Hi there. I'm new to online dating sites. I just wanted to know if I'm being unreasonable or aiming too high on my profile, or are my expectations fair? Take a look and let me know your thoughts. Thanks.

hello every one friends i am new on online dating site please rate me Thanks

Hi d_twinlance,

Good profile. Really thorough. It seems to be a bit long to read, but I think some ladies, and possibly the ones you want to meet, would actually like that. It was well-written and only seems a little dry and possibly sterile. Without passion or fun. However, you do mention travel and dinners, so you're not a total "stick-in-the-mud." Spending on dinners seems to be trivial costs, so the part about insisting on splitting those costs seems a bit petty. Though, it's probably just being honest on your part.

You've got some nice photos, but if I were you, I'd choose the 2nd photo for your default. You might also look for photos of you in the daylight, or something with more color. Possibly one doing something you like. Just an idea, though. The ones you've got seem OK.

Good job. I rate your profile 9/10.

Good luck!

Thank you for your analysis and constructive criticism Mortman. I have taken some of your words to heart and cleared up a part of my profile that needed further explanation.

And yes, it was just me being honest and careful after an unfortunate learning experience. I know I seem dry and sterile on paper, but the passion and fun part comes once I meet my potential dates after having already discouraged the wrong people from approaching me. To some surprise I've actually made contact with a few prospects due to the flat-out honesty of my profile.

Thanks again, and good luck to you as well sir.

- D

For a younger guy who seems to have his head on straight about a lot of things I think you are falling on your own sword with this profile.

It is fine to focus on the fact that you are a young professional in training and you have modest means now that will probably improve with time but you don't need to say you don't feel like bank rolling the party girls. Just avoid that kind of hanging out on your first date offerings and that problem's solved.

If you have felt like an ATM with hair then you are not going to gain any ground punishing the innocent for the sins of who you picked and let walk all over you. If you want hang out pals don't call it a date and then expect that any self respecting adult is going to pay for the privelege. And if you think you can avoid a gold digger by saying "you pay for a few dates until I feel like I can let down my guard because that is just what they are going to do then nail you to a cross once you do. A truely desireable lady will not pick your pocket to start with and will reciprocate the invitation is she is legit. True it may be modest as many women, especially women who are your age and peer group are going to spend most of their dateing budget on looking good for the dates you offer (keep that in mind and ask a friend you trust if you really don't know what it costs women to present as dateable) but if you start out begrudgeing what you spend for dates I can tell you you will resent the hell out of shelling out for a bride and a pregnancy and provideing for an at home parent for a young family. Anyone who tells you that they can "do it all" and still pay according to what you consider equity from your remarks is lieing out right or never been a parent. A lot of young women may tell you they have sympathy for your position but I guarantee you when they are married and especially if they get pregnant that tune will change.

I know you are trying to make a point about weight and health but you could not have done yourself more damage if you had cut your own throat. You always have the option to request a picture , and be real in todays world with the technolgy that is everywhere a current picture or live video is possible for free so many places you can make your own visual assessment that this insult is making you look as neurotic as the people you hope to avoid. And since women, especially 20ish women, can vary their weight wildly the only way you are going to know what to predict is to know them and their lifestyle in person to know their health habits. The old say8ing the apple does not fall very far from the tree is particularly true in this issue so if diet and lifestyle is important to you look at family for accurate info. And probably only then over time. If you are willing to accept 200 pounds at 20ish I can pretty much guarantee you that you will live with 250 to 300 when pregnant and thirtyish or forty and a stressed out mother of teens worrying about you hanging around the teaching workplace with 20ish slimbodies.

I can truely understand the desire to want to avoid the obviously defective people that you mention but do you honestly think if someone is told you will disqualify themself that they are going to own up to it? Don't waste precious profile real estate with stateing the obvious and making it clear you have already fallen for your quota of "frogettes" because it just paints a big ole target on you.

Or think you are going to have any long term play with others who want to whine over their worst date scenarios until you get tired of their complaining. What is more likely then they will be dissing you on various sites includeing talking to your local dateing pool. Gals talk to other gals just like guys talk to other guys or gal pals. Being a kiss and tell is NEVER a good idea. Even if you think you are being vague about your history .

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In a few paragraphs, you seem to write your requirements clearly and logically. Yet, if I were a lady in your age group looking for a cute guy such as yourself, the tone of your wants comes off sounding like a bunch of rules and regulations with no time for enjoyment. Most females will be responsible these days for themselves. They most likely have a male relative that gives them life guidance and, well, that's the sort of tone I am 'hearing' in your profile.

Can you change your style of delivery a bit to make yourself sound approachable but firm on who you are?

That is the only question I would ask.

Cheers on your confidence!

Hello! I am not to good writing English, I am go to traid to do my best. First of all, I am a onest persone and I care about others people filings, Mmmm ! With my onesty and with my deep care of my heart I am go to speek, true and cinsered words !***... There is alot of filings happening in your heart, you sens you are loking but and the same time wondering. What you right that said, " To asept me to who I am and not for my wallet." that is for girls who are not interesting and something more deep and only one. because girs like me, for example I am loking for frienship, because and friendship is the only whey that you can find, knowledge about the persone heart and filings, trust, be there like a friend ( care ). You know why !.... because real friendship is well you can fine real care and afection and trunest. Girls who are loking for friendship is because the are lonely and they are loking for some one who can listend to them and understand them, sow we are not loking to know the money because the heart dont need that because the heart owest go to steid but the money not. The heart have something that the money dont have. If you are loking for something serious, Like a cinsered girl I recomend you ! change that becouse you want good girls to read your profile ( About your self ) and not bad girls, because you want to girl asept you for who you are and bad people they dont care about others people filing, and what they want is only to sastified them heart. Thank you for gave me of your time with respect ; Muneca :)

Ooow ! CELCOME TWINLANCE * :D

My bad I mean, " Welcome ja ja :)

I appreciate the criticism. I would agree with those of you who say my profile might come across as dry, not exciting, and resembling a set of rules more than anything else.

ChrisNPlano, I wish I could find better and more exciting ways to convey myself on my profile, however I'm really big into being practical and straightforward. I don't want to stretch any truths about myself with embellishment and half-truths. I am what my life has shaped me into. This is not to say I'm boring and not at all fun, as I'm always looking for adventure and know how to make great memories. If anything I'm just getting the boring stuff out of the way first so potential dates can get to the exciting part by getting to know each other and go on dates. And thanks for calling me "cute," I really appreciate it. :)

PacificStar48, thank you for your very detailed analysis. Perhaps I may come across as having too high or too low of standards on some things in my profile. I'm trying to be as much of a realist as I can based on the culture and behaviour of people in my geographic location. I know I'm highly unlikely to find a woman who would score a perfect 10 with me, hence the bit about not caring if she's over 200 lbs., but at least healthy. Granted I would draw the line somewhere, not to be mean but for the sake of practicality. I take care of myself physically and mentally, and I hope some of my progress could inspire a future partner. But yes, I do ask for a picture from ladies who contact me. I wouldn't worry too much about "falling on my own sword" as experience has taught me to use caution. Your blunt and honest concern is appreciated.

muneca24, gracias. Comprendí lo quería decir, y creo que también entiende mis intenciones. ¡Buena suerte!