thank you guys for all your comments, I was reading an article today not understanding were she coming from? is she or is she making her point. Msharmony thank you for being a great mediator for this topic and Dodo David your daughter is beautiful.

Denise | july 16, 2012

Let me start off by letting you all know that I'm a black woman myself. A 20 year old, in shape, gorgeous black woman. But truth be told, a lot of black women can't say the same about themselves. A lot of black women have facial features like Fantasia's, bodies like Gabourey Sidibe's and attitudes like Shanaynay's. In other words, typical African American facial features, out of shape (a.k.a "thick") bodies and ghetto attitudes. Me on the other hand, I have facial features identical to model Jessica White's, a body like Beyonce's and the attitude of an Ivy league college educated woman. In other words, exotic black/ brazilian facial features, an in-shape slim yet curvy body, and a non-ghetto attitude. Therefore black women, do NOT think that all black women are undesirable just because YOU are! You're undesirable because you have 1 (or maybe all) of the 3 undesirable traits I mentioned above. We are all NOT like you, therefore - us pretty black women are desirable to men of all races. I attract white, Asian, black and Hispanic men on a daily basis, I am not YOU. So stop sobbing and claiming that men think that all black women are undesirable, YOU are undesirable. This also goes to the black men that claim they do not like black women - we're all not like the black women you have encountered

By-and-large, African Africans are not so large, either, by their largesse.
So where now taken scientific studies of male's of color lower organ size as well as females of color inner and outward beauty. In my humble opinion it's not just who you attract it's how you attract them and may I add in some people minds size do matter no matter what color lower male organ it comes from .

How black does one have to be before they are considered black?

This is black.

So that is the blackness on which one is measured to be "undesirable"?

Nite nite and don't leave the lights on.

who do u call black?
Some one from Africa or one with a darker colour.
Did u know that some indians are black,but don't they have straight hair?
Living them aside, there's a special group of blacks who live Australia-Aborigins.These people posses the same hair type as the white men.
I guess u can now understand that no one tries to be who, but simplify and beautify one's life.

Wow ! What a beauty?

I suspect it's as a result of inter racial relations with white people. The aborigine or "black fella" as they prefer to be called.....tend to lean more toward the white parent in their skin, hair and eye colouring. Tis not as strong as other black cultures it seems.

A beautiful women is a beautiful women.It is simple.Some of us don't see color and were not raised that way-thanks mom.

Indeed..we as a species are fortunate to have the gift of colour within our world. Tis a pity that some of us don't actually see it.

Different skin complexions/colours shows God's magnificent & beautiful creativity, yet man doesn't see that. Too bad.

IMO: In social interactive settings black American women seem to be much the same as caucassian women. However, they seem to be less receptive or more hesitant to flirting with caucassian men. I guess I would leave the answer as to why to the older black women on here.

interesting question

I know that some women are friendly and comfortable with men, I am one because I grew up in a household of males

but, there is probably just as few black women flirting with white males as there are white males flirting with black women

I would guess historical trends and stereotypes lead to this type of taboo continuing to be felt


the black woman being agressive and the white male being, less endowed/nerdy,, are two of the negative stereotypes I think which make those two particular groups hesitant to mingle together


whereas the white woman being submissive and the black man being strong and virile, are stereotypes which fuel interaction between those two groups


,,,just my opinion though ,, IN my old age I know these things are all just stereotypes, and from experience I know people in all these groups who dont fit the 'stereotypes' at all,,,,so I dont pay much mind to them

but for people who have not yet had much 'interracial' interaction on a personal level, the wall of caution remains up,,,

Seriously...don't matter what color your skin is or how greasy my hands feel after grabbing your head during sex. A hot woman is a hot woman....black got zero to do with it. A woman is gorgeous or she aint....same thing is true of us guys .....deal with it.

?????

What? I flirted with you madly for years.

I got nothing to lose or gain by sayin it Harmony....cause I really respect you...

you got morals....that is a problem.

(it ain't easy liking you when you won't just get nasty)

That can be true, but still wrong.
If u read the history of Australia, aborigines are introduced as the 1st inhabitants.The whites came to dominate as a result of colonialism; just like southAFRICA on a smaller extent.And to do with color....Search for there images on google-purely african(except their hair)

I'm kinda reddish I think and if inside too long pale and white to cream color. Sometimes toward the end of summer there is a hint of green in my hair. Not green green but more of a poplar green. I'm sure it's from chlorine. As the evening comes and the lights are lowered I find myself becoming darker and I have to be honest. In the dead middle of the night with no light at all I get so black that I even turn invisible. Here's the weird part about being invisible I have learned. This is my own experience of course. When I'm so black that I am invisible everything else is too. Ever watch the show "the invisible man"? Well, I've got to tell you I couldn't do the stuff he does when he is invisable cause I end up falling all over things and sometimes wake up in strange places, till the lights come on.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is I'll take any color over invisible. Wait a minute wouldn't that make me blind? Or maybe it's the folks who are looking at color that are blind?

hmmm, think I'll listen to some En Vogue