First off, let me say that I KNOW im NOT running things here, and im NOT trying to tell anyone how to act.

I just dont have a problem voicing my concerns.

It has come to my attenion, that several newbies here, are not feeling very welcome here.They are feeling no warmth, and like they are given the cold shoulder alot. This has even been asked by a newbie on a thread, "Why do the regular Minglers, seem to not want to acknowledge the new ones". They either get no responses, or rolling eyes, ect..to VERY good posts. I have been asked this a few times by newbies, because I always extend myself to the newbies in hopes that they will stay. We have lost ALOT of Minglers, ESPECIALLY RECENTLY, and so I, for one, am really happy to see new, bright, funny, and loving, people on this site. So I do try to warm up to them and make them feel like they count and are being heard.(And im not saying im the only one that does that) but more often then not, they are ignored.

I DO UNDERSTAND, THAT WE HAVE ALL JUST SUFFERED AN INCIDENT RECENTLY, THAT IS VERY LIKELY TO MAKE US ALL MORE LEARY OF PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY NEW ONES. But lets not let it keep us from being who we are, and thats a warm, loving, and friendly, site.

If you need more time to get to know these people before you want to trust them, that is perfectly understandable, but I dont think that posting a smile, on a happy newbie post, or a flower, on a sad newbie post, is alot to ask. No ones asking you to send them a friend request right away.

But I think, if we all join together, we can make our newbies feel alot more welcome, to such an awesome site, as Mingle.

JMO

They are fair game for smartazz remarks just like everybody else...........

Well yeah, that goes with the territory.

But any remark is better than nothing, ya know?

At least then, they will figure out that we kid alot on here, and that were not just stuck up aholes, who only accept our own.

Like Vicky was saying...we dont wanna be cliquey.

I don't discriminate. I'll cut up with anyone but when there first post is "Where's the p!ssy?", It doesn't give you alot to work with. I mean I only have so many cat jokes.........

I try to welcome them but like newark said, sometimes their first post is like "ladies only" and such.

Or, "wher da lesbians at"?

Or, "wher da gay guys at"?

Or, "Y nobody answ my mails?"

If im on here i will say hi to the newbies- i just dont hang out here. i get a message i log on answer, check the forums and log off!!
i try to be nice always!

I Mingle naked.....I ain't sure how I can be more welcoming than that.....

I will admit...occasionally I may see a terrible newbie post and think "I'll just let someone else deal with it"

Sometimes...I can instantly spot someone who means well but, just don't know what they are doing....and will lend a hand.

Sometimes I screw up and mouth at a newbie for the wrong reasons and later feel kinda bad about it. (Sorry Kharungi)

Sometimes I just get the feeling that they are just passing through and ain't gonna stay anyway so I ain't gonna waste the time.

Somtimes jump thier schitt when they come in looking for a fight cause they don't know what they are doing.

But, I NEVER just automatically give love or respect...I don't care how nice or beautiful they are...there is an ex out there who is sick of thier schitt.....it is true of all of us. Acceptance is worked for and earned.

This!!
without the neeked part......gonna havta try that.

When it was JSH, it was very cliquey, but it was a younger site/community as well. As it has matured and grown, it grew out of that phase, and blossomed into Mingle2, which is still growing and maturing, and ever evolving.

I'll chat with anyone here who is not an a**. I'll welcome new members, but not every single one. I will give everyone a fair chance.

How newbies introduce themselves influences my decision whether or not to respond to them. On plenty of occasions, I have bit my tongue and refrained from stating what I really think about what a newbie has said. Sometimes the nicest thing I can say is nothing at all.

There's a good reason why I try to be nice to people, and that's because there's enough negativity in the world as it is. I'd rather be able to put a smile on someone's face or make them laugh. I'm a "turn-that-frown-upside-down" kind of person.

Apology accepted

Ummm...if the water is to my liking, i'll just jump right in and don't expect anybody to hold my hand

Leave me outta this BS Luv....

And, I have been meaning to tell you this for a few weeks now...if you are going to use my name in post, please spell it correctly...It is not spelled with a Y......

Whaaaaaaaat............................................................................................................................?

this.

Another thought I just had....

When I come in here.. (which is rare, the last 4 days have been the first in a long time!) I come to talk to my friends. My friends know im happily married, they know im here just for them. I don't come here lookin for a "hukup"(as I saw the otherday). If someone new talks to me, or if something sparks my intrest then great, if not, im sorry, but im not here to impress anyone. There are only so many "nice guys finish last" or "where are all the nice guy" threads I can respond to.

Jmo. *shrug*

Let me say that this is a very thoughtful post.

It is nice to feel welcomed and I got a very nice welcome From Vivian affectionately known as "HOT LIPS" when I first arrived.

Thank You Vivian

Well VICKI, since you are always the only one, who has issues with my posts, I wont take it to heart.

Give Turtle my love.

This was in NO WAY an attack on anyone, or me trying to say that Minglers snub newbies, cause we dont.

It came from my heart, and with no motive other than to make the newbies that expressed to me that they "didnt feel accepted", (and no, they dont post stupid chit, and yes they have BEEN posting more than once)that we do care.

I totally agree that respect is earned, and love, well I love everyone, till they give me a reason not to, but im not asking anyone else to do that, thats just me.

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I can live with that.