Hi,

Does this site have an option of deleting activities in ones account? There too man photos of members that I'm assumed to like, I don't have an option of deleting them. Would you kindly help me please...

Interesting question Jaaak!

I would have liked if we were to go out and play games that require a team work so I can see early if we can team up and work towards achieving the same goal. It's little things like that... that speak volumes about a combination of two different fellows who have just met and willing to a relationship.

Hi everyone and thank you for partaking in my post by sharing your thoughts!

Looking at the time and effort wasted in developing relationships' that never work at times, I then wondered:

Is it better to have matters discussed in early days so that parties involved can either accept one another OR part ways sooner before bonding and getting attached?

What if this sabotages the potential had they waited longer instead of having premature discussions in early day when they still trying to figure out if they relate at all OR can cater for one anothers' differences?

Can one really tell if/when the time is more favourable for discussions that would have shaken grounds and intimidated the relationship? What are possible signs?

Thank you once more for time taken in reading and writing back,
God bless!

Hi everyone and thank you for partaking in my post by sharing your thoughts!

Looking at the time and effort wasted in developing relationships' that never work at times, I then wondered:

Is it better to have matters discussed in early days so that parties involved can either accept one another OR part ways sooner before bonding and getting attached?

What if this sabotages the potential had they waited longer instead of having premature discussions in early day when they still trying to figure out if they relate at all OR can cater for one anothers' differences?

Can one really tell if/when the time is more favourable for discussions that would have shaken grounds and intimidated the relationship? What are possible signs?

Thank you once more for time taken in reading and writing back,
God bless!

Ifebongue

“I need a wife because not all women are wife.”

I hope you won't be offended or insulted with my reply fore it's meant well, not with the intention of insulting or belittling your desire of finding a wife.

I personally think that a marriage relationship should be layed on a more solid foundation than desiring to commit cause “not all woman are wives!”

Won't you rather state what your expectations are from a mate and what you have to offer as a husband, a lady who think that she's suitable will inbox you then you'll take it from there.

Hello my beloved sisters!
I'd really appreciate your feedback on the following please.
My question to you is taken from 2different passages in the bible

The first passage is: Genesis 27-29
The summery of this story is when Jaboc stole Esau's blessings and therefore escaped to Laban's place since Esau wanted to kill him.

The 2nd passage is: 1 Kings 17:8-24
This one was when there was a drought and poverty in the land since people didn't wanna here God's word through Elijah.

Now ladies these two guys had two things inconmon,
The first one was:
* Coming across lacking WHILE having God's blessings.
* They both had to initiate a relationship for acceptance,
Jacob had to break the ice with Rachel,
Elijah had to do likewise with the window.

My question to you fellow sisters in Christ is:
What will it take you to give a benefit of a doubt to a fellow brother who wants to pursues you and maybe you are interested, THOUGH he comes across lacking this particular requirement that's in your list of requirements as seaching for your mate?

Can we have this discuss ladies relating our seach to the two opening passages by Jacob and Elijah.

Much appreciation for your shared thoughts on this subject!!

Wonderful lessons you've posted there dear lady,

With some I agree, with some I don't

With some I relate, with some I don't

Some are just new lessons that got me thinking for a little while since they something I haven't experienced just yet.

Nonetheless,
Its a wonderful list!

Hello to you dear sister

"Am I crazy to think that my perfect guy is out there somewhere?"
Nope, you not crazy dear
Instead you're normal like any other girl/lady that loves life, ambitious & planning a good future that involves a great father to her kids & a wonderful husbend/partner by her side. I think its every girls' wish (who wants to settle down someday) to have her desired life time partner to spend her future days with, depending on her personal values & requirements of a good husbend.

"Youth of today grow up not caring as much about their gifts & religion"
Maybe not caring that much about their gifts, But religion is still a big deal as far as i've observed. We may fail to keep up with certain instruction, like abstaining from sex
But religion is just as important now as it was back then.

"however having these believes can be difficult as in todays' society, sex seems to have less meaning & most just give it up to the person they 'think' they've fallen in love with."
That one is very true dear,
Media contributes a lot to this issue. Sex is every where you look, not to mantion the easy access young people have to porn vedios without parents knowing, we just download from our cell phones & have these things registered in our minds,
Next thing we wanna put them into practice.

Your post is very realistic & true dear.
Sex has lost its meaning these days, especially since we have rights & freedom of choice in deciding what we wanna do with our bodies.

