Because all the women I like are a long ways away and I can't get to know them better...times is tough.

NavyGirl, not to start anything (well maybe) - I take a little offense at "stroke a man's ego" and I have to ask is that such a bad thing? I would say that most ladies REQUIRE their ego to be stroked, and quite often. I have recently embarked upon a mental-math project about relationships, and I feel that this is one of the "must-dos" FROM BOTH SIDES in order to have a happy, stable partnership. The base-word of the concept is the word fair. From what I have seen in my small number of years on this earth is that people in general seek some form of approval, compliment, or outside opinion on most things; this could be equated to soothing the id (read: ego) - thoughts? anyone?

I'm single cause I'm to awesome for one person

New this howz iy going

I give compliments where compliments are due and would expect the same. I don't lie to a man; nor would I want him to lie to me to stroke my ego. This is what ego stroking is. I have never seeked approval of anyone but I do appreciate it when it is sincere but can't stand it when I know its fake. What I mean by stroking the ego is when a guy does a task or job; and I am expected to pretend that I couldn't do the job for myself; so I out and out lie to him by saying thank goodness he did the task as I was unable to do it. Some women have been doing this for years; lying to guys in order to stroke their ego. Now same scenario; I would thank the guy for doing the task without the phony undertones. That isn't stroking an ego; that is just plain good manners. You confirmed exactly why I couldn't be bothered to be in a relationship and I refuse to be in a relationship built on lies. Here is the definition of Ego Stroking:

when someone purposely fishes for compliments from other people to reassure themselves that they are in fact good looking and/or good at a certain subject.

NavyGirl, I just KNEW you were gonna sodomize me (textually) and you didn't; thank you for that.

I fully understand what you meant, and I agree with you 100%. Putting a label on anything is not possible because there are situations/people that stand out - like you. I tried to better justify my statement by using the word most, but as I learned in one of my college courses, even that is a gross generalization. Maybe the word many instead?

This just goes to show ya that there is NO "Magic Book" of techniques to apply to a relationship; everyone just needs to do their best to be honest, forthright, pleasant, etc, while adjusting as necessary for those around you or the one you're with. And even that can be a challenge. You know what "they" say - "nothing worth having comes easily"

This is true that there certainly is not magic book or rule book for relationships. I got what you meant by most and I didn't take it personally. I just wanted to explain to you why I don't like the ego stroking as I have never felt comfortable lying. Perhaps I am too honest for my own good sometimes. Don't get me wrong; when someone does something to help me; I am very greatful for their help whether its male or female. I don't take people for granted.

im trying to focus on finding the one and only girl thats right for me. chicago girls like to bed hop lets be honest and i really dont want to catch any type of std...so i'm single at the moment

Cos iv bn cheated on al my lyf 2 a pnt I dnt c myself nt attractive enuf... D cheatings sumhw wrkd on my mind... dnt c anything beautiful abt me eva ...

i guess cuz i am too fukin crazy

I am single, let me count the ways

Every man needs a little strokin.....ego strokin that is.

i dont want to be, but i am single , soon it will change

Because 98.9 % of woman are crazy and ungratful

You are Wrong!!!!

..More like 99.5%

no motivation to be otherwise

no reason to believe that I would be better off otherwise

And god forget to made my gf .
I have one solution why dont we try on each other

Yep; and you men made us that way.

Really; you guys like women lying to you just for your ego even though you know damn well she is lying? Wow, that is just all screwed up.

We're all mostly responsible:

Him=(huffing, tired, exhausted, spent) "How was THAT?"
Her=(ready to go do anything else, unsatisfied) "That was Tony-the-Tiger G-R-E-A-T!"

-conversely-

Her=(she KNOWS she doesn't wear that size) "Hey, how's this look with these shoes?"
Him=(he thinks those shoes and pants never have matched & never will match, AND her tummy is sticking out like she herself has said she hates to see, he thinks it's kinda sexy) "It looks pretty good, what do you think?"

Both generic situations happen often, and many times result in nothing major. BUT - don't let it be that time of the month, or after and unpleasant event at work, or following a similar situation that was not answered properly or intelligently. Therein lies (pun) the tricky-to-navigate part. Tell the absolute truth and you could be signing your death cert, lie a little/expertly manage your words, and you are a superstar. You are right, relationships are hard work!

Edit: I'm gonna be single for the rest of my life (sigh) so I better get used to it! I think TOO MUCH sometimes...