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| Topic: Ladies when do you invite your date | |
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no no, apologies I should have been more clear - not Ruth (as I doubt she ever did anything like that anyway) And if I did, I certainly wouldn't tell that story....for free. 
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no no, apologies I should have been more clear - not Ruth (as I doubt she ever did anything like that anyway) And if I did, I certainly wouldn't tell that story....for free.
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ur as bad as I am....(maybe) 
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no no, apologies I should have been more clear - not Ruth (as I doubt she ever did anything like that anyway) And if I did, I certainly wouldn't tell that story....for free.
I KNEW IT! 
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no coffee for me, if he is interested in me, he needs to try at least invite me instead, and or take me to a decent lunch/dinner; a neutral place with people that will allow us to communicate and get to know each other better :) Well I was really asking about after you are pretty comfortable. I'd think anyone would have to be fairly comfortable with the other person to invite someone into their home. Then the question becomes how comfortable do you have to be and how well do you have to know each other, and how do you know that you know him well enough? Thank you for clearing that one out for me :) I am speaking for myself, I will invite him home, when he is emotionally ready to take the relationship to the higher level of commitment. I know him well, when he introduced me to his family and circle of friends as his girlfriend/fiancee. |
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Never. We just knock it out in the bar parking lot and go our separate ways. Hahaha! That made me snort my drink up! Gee thanks Ruth! |
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to join you for a cup of coffee at the conclusion of a nice evening? I wouldnt invite anyone over for coffee at the conclusion of a nice evening. A night cap---perhaps if this was a great date and one of several....then i would probably make an invite after a month or so.... |
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Never. We just knock it out in the bar parking lot and go our separate ways. you have a coffee maker in your car, awesome....LOL |
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yeah,, no home visits during the 'dating' stage. once we have decided its a commitment of some sort,,,,home visits are appropriate. do you think your criteria are different for online dating? I think I'd be less apt to let an online date know where I live -some haven't even known my last name (it was for a 1 drink or dinner date)....but if someone knows me IRL chances are they may know where I live anyway No, not really. For me, as a single mom. Noone needs to know where I live just because we are 'dating'. IT has to be more than that. But thats just me. right I don't introduce anyone to family either unless there is a reason to...as far as when someone comes over....that just depends on who it is - how it's going - how I feel & if I trust them - I don;t really know anyone around here so really haven't had to confront that issue I agree, I dont bother bringing them home, or introducing them to my kids or other family members until we have reached a certain benchmark in our relationship. There is not a specific time frame. A certain set of emotions would be in place in order for me to want to intro them to my family members and/or children. |
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Never. We just knock it out in the bar parking lot and go our separate ways. you have a coffee maker in your car, awesome....LOL It was Max Burton wasn't it?!
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to join you for a cup of coffee at the conclusion of a nice evening? I only drink Coke. And after a nice evening he should go home and take a cold shower. |
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Never I can't stand coffee.................... The coffee is metaphorical. Choose any other drink. Or something else altogether. Do you invite them over for conversation? To watch a movie? Something else? Something visual or tactile or oral?
What are your expectations?
Does anyone really have a set time frame for when they do this? Probably not. I would guess it depends on how the date(s) have been going. I know for me, it's different with different people. I'm sorry I was not clear enough maybe in my initial post. I did not mean to ask for a time like 8 hours or 45 days. I meant when as in "under what circumstances" do you ask.... but "under what circumstances" did not fit in the topic line So, to rephrase it... Ladies, under what specific circumstances do you..... of course when it feels right - but I was looking for a more interesting answer like "when I feel <insert your description here>" or "when he has <insert description of what he has done here>" or "when we have <insert feelings or actions here>" etc. etc.... I am also interested to find out how you ask them up...if not for coffee then maybe for some nice V8, kefir, jack daniels, movie, dinner, dessert, kentucky fried chicken...you know... How does the decision to invite them in happen for you and how do you extend the invitation and what do you expect in general? 
I will not invite any guy that I'm only dating to my home for any reason. Until I'm in a committed relationship with him he doesn't need to know where I live. I have a young son so I keep my life private because of that. Now on the other hand when I feel comfortable I'll go to his place when I'm ready. |
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yeah,, no home visits during the 'dating' stage. once we have decided its a commitment of some sort,,,,home visits are appropriate. do you think your criteria are different for online dating? I think I'd be less apt to let an online date know where I live -some haven't even known my last name (it was for a 1 drink or dinner date)....but if someone knows me IRL chances are they may know where I live anyway No, not really. For me, as a single mom. Noone needs to know where I live just because we are 'dating'. IT has to be more than that. But thats just me. right I don't introduce anyone to family either unless there is a reason to...as far as when someone comes over....that just depends on who it is - how it's going - how I feel & if I trust them - I don;t really know anyone around here so really haven't had to confront that issue I agree, I dont bother bringing them home, or introducing them to my kids or other family members until we have reached a certain benchmark in our relationship. There is not a specific time frame. A certain set of emotions would be in place in order for me to want to intro them to my family members and/or children. that's pretty much how I also feel!! one of my boyfriends met one of my son's in passing at my apt one day, and that was fine. I mean it wasn't planned or anything - we just happened to see e. other I dated a few guys IRL where I used to live but never really brought my kids into it because the relationships never became serious enough |
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to join you for a cup of coffee at the conclusion of a nice evening? I only drink Coke. And after a nice evening he should go home and take a cold shower. now that's cold!
but you understand how these guys are! 
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lol
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I think the OP should answer his own questions for us about women.
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yeah,, no home visits during the 'dating' stage. once we have decided its a commitment of some sort,,,,home visits are appropriate. I agree. Its a very dangerous world out there so I wouldn't let a guy that was just dating know where I live. |
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Hmmmm here before you even go out, you invite everyone in for a cuppa, its just normal
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It really depends on how thirsty I am.
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It's coffee.
Not SEX. You ask any danmed woman any danmed time to go out for a cup of coffee. Just like you would ask out a man friend . If they don't wanna go out...she missed out on a good cup of coffe and some conversation. She would definitely lose out on the opportunity to use me for her physical gratification...(home repairs, cleaning the toilet, sex) If it is just a cup of coffee....go! Obviously, it's someone who just wants to get a cup of coffee and talk. There are alot more effective lines than "Do you wanna get a cup of coffee?" |
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