i know it CAN work. but how offten does it? and how long untill the distance becomes too much?..

It's all on the two people involved,everything depends on them

Patience is the key to every relationship if your lpve is strong enough it works and if the patience is not there then it wont work at all .If you can maintain a long distance relationship then you can handle every other relationship

It depends if both sides are serious and neither have a roving eye.

I know it works, but not how often. More than people realize I think.

People can deeply love each other LD yes

Is it a relationship? I say no... some say yes.

I'm trying to understand... I guess it's hard for me to grasp such a relation? if I can't hold her face to kiss it? go for a walk or drive? have dinner with her after a long day?

sounds like torture to me... but it happens for sure

It becomes too much right at the beginning.

Definitely agree with this.

If I can't feel it, touch it, taste it, smell it or hear it....it's not real.

You can't really know someone until you spend real time with them. The problem with LD relationships is that there is no way to have that casual beginning of getting to know someone with no pressure. There's no chance to date before deciding if this is a relationship you want to commit to. A plane trip IS a commitment of sorts. As opposed to a cup of coffee or a beer and some dinner.

Of course, I see it work here from time to time, but it has never worked for me. It may be that my situation is different and I blame the LD part when there are other factors involved. Nonetheless, I cannot see myself attempting an LDR again.

exactly! I still think it has a lot to do with the 2 people involved. At some point though, in order to move forward, it would have to stop being a long distance relationship, I think, and they would have to decide, to continue, if one of the persons would relocate.

It works more often than you think it does. And the rest is between the two people. Some people move quickly towards meeting, while others have to take it longer due to possible situations. In my opinion anything worth having is worth waiting for though, so if the two people really love each other, patience should come into play.

I agree with what kartagane said..

Can a LDR work? Yes, in the short term (under 12 months). I think that you would be incredibly lucky to have one work long term.

I guess the biggest pro (and con) if you like is that you only get the ‘good’ bits...the you that doesn’t squeeze the toothpaste from the middle or the you that knows how to play nicely with others.

I think that it would be easier (for both parties) to hide a whole host of negative personality traits if you only see each other sporadically.

Kartagane always has intelligent, well balanced posts! Patience & trust are important, as is faith. I have waited forever, so what is more waiting? I would rather take a chance on someone special LD, than have immediate gratification.

I totally agree with Ruth on this. You all know I ran off to Texas with my LDR and he played nice until my stuff was delivered and then he felt he owned me. I can say that because I did NOT meet him on Mingle. People can play nice nice long distance for a long time. It's a lot harder to hide a person's true nature in person.

Though I crack up at what some people consider a long distance relationship. I had one guy who considered 45 minutes long distance and another willing to drive two hours and considered it local.

Horses for courses I guess...having learned from experience, I would not like to wait months to meet someone regardless of how much we seem to get on.

I would have to meet him face to face to establish whether we could build a relationship together before investing my emotions, time and finances.

I am in a ldr. We had been together for 5 years when he moved to Zurich to work. At first it was fine but the longer we're apart less of a relationship it becomes. Especially after being together that long it seems like we're taking giant steps backwards.

So true...

It seems to me that anything long distance is Pen Pal territory, unless you meet up regularly how can you form a normal relationship? If you do decide to start a long distance relationship, I agree that you must have to consider relocating, and if that is to another country that could mean a very big commitment right
from the start.

I can't relocate for about 3 years, it will be extremely hard on me and much better if she and her brood if she has one, moved to Dallas.