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Topic: Misrepresentation
Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Wed 04/25/12 06:56 PM
my profile is as honest as i get. +1

TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Wed 04/25/12 06:57 PM
Actually it kinda makes sense, you're supposed to sell yourself on here. A lot of people have a misunderstanding that selling = BSing. I consider myself to be a salesmen, so of course I don't think selling and BSing go together. I consider myself a salesmen, because I literally sell stuff online. It would make sense if people stayed anonymous, but that's not the case for many. There's no point in lying to get someone to meet you, because they're going to find out when they meet you. Most people that lie a lot, don't think their lies through completely like that.\ For example, I know addicts who lie constantly, they'll tell the dumbest lies, only thinking in the moment, or maybe a few minutes ahead at most. Someone who lies about what they look like, whether they're older or younger, their height and things like that must know these lies are going to be found out when first meeting. Some people have an illness which causes them to lie compulsively. They can't help but lie. hahaha, I was married to one of those. He would lie when it made no difference whatsoever what the answer was. He was a habitual liar. Yeah, it's a part of some mental illnesses, sometimes they won't even notice when they're lying. I have to agree with you there.

Seakolony Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 11968	Wed 04/25/12 07:14 PM
Its all a lie......actually its perspective....it's not necessarily a lie or misrepresentation......its your intake doesn't match there outtake and visa versa. Therefore, you see their version as a lie. likewise they see your version as you being a crazy psycho......see the pattern here.....it actually boils down to you are just not meant to be together. When you say you're 20 years older than you really are, I'd call that a lie! I'm sorry but

TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Thu 04/26/12 04:40 PM
Its all a lie......actually its perspective....it's not necessarily a lie or misrepresentation......its your intake doesn't match there outtake and visa versa. Therefore, you see their version as a lie. likewise they see your version as you being a crazy psycho......see the pattern here.....it actually boils down to you are just not meant to be together. When you say you're 20 years older than you really are, I'd call that a lie! I'm sorry but ??? But what?

Ladywind7 Joined Sun 04/08/12 Posts: 7833	Thu 04/26/12 05:35 PM
Its the scammers posing as other people that annoy me the most on here. I know i have my faults and im far from perfect, but they are just so deceitful and cruel to the gullible.

TammyA Joined Sat 03/10/12 Posts: 300	Thu 04/26/12 05:56 PM
Its the scammers posing as other people that annoy me the most on here. I know i have my faults and im far from perfect, but they are just so deceitful and cruel to the gullible. Exactly!!!

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Fri 04/27/12 12:42 PM
I just don't understand why people get on these dating sites, and then misrepresent themselves, saying they are the most honest person you will every know, and then fill you with a bunch of lies. If they are on here trying to meet people, don't they know they will eventually be found out? Or maybe they have a different motive??? You know its just not the dating site that this happens. You meet a person and they are just wonderful during the honeymoon stage but once that is over; you see them for who they really are.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Fri 04/27/12 12:55 PM Edited by 2KidsMom on Fri 04/27/12 12:56 PM
my profile is as honest as i get. +1 This.:)

mg1959 Joined Thu 04/05/07 Posts: 7872	Fri 04/27/12 01:48 PM
To be perfectly honest, it takes time to see what someone is really like. Most of us have been a part of and have seen the misrepresentation thing played out. What's important is finding out more about who we are. Being vulnerable to our inner self and not shifting blame to others being imperfect. The mirror in front of our face can be very cloudy when we want it to be. It's much easier to call out the other guys problems than to clean that mirror. The true is we don't look deep enough into each others eyes and hearts and we many times make conclusions based on our own short comings. I really try hard not to hang out with someone based on who they are as much as who I am.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 04/27/12 02:55 PM
To be perfectly honest, it takes time to see what someone is really like. Most of us have been a part of and have seen the misrepresentation thing played out. What's important is finding out more about who we are. Being vulnerable to our inner self and not shifting blame to others being imperfect. The mirror in front of our face can be very cloudy when we want it to be. It's much easier to call out the other guys problems than to clean that mirror. The true is we don't look deep enough into each others eyes and hearts and we many times make conclusions based on our own short comings. I really try hard not to hang out with someone based on who they are as much as who I am. What do you mean when you say you hang out with someone based on who you are?

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Fri 04/27/12 03:29 PM
I just don't understand why people get on these dating sites, and then misrepresent themselves, saying they are the most honest person you will every know, and then fill you with a bunch of lies. If they are on here trying to meet people, don't they know they will eventually be found out? Or maybe they have a different motive??? IMO, people that misrepresent themselves are looking for casual and not long term relationships because at some point they will get found out - they always do because they fail to realise that the wheel has already been invented.