7 Complicated facts about weman:

1, They believe in savings
2, Still they go out & buy expensive clothes
3, Always buy expensive clothes but never have anything to wear
4, Never have anything to wear but always dress beautifully
5, Always dress beautifully but never satisfied
6, Never satisfied but still expect men to compliment them
7, Expect men to compliment but don't believe them if complimented

Well what can we say ladies, its womans' month we need to celebrate our selves

Happy womans' month to all the ladies in this site!!

(In South Africa August its a national womans' month)

Maturity is not always massured by age,
I personally don't think you should be asking other people what age group you should be dating, that's your personal assignment to try & discover as to which age group you'd rather persue. People have their own experiences inspite of the age group & so will you.... Discover your self first dear.

I wonder...

Correction on my first sentance.

I winder if i'll be helpful...?

I personally don't see anything wrong in how you're breaking the ice. Considering that you don't really know much about the person that you're trying to interact with, you only have what's written on their profile to start the conversation, just as you're doing.

Suppose we just have to respect people's decisions wiether they ambrace or reject, but you're doing well as far as you have said.

With time a suitable mate will come along,
You won't have to put much effort to keep the conversation flowing, it will automatically happen.

Wishing you the very best on your seach dear!!

Hello to you dear,
Interesting question you asked hey

With me inperson its: cleanlyness & decency. (not nessesarily wearing fancy clothes, but looking clean & decent)

Online its: senseful comment or post. (doesn't have to be a very long post/answer to the asked question but rather loaded with maturity)

One of my favorite qoate is:

"Be the change that you want to see"

You really are a blessing dear.

Much appreciation for your posts!

Wow!

Just what I needed to hear,

I'm really humbled.

Great idea Dav...
Glad to be part of this

Sperenza

Hello dear!
There's always a reaction for an action.
Something must have heppened to caused this....

Hello Scott,

Welcome to Mingle2.

Good luck on your seach...

Can I share a little personal incident that made be start obseving this kind of respond whenever something positive is brought forth to men kind by God or onother fellow sister/brother. The very first energy to manifest is resistance often times. One may reconsider & get back to you latter about the matter brought forth but doubtfullness comes first.

This one time at work (very recent) a fellow lady workmate whom i'm not even friends with, we only talk about work related issues, comes to me with a film tone (not hush but more of an orderly kind of tone if you get what I mean) & say "This thing about you of being single should come to an end"

Was surely amazed since I didn't expect that from her. Didn't say anything as she carried on for weeks now (she's more of those crazy types that always make people laugh even when serious issues are addressed, she'll sort of cause disorder by whispering & those around her will start laughing.) I didn't take her seriously as she pesisted until this one time I was in a cheerful mood, I started the subject as she approached. "So what do you think I should do about being single since you don't seem to approve?"

She was so excited seing me showing interest, it was as if she was she was waiting on me to eventually come around. She said "friend I've found you a suitable mate, someone perfect for you. He's obsessed about God just like you, hardworking & ambitious like you friend. You two have a lot in common you'll relate."

I asked as days were passing by & I just never heared the end of the subject. "How do you know if he'll even like me or if i'll love him for that matter...? You're so passionate about this, you keep me posted daily on he's moves & plans" that was when she told me that he was out of the province for few days, when he comes back, he was gonna come meet me since he's was told a lot about me.
"I gave him your cell numbers friend, hope you don't mind" she carried on "hasn't he called you yet?" no I don't recall getting a call of that sort, I replied.

"He's so inlove friend, your pictures are everywhere in he's office. As for he's mother she's so excited looking forth meeting you. At least now they know I wasn't leading them on" I FREAKED OUT

"You did what....? You gave my photos without me knowing about it? Where did you get my photo? I asked... "no friend don't be angry, I had to download them from your bbm, since no one believed me that I could hook him up with a decent person. He's been seaching for a while now with no luck...."

For that reason I won't coperate, I said.


I'm not telling the story cause I regret if it could have worked friends,
It just kept me wondering why often times human nature responds with resistance?

Moses kept raising excuses when God sent him to Egypt, that he wasn't able to express himself very well verbally.

Abraham's excuses was that he was too old to have a child, with Sarah laughing at the angels when they made a promise that she was gonna concieve. That was resistance though they eventually came around the idea & started believing God for the promise, the very first respond was doubtfullness.

Likewise with Jeremia when called by God. He went on about being too young to testify & prophecy.

There's many more examples to qoate from the bible, I know you get the picture now. What do you think I a reason for human nature to respond to positivity with such energy of doubtfullness/resistance?

Thank you guys for sharing your idea on this....