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I could not be with a bi man. It’s not the act but the mental imagery that would do my head in. So, you're ok with picturing them with other women, just not with men? Yes. This may be hard to believe but I don’t have any mental imagery regarding ‘his’ sex life if he’s heterosexual. Any yes, it is because I would not want to be with a guy that has had anal sex with another man. And no, I don’t have a problem with a guy I’m dating having had anal sex with another woman. And no, I wouldn’t want to be with him if he has sucked another man’s schlong, kissed another man, rimmed another man or done anything else that would be categorised as sexual – doesn’t include watching porn with another man as long as they kept to their side of the sofa  .
And yes, I do know that it doesn’t quite make sense if you look at it like that BUT there isn’t a law that says my preferences have to be rational or even make sense... Just in case you ask, I don’t have a problem with bi sexuality (or homosexuality for that matter), I just wouldn’t date someone that chooses to sleep with both sexes. Do you have men fill out a questionnaire before touching them? 
Yeah. He also needs two references and a letter from his momma 
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Just in case you ask, I don’t have a problem with bi sexuality (or homosexuality for that matter), I just wouldn’t date someone that chooses to sleep with both sexes. i just find this a little funny. it's like saying i'm not racist but i refuse to date a white man. o.O why rule out a whole people? I know what you mean..it's a bit like when people say, I don't like black people but you're ok .
I do know that my rationale doesn't quite make sense because I know that if I was dating someone who revealed (a few months down the line) that he had been with other men, I would (probably) dump him for lying and not because he was bisexual. What would he have been lying about, though? Unless you ask up front for them to give you their whole sexual history and he didn't cover that part.. |
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I know what you mean..it's a bit like when people say, I don't like black people but you're ok .
I do know that my rationale doesn't quite make sense because I know that if I was dating someone who revealed (a few months down the line) that he had been with other men, I would (probably) dump him for lying and not because he was bisexual. so not telling you that they're attracted to both sexes would be considered a lie? or would you ask them if they're also attracted to men at the beginning? |
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To answer both questions...
I don't ask for a run down of his sexual history prior to dating him but in my mind, not bringing up the fact that he's bisexual is pretty significant (to me) and something that should be mentioned upfront or at least in the getting to know you conversation(s). How he does it is irreverent but it’s a deal breaker if he mentions it later on down the road particularly if the relationship has become sexual. Not mentioning that he is attracted to both sexes wouldn't constitute lying however not mentioning that he has had sex with another man would constitute lying. |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Thu 04/12/12 11:21 AM
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How is it a lie if you don't ask up front? And if you're not asking about it in the beginning, how would they know it's a deal breaker?
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we have different definitions of a lie.
o.O |
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Edited by
42BlackBBW
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Thu 04/12/12 11:28 AM
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As I have stated, my reasons for not dating a bisexual men only have to make sense to ME and it's worked out pretty well so far in as much as that I've either dated a bisexual man without my knowledge or been lied to as a result of my not asking him to complete a questionnaire on his dating history prior to getting him naked
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Ohhh bisexual...I thought b was talking about dating someone who was bilingual. don't tell me you discriminate against those too! I talk to you don't I? |
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I talk to you don't I? but i'm tri. |
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I talk to you don't I? but i'm tri. English Spanish Beard |
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glad you understand.
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This is very distracting!
Yes & No No I wouldn't be with ANYONE who was sleeping around. No I wouldn't want to be the third wheel. Ever Yes I think it's ok for someone to be attracted to the opposite sex Yes I would give it a chance if I believed she was the 1 in 6 Billion. |
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This is very distracting! Yes & No No I wouldn't be with ANYONE who was sleeping around. No I wouldn't want to be the third wheel. Ever Yes I think it's ok for someone to be attracted to the opposite sex Yes I would give it a chance if I believed she was the 1 in 6 Billion. Where did the OP talk about sleeping around or being a third wheel? |
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This is very distracting! Yes & No No I wouldn't be with ANYONE who was sleeping around. No I wouldn't want to be the third wheel. Ever Yes I think it's ok for someone to be attracted to the opposite sex Yes I would give it a chance if I believed she was the 1 in 6 Billion. if someone is bisexual it means they're attracted to both sexes. it does not mean they are polyamorous. and it sure as hell doesn't mean they're a slut. |
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This is very distracting! Yes & No No I wouldn't be with ANYONE who was sleeping around. No I wouldn't want to be the third wheel. Ever Yes I think it's ok for someone to be attracted to the opposite sex Yes I would give it a chance if I believed she was the 1 in 6 Billion. Where did the OP talk about sleeping around or being a third wheel? Let me chq.... Nope... She didn't... I DID! |
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This is very distracting! Yes & No No I wouldn't be with ANYONE who was sleeping around. No I wouldn't want to be the third wheel. Ever Yes I think it's ok for someone to be attracted to the opposite sex Yes I would give it a chance if I believed she was the 1 in 6 Billion. if someone is bisexual it means they're attracted to both sexes. it does not mean they are polyamorous. and it sure as hell doesn't mean they're a slut. i'm not associating bisexuality with promiscuity It was only a guideline on where I would stand in a relationship with a bisexual woman... That's it that's all |
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i'm not associating bisexuality with promiscuity It was only a guideline on where I would stand in a relationship with a bisexual woman... That's it that's all i just don't understand why the sleeping around and being the third wheel was brought up unless that's how you view bisexuals. |
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OMG I speak Hebrew,Yiddish, Russian, German, Croation, some Spanish and French. What does that make me? A freak?
I do not date Bisexual women, I want a woman who only has eyes for me and I will only have eyes for her. |
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OMG I speak Hebrew,Yiddish, Russian, German, Croation, some Spanish and French. What does that make me? A freak? I do not date Bisexual women, I want a woman who only has eyes for me and I will only have eyes for her. sept. or multi. why do you assume a bisexual woman would be looking for someone else while dating you? she's with you, no? |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Thu 04/12/12 12:19 PM
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OMG I speak Hebrew,Yiddish, Russian, German, Croation, some Spanish and French. What does that make me? A freak? I do not date Bisexual women, I want a woman who only has eyes for me and I will only have eyes for her. So, wouldn't that be the case whether the woman was straight or bi? I guess many assume that because someone is bi, they're going to be wanting to date men and women at the same time? |
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