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Fri 04/27/12 05:32 PM
I just don't understand why people get on these dating sites, and then misrepresent themselves, saying they are the most honest person you will every know, and then fill you with a bunch of lies. If they are on here trying to meet people, don't they know they will eventually be found out? Or maybe they have a different motive??? Cause lies will get you laid. Next question.......

krupa Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 18651	Fri 04/27/12 05:40 PM
IMO, people that misrepresent themselves are looking for casual and not long term relationships because at some point they will get found out - they always do because they fail to realise that the wheel has already been invented. I donno Baby...I have always been a long term minded guy. But, I am carefree enough that people think otherwise. Lot's of people here think I am a slut, and I am good with that. My woman knows. I play the "Casual" card all the time. "Misrepresenting" is a valid tactic. Do you really want people to know know that sometimes you pee or shart when you sneeze? I don't want anyone to know. Honesty has it's place....but, it is only when you are in love.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 04/28/12 02:57 AM
IMO, people that misrepresent themselves are looking for casual and not long term relationships because at some point they will get found out - they always do because they fail to realise that the wheel has already been invented. I donno Baby...I have always been a long term minded guy. But, I am carefree enough that people think otherwise. Lot's of people here think I am a slut, and I am good with that. My woman knows. I play the "Casual" card all the time. "Misrepresenting" is a valid tactic. Do you really want people to know know that sometimes you pee or shart when you sneeze? I don't want anyone to know. Honesty has it's place....but, it is only when you are in love. I disagree. There will always be those that read what’s on the surface and there will always be those that read beyond the surface. Getting back to the point, I date online and therefore accept that some/most people are fairly liberal with the truth. Misrepresentation may be a valid tactic and I accept that BUT what I don’t/won’t accept is out and out re-invention which is what some people do. These are the people that WILL always get found out (eventually).

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 04/28/12 03:05 AM
IMO, people that misrepresent themselves are looking for casual and not long term relationships because at some point they will get found out - they always do because they fail to realise that the wheel has already been invented. I donno Baby...I have always been a long term minded guy. But, I am carefree enough that people think otherwise. Lot's of people here think I am a slut, and I am good with that. My woman knows. I play the "Casual" card all the time. "Misrepresenting" is a valid tactic. Do you really want people to know know that sometimes you pee or shart when you sneeze? I don't want anyone to know. Honesty has it's place....but, it is only when you are in love. I disagree. There will always be those that read what’s on the surface and there will always be those that read beyond the surface. Getting back to the point, I date online and therefore accept that some/most people are fairly liberal with the truth. Misrepresentation may be a valid tactic and I accept that BUT what I don’t/won’t accept is out and out re-invention which is what some people do. These are the people that WILL always get found out (eventually). You're as wise as you are beautiful. :) You're very beautiful by the way.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 04/28/12 03:26 AM Edited by 42BlackBBW on Sat 04/28/12 03:28 AM
I disagree. There will always be those that read what’s on the surface and there will always be those that read beyond the surface. Getting back to the point, I date online and therefore accept that some/most people are fairly liberal with the truth. Misrepresentation may be a valid tactic and I accept that BUT what I don’t/won’t accept is out and out re-invention which is what some people do. These are the people that WILL always get found out (eventually). You're as wise as you are beautiful. :) You're very beautiful by the way. Thank you ma honey but I'd much rather have what you've got...a beautiful soul. Mine's still a work in progress

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 04/28/12 03:27 AM Edited by 42BlackBBW on Sat 04/28/12 03:28 AM


Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 04/28/12 03:36 AM
I disagree. There will always be those that read what’s on the surface and there will always be those that read beyond the surface. Getting back to the point, I date online and therefore accept that some/most people are fairly liberal with the truth. Misrepresentation may be a valid tactic and I accept that BUT what I don’t/won’t accept is out and out re-invention which is what some people do. These are the people that WILL always get found out (eventually). You're as wise as you are beautiful. :) You're very beautiful by the way. Thank you ma honey but I'd much rather have what you've got...a beautiful soul. Mine's still a work in progress From what I can see, you seem to have a very beautiful soul. Don't sell yourself short. We're all a work in progress.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 04/28/12 03:43 AM
I'm not selling myself short babe. I'm just modest and bad at accepting compliments

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 04/28/12 04:26 AM
I'm not selling myself short babe. I'm just modest and bad at accepting compliments Aw, well modesty isn't a bad thing. I actually see it as a good quality, as long as it' not due to feeling as if you're not worthy of acknowledging good things about yourself or anything. I can have a hard time accepting compliments at times also, but sometimes I'm able to. I guess we have to be able to see that we are worthy of compliments at times. I mean, it's good to be humble and and such, but I don't see a problem with acknowledging our own good as long as we keep our pride under control and such.