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Hello friends!
Just need to ask: What are the signs of a healthy argument in a relationship? Reason i'm asking, i've noted that guys usually pull out from the argument when at times what is being argued about is important. How does one know if the relationship is strong enough to continue after an argument that shook grounds from both parties? What are signs of a healthy argument? |
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Listening and assimilating it.
No yelling. No leaving. |
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Yep, subdued voices and no temper tantrums.
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When a couple can respect one anothers opinion on the matters at hand, and if need be, agree to disagree and move on. This makes for a healthier relationship.
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i've noted that guys usually pull out from the argument when at times what is being argued about is important.
Actually, guys do not "pull out from" an argument. Instead, they acknowledge that an argument has ended, because all parties have stated their beliefs. However, if one party isn't satisfied with the outcome of the argument, then that party might try to keep the argument going. |
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You both listen to each others reasons for the argument. Don't end up killing each other.
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Make up sex....
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this...^^^
followed by uninterrupted sportscenter. |
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Edited by
ridewytepony
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Sun 05/19/13 05:42 PM
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i've noted that guys usually pull out from the argument when at times what is being argued about is important.
Actually, guys do not "pull out from" an argument. Instead, they acknowledge that an argument has ended, because all parties have stated their beliefs. However, if one party isn't satisfied with the outcome of the argument, then that party might try to keep the argument going. I was thinking the same as David on this one, Thats odd you say that, personally i have found the opposite. Posibly they often discredit your claims, I suppose that manicure appointment doesn't take precedence over waiting for the plumber! ....I dont know..its just guys, we have weird prioritise.....lol. 
Its very ironic to be so lose with your your words Considering great communication on both sides Is key. [Personally style] So learning to be assertive on both sides Positive Verbal characteristics, positive non-verbal characteristics Thinking style |
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Seen it many many many times, people who say they don't argue but can't stop from doing it, or starting it. They'll even argue about not arguing.
They belong to a camp that says you need to have strong arguements (not disagreements, arguements) before you marry so you will know how to deal with it. Where did this group come from and who let them in the door? |
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Thank you so much friends, I had something to learn from everyones' answer. Much appreciation to you all...
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well,some people you could put in a round Room,and they would pick an argument with a Corner!
Stay away from those! |
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actively listening to the other peson's POV without interupting.
Taking measured turns with responses that discuss ONLY this issue. nothing brought up from past arguments. no personal attacks, nothing brought up about previous mistakes unless they're material now. avoid "always," and "never" after a certain time 30min-60 min - grant your partner a break & time to think if he needs it. it might do u some good too, but definitely set a time to resume the discussion and neither can miss it. no silent treatment that lasts longer than say, an hour be open to agree to disagree the point of the argument is to provide a workable solution not control your partner |
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Seen it many many many times, people who say they don't argue but can't stop from doing it, or starting it. They'll even argue about not arguing. They belong to a camp that says you need to have strong arguements (not disagreements, arguements) before you marry so you will know how to deal with it. Where did this group come from and who let them in the door? I don't argue, at least very seldomn. I do agree to disagree a lot tho. I am stubborn and would prefer to spend my times in other kinds of conversations that is why I do not follow up on disagreements on here most of the time. (past say one or two additional posts) I am from Ohio if for some reason that is important oh and gotta call you on one thing you said: I believe that there should be no or very few arguments in order to wed :) I will seldom even go on additional date with someone where I feel there is going to be an argument or unpleasantness |
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Seen it many many many times, people who say they don't argue but can't stop from doing it, or starting it. They'll even argue about not arguing. They belong to a camp that says you need to have strong arguements (not disagreements, arguements) before you marry so you will know how to deal with it. Where did this group come from and who let them in the door? Arguing is for amateurs Michael, it's how we learn  ...Don't know anything about that "camp" you're referring to though!
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No throwing.
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No throwing. Or spitting and pulling hair... |
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No throwing. Or spitting and pulling hair... aw c'mon don't outlaw the spitting.... 
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No throwing. Or spitting and pulling hair... aw c'mon don't outlaw the spitting....
I don't want to argue with you, BUT I SAID NO SPITTING !!!  SPITTING IS NOT ALLOWED!! ......NO SPITTING EVER!!!
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An argument is "healthy" when it is over and all the dishes are still in one piece, the lamps aren't broken and you're still in the same room together.
Disagreement is a good thing, and when a couple can disagree and still love each other, they'll be together a long time. |
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