Only that person can change what is within himself/herself as only that person truly knows whether or not he/she is telling the truth or is lying about anything. 
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Everybody lies. If they say they don't, they're lying! 
People lie for a variety of reasons. Mostly it's because they're afraid to face the consequences of their actions. Simple as that. I find it funny that somebody thinks it's acceptable to lie about cheating on their partner because they don't want to hurt them or risk losing them. Well Einstein, perhaps you should have thought about that before cheating on them and you wouldn't need to lie about it! 
I personally see no reason to lie, not even 'white lies'. For example: I ask my boyfriend "Does this dress make my arse look fat?". 
I don't want to hear the honest truth, "Like a damn tank!" 
But I also don't want him to lie and say "No baby, you look hot!"  ...when I actually look like a tank. 
The correct answer would be "I like that little black dress you have better." No lie, no hurt feelings, you just need a little tact to tell the truth in most circumstances to avoid the 'white lies'. It isn't always easy, but it's always better to tell the truth no matter what. Lying is just plain wrong. Period! 
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Probably not, however, it could be possible.
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D realationship depends on what you used. To foundate you relationship.....it depends on how you trust yourself,,and. How you love yourself..cos relationship stANds on. Trust an love...when you possess this its last longer....
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I can say I have. The last 10 years of my marriage, though it did me no good.
I found that there is no real reason to lie. Lieing only developes into animosity and resent. Two of the worst things to have in a relationship. I spent 10 years telling my ex, absolutely everything I did, everywhere I went, every dime I spent. In the end, I was still accused of cheating, hiding money, and doing things behind her back. It got so bad that my own children started defending me. I mean, they were always with me, so why wouldnt they defend their dad? Then I was accused of "brain washing my children", and "teaching them to lie to their mother". I admit that early on, durring the 1st 2 years, I lied adout stupid ****. Looking back, I never had a reason to lie. Not a good one anyhow. I have nothing to be afraid of. So I stopped. I still maintain a lie-less life. The trouble of lieing is a wadte of my time and just gets me nowhere. If you ask, I tell the truth. If you dont like my answer, too bad, then you shouldnt have asked in the first place. I just dont lie. Its not worth it. Some of you may think that is a dumb way to be, but im happy with who I am. I have nothing to hide. |
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Anyway like wat Crystalfairy is sayin somehw it depends on wat d lies are abt,bt d truth is dat a trusted n truthful relationship never dies,xecialy wen God's hand is in it...
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Yeaa..sure its possible....but y its difficult its cos already we human have developed this culture of judging things always by experience....majority will say no....but its possible...its just trust..thats the key...and rising up when u fall......we are humans if u lie and u realise how bad it is...u promise urself not to do it again..u move on with your life....
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I can say I have. The last 10 years of my marriage, though it did me no good. I found that there is no real reason to lie. Lieing only developes into animosity and resent. Two of the worst things to have in a relationship. I spent 10 years telling my ex, absolutely everything I did, everywhere I went, every dime I spent. In the end, I was still accused of cheating, hiding money, and doing things behind her back. It got so bad that my own children started defending me. I mean, they were always with me, so why wouldnt they defend their dad? Then I was accused of "brain washing my children", and "teaching them to lie to their mother". I admit that early on, durring the 1st 2 years, I lied adout stupid ****. Looking back, I never had a reason to lie. Not a good one anyhow. I have nothing to be afraid of. So I stopped. I still maintain a lie-less life. The trouble of lieing is a wadte of my time and just gets me nowhere. If you ask, I tell the truth. If you dont like my answer, too bad, then you shouldnt have asked in the first place. I just dont lie. Its not worth it. Some of you may think that is a dumb way to be, but im happy with who I am. I have nothing to hide. 
I wish more people would be this 'dumb'. Honesty really is the best policy, always! Small lies snowball into big lies. Plus it's hard to keep track of the lies. The truth is always the truth and doesn't change. Plus once you get caught in a lie, you become untrustworthy. Once trust is lost, it's hard (if not impossible!) to get back. Since trust is vital to any relationship, I think it's important to not lie about even the stupidest things. If it's a dumb way to be, then I'm happy being an honest moron! 
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It is a totally bulllschittt and worthless question.
Show me the man who says he hasn't lied in 10 years...and I will point to him and show you one lying s.o.b. Truly weak |
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No . Exactly
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Yes...your butt does make you look fat.
