There's totally nothing wrong with being a single dad or a single mom, we are all human born to make mistakes? So? There are heroic responsible single dad and there are irresponsibles, likewise with single moms. What is important is as a parent you are taking your responsibilities with all your heart , loving and raising your children with values and you don't abandon them. I admire single dads who knows how to take care of his children attending to their needs and making sure they feel loved.

Same here! I was left with two kids a mortgage and bills. I learned to be the parent that didn't leave. It was a funny stressful year. I learned an grew. As for effort in my marriage I beg to differ.

IM a single mother of two one toddler one 2 month old i know it can very hard at times and i think hats off to single dads as i know whats its like first hand i respect men who do it x

Been thinking about this whole single parent thing and if having kids is a repellent.

In all honesty I think parents have to accept that it is a hurdle like any other. Most of the time it can be gotten over if the potential date wants kids in their life. A person is really spitting in the wind if they don't.

Or and this is key if they are in a different parenting stage in their life. I am a believer in being a life time parent but I am not a believer in spending your entire life having children as the center of your life like they must be at certain ages or conditions.

The later is a little different situation but not everyone is able to be a life time caregiver; especially if they have not had the lifetime bond that parents develop to get over this often giant responsibility and demanding lifestyle.

It is hard if you are a Exceptional parent but it doesn't make the single person bad or good just honest if they don't want to come on board. Really they are doing you, and more importantly your child a favor to say they are not up for the experience. Granted they may be missing out but then again maybe they are saving you all a painful loss.

What many single parents forget is most who have been through the various stages of parenting are not often eager to back track over the same ground. And while it might sound like a great boost to have that experience to draw from it is really tipping the balance of the relationship of parents being partner/team members to one being the coach and the other the player and that is not always fun from either side. Especially if the player has to learn some of the parenting road for themselves; especially the hard way. And it is truly a big sacrifice to give up the freedom of enjoying the empty nest when that is the stage of life the partner may have graduated too. Or is not quite ready to get into. As many people as can be parents there are ideas of when is the optimum time to parent but is way more likely to result in success if you are on the same page.

A simple way to get positive responses and avoid frustrations without giving out too much personal information is saying in a profile the age frame your children are. Example infant, toddler, preschool, tween, teen, college bound, intergenerational family, or empty nester grandparent. And gender does often affect how willing people are to blend families.

It isn't universal but there are often stages that are more difficult to blend and if a relationship can coast a while in the dating stage sometimes the issues can be floated across. I could not imagine trying to deal with being a new step mom when my son was hospitalized in acute care or my dad was dying early in a relationship as fair to anyone. Now I have energy to focus on the relationship I want so it's success ration is much better.