tonight i met spoke to someone who was quite clearly and arrogant self indulged person but clearly stated he was confident not arrogant and self imposed hmmmm there is a thin line there but think it was arrogan. so how do u tell difference between confident and arrogant please give ur opinion

The person who is arrogant is self-confident if you ask him,
and he is arrogant if you ask any of his co-workers, neighbours or church members.

Basically, this is the only difference. The point of view.

I used to have a friend, very smart, not arrogant at all, but very funny, and one day he told me, in the voice of an immigrant-ish accent, not his own,

"I was a big azzole in my country. I come here, I don't qualify."

Usually someone who is confident doesn't have to stick it in your face, which is usually an arrogant act

Confident people will listen and comment on what you say, where arrogant people tend to dismiss whatever it is you say, in my experience.

You people have got it all mixed up. I don't even know why I am reading all this nonsense.

If this what I am writing is not a comment on what you say, as you described as a major part of confidence, then I don't know what the hell else you'd call my very valuable contribution here.

Excuse me, young man, but I am NOT arrogant. I am... confident. Confident that you are mixing up arrogant with confident. I am confident, and you are arrogant, for not accepting the straight facts as they are staring you in the face.

You, sir, Mr. Wux, sir, you are an imbecile, and I say that with all the confidence that a man can garnish. Or garner? Tarnish.

If you think it's a point of view, and a point of view only, then you got it all wrong. Only an imbecile would say that, my good man, and please refrain from pewing (or spewing?) all this incredible lies, that I am arrogant.

You can't say that I am arrogant, either, because you are me, and if you insist I am arrogant, you are shooting down your entire theory there, which will collapse in heap of illogical fallacies.

So there. I... am... confident. (Or confidant?)

Good description!

Backup.
Confidence is backed up by actions.
Arrogance is just words.

soufie gave an excellent answer

I would add that confidence , looks to me, like someone who doesnt doubt themself

while arrogance looks like someone who constantly has to doubt others,,,,

There is a thin line and I think people can go back and forth depending on the situation..How they present, be it arrogant or confident, often depends on their attitude...For me, it's all about attitude.....

Confident people don't really have to tell you they're confident. You just know. Arrogant people often tell you how confident they are with a condescending tone. They feel the need to prove their confidence and that they're above others.

I, also, think it's very hard to get a good read on someone by emails, unless you've gotten to know that person for a bit.

or if it's in person, maybe the person wanted to make a good impression and didn't realize how he was coming across

i had been talking to this person who is not from this site for a while he was quite arrogant that was clear.it was not just my opinion i spoke to many ppl who also found him arrogant. i think some ppl become way past confident though in their view thay are confident they do not see they step it over the line and become arrogant followed by self indulged and insulting to others in my case he was confident at the beginning but stepped it over the line and became arrogant gradually than self indulge and quite a pig.

I can relate,,,

Live and learn, just goes to prove that it takes time to get to know someone. Hope you told this person bye bye once pig stage was achieved.

Whisper that.
You might hurt the pig's feelings.

be assured i did when he started making out like i was beneath him i decided he was truely beneath being entitled to know me and goodbye was said im not silly lol. i deserve respect and once its not being given im gone.

Confidence is how a Man carries himself....

arrogance is how he shows the world.....

that theres a hole in his.....bucket!!