No...it ain't the jeans..it is your tiny little head that makes your butt look big. Your family is a bunch of freak show psychopaths...you are almost normal compared to them. I can love you...when you aren't a total fc up. Oh please...you people want honesty less than I do. I know very well I got faults.. Do I want my girl clearly spelling out all my faults?....no You people who are pretending to take the righteous path...keep on telling yourself you want nothing but honesty...I call bullschitt. If you guys really got it dialed in and know how it is...why is it that I got a good woman...and the people with no lover's got all the opinions on how things are? You people go on with absolute honesty that keeps you single. I am more realistic.,.I lie to myself and tell me I am still the best she has ever had. I am good with the lie. Be truthful...tell your lover that he /she ain't that hot and that you had better at a BonJovi concert in 1983....see exactly how far real honesty goes. Do yourself a real favor...do what you gotta do for love...put aside all the dumb ideas that lonely Internet hand humpers have to say...if their ideas are that good...we should all go hump them...but we don't ...why? Cause they got no clue what it takes to make a relationship work. Ask all thier exes about all that honesty. |
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Wadda long story . You r right . Its all bull **** !
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If you cant handle the truth,dont ask the question.accept the answer,not the answer you want to hear.
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Yes...your butt does make you look fat. No...it ain't the jeans..it is your tiny little head that makes your butt look big. Your family is a bunch of freak show psychopaths...you are almost normal compared to them. I can love you...when you aren't a total fc up. Oh please...you people want honesty less than I do. I know very well I got faults.. Do I want my girl clearly spelling out all my faults?....no You people who are pretending to take the righteous path...keep on telling yourself you want nothing but honesty...I call bullschitt. If you guys really got it dialed in and know how it is...why is it that I got a good woman...and the people with no lover's got all the opinions on how things are? You people go on with absolute honesty that keeps you single. I am more realistic.,.I lie to myself and tell me I am still the best she has ever had. I am good with the lie. Be truthful...tell your lover that he /she ain't that hot and that you had better at a BonJovi concert in 1983....see exactly how far real honesty goes. Do yourself a real favor...do what you gotta do for love...put aside all the dumb ideas that lonely Internet hand humpers have to say...if their ideas are that good...we should all go hump them...but we don't ...why? Cause they got no clue what it takes to make a relationship work. Ask all thier exes about all that honesty. 
I love you! Why are all men with a brain taken? When are you gonna mail me this twin bro of yours? 
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If you cant handle the truth,dont ask the question.accept the answer,not the answer you want to hear. |
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hi
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It is a totally bulllschittt and worthless question. Show me the man who says he hasn't lied in 10 years...and I will point to him and show you one lying s.o.b. Truly weak Weak is not being comfortable enough with who you are to tell it like it is. A real man doesn't lie. He has no need to. So it is to be assumed that lieing is ok? Acceptable? So we are to teach our children to lie? To be fake? I do not accept that, and am insulted at the audacity of such. A douche lies because he/she is afraid of the consequences. It takes cast iron balls to tell the truth, no mater what the question, or whom you are speaking with. |
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Yes . It's . Been done..,,21 years of total h honesty..honesty created many feuds because sometimes the truth can hurt.
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"I always tell the truth, even well I lie" (Scareface the movie)
yes a can maintain a lie free relationship,I have great friends that go back to the sand box. As far as a girlfriend/wife,if they are "perfect" then that will bring out the best in me but if she's not very understanding and unnecessarily nagging all the time then I would eventually lie to prevent fighting example: If a said I would pay a bill that she was concerned about and she phone me in the afternoon and asked if a got it payed yet, Knowing its on my list for the day,then I think it would make more sense to say its take care of it. "I Always tell the truth even when I lie" "Every action get a reaction" but its person specific So to answer the question, yes I can to the right person. they have to be worthy of the truth,and this is how we rationalize. now lets say I got in a car accidents and I said I had payed it,and the power got cut off,then my rebuttal would be "well thats because your just a nagging f_ _ _ _ _ b_ _ _ _ This may be a good relationship otherwise so the little lies would be to avoid unnecessary worrying,stress and fighting. Respecting your partner is respecting yourself I don't cheat or drink/drug and if someone will lie it will be most likely to cover up. |
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I don't have to worry about that; I can't make a relationship last beyond a year; so I don't have to worry about being lie free for 10 years. I actually get physically sick when I lie to someone; so no I won't lie which is why I am single. Men don't like hearing the truth from me; so my relationships don't last. Oh well. LOL
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