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The silent treatment is especially destructive in personal relationships like that of a husband/wife or a boyfriend/girlfriend...It stimulates bitterness and resentment and, more often than not, makes a bad situation worse...Not only is it emotionally painful, but studies and research suggest it is also physically painful...Because the silent treatment is a form of ostracism and ostracism affects the part of the brain (anterior cingulate cortex) that detects pain, giving the silent treatment can be experienced by some as physical pain!...Who knew!!!
Guess what else...Research also shows that men and women react "very" differently to the silent treatment...Women will try anything and everything in their power to get back in the good graces of their man...Men, on the other hand, do nothing!!! They just ride it out!!...Interesting..... 
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lack of communication never solves problems,it just pushes them to the side and saves them
like a hoarder til you dont have any space left to breath... personaly i think lack of or refusal to communicate is the biggest issue with the world |
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lack of communication never solves problems,it just pushes them to the side and saves them like a hoarder til you dont have any space left to breath... personaly i think lack of or refusal to communicate is the biggest issue with the world I love that analogy !!..."Like a hoarder till you don't have any room to move" ...Excellent!!! 
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  its the truth..
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You do NOT want to give me the silent treatment with my imagination because I will go places mentally you do NOT want me to go when you are not talking to defend yourself, I am building an ammunition bunker that Timothy Mc Vey (sp) would be in awe of in my head for the next time you pizz me off.
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true. |
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true.  And YOU should know this Viv,,,,,, 
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power over you is only power over you if you accept it..so no..the one who doesnt communicate is the one that is truly powerless..
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power over you is only power over you if you accept it..so no..the one who doesnt communicate is the one that is truly powerless.. Yes, so true....I think this fits in here too...You CANNOT control anyone but yourself...If your think otherwise, you are a fool... |
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power over you is only power over you if you accept it..so no..the one who doesnt communicate is the one that is truly powerless.. Yes, so true....I think this fits in here too...You CANNOT control anyone but yourself...If your think otherwise, you are a fool... 
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true. And YOU should know this Viv,,,,,,
yes, actually... I was in a relationship where he wouldn't talk..or at least about anything that was important...He refused to tell me what I needed to know.. That was where the power came in...you can get a person to do many things, but tell you the truth....whether you accept it or not, makes no difference..you still won't know unless that person opens up....and yes a psychologist told me this. And yes, it's true. |
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true. And YOU should know this Viv,,,,,,
yes, actually... I was in a relationship where he wouldn't talk..or at least about anything that was important...He refused to tell me what I needed to know.. That was where the power came in...you can get a person to do many things, but tell you the truth....whether you accept it or not, makes no difference..you still won't know unless that person opens up....and yes a psychologist told me this. And yes, it's true. UNLESS you tell him if he is going to act like a 14 year old, he can get lost. |
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power over you is only power over you if you accept it..so no..the one who doesnt communicate is the one that is truly powerless.. sorry...you are totally wrong about what I said...the one who doesn't communicate ON PURPOSE is the one that has the power. You are totally helpless to make someone talk that doesn't want to...not because they don't know how to communicate, because they refuse. |
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Personally I could not give anyone the silent treatment. I just can't be quiet that long
I do understand what Viv was saying though, however that "power" only lasts for so long, then you say shove it and you get on with your life very nicely without them. At least thats the way it is for me. |
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Edited by
singmesweet
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Sun 12/18/11 03:14 PM
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true. And if they want that badly to hold all the power, they will make me lose respect for them. I agree with Betty, though. It only lasts for so long. The end up losing that power when the other person moves on. |
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true. And if they want that badly to hold all the power, they will make me lose respect for them. I agree with Ruth, though. It only lasts for so long. The end up losing that power when the other person moves on. I agree with this 100 percent. |
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true. And if they want that badly to hold all the power, they will make me lose respect for them. I agree with Ruth, though. It only lasts for so long. The end up losing that power when the other person moves on. I agree with singmesweet, how many men's egos have I murdered for being control freaks??? Am I saying I am the maturity queen?? NO. But you think I will respect you because or some military rank or being a control freak?? Also NO. Or being a screamer? AGAIN NO. You get respect from me for your integrity, honesty, character, compassion towards those you could dominate but instead elevate, and things like that. You can be 6'7" with an attitude problem and I will not be afraid to get up in your grill. You can be 4'9" man who is an amazing person, and I will back down if I think you are correct and have good judgment. |
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true. And YOU should know this Viv,,,,,,
yes, actually... I was in a relationship where he wouldn't talk..or at least about anything that was important...He refused to tell me what I needed to know.. That was where the power came in...you can get a person to do many things, but tell you the truth....whether you accept it or not, makes no difference..you still won't know unless that person opens up....and yes a psychologist told me this. And yes, it's true. UNLESS you tell him if he is going to act like a 14 year old, he can get lost. you can tell him/her anything you wish...it still won't make them talk. |
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true. And YOU should know this Viv,,,,,,
yes, actually... I was in a relationship where he wouldn't talk..or at least about anything that was important...He refused to tell me what I needed to know.. That was where the power came in...you can get a person to do many things, but tell you the truth....whether you accept it or not, makes no difference..you still won't know unless that person opens up....and yes a psychologist told me this. And yes, it's true.  I was kidding you,Vivian, ,but I am sorry you had this in your life,,,I never had anyone treat me like that day in day or even monthly,,
I could be a lot of things in this life,,,but God knows this to,,,I could NEVER be silent...LONG,,,,like two hours would kill me,, |
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What are your guys opinion of this? I am not talking a cooling down period but actual ignoring for hours/days. Personally I not only find this childish but destructive to a relationship. They say communication is key to a relationship is this is basically the opposite. Psychologists even claim the silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse and rank it up there almost as high as physical abuse when it comes to destroying relationships. What are your opinions on it? Are you the offender or offended? What is its impact on relationships? He who has the silence, has the power. Think about it..it's true. And if they want that badly to hold all the power, they will make me lose respect for them. I agree with Ruth, though. It only lasts for so long. The end up losing that power when the other person moves on. I agree with singmesweet, how many men's egos have I murdered for being control freaks??? Am I saying I am the maturity queen?? NO. But you think I will respect you because or some military rank or being a control freak?? Also NO. Or being a screamer? AGAIN NO. You get respect from me for your integrity, honesty, character, compassion towards those you could dominate but instead elevate, and things like that. You can be 6'7" with an attitude problem and I will not be afraid to get up in your grill. You can be 4'9" man who is an amazing person, and I will back down if I think you are correct and have good judgment. I don't put up with controlling behavior. |
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