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a standard by which something can be measured or judged. personally, i have set a benchmark by which i measure women. i also have a benchmark by which i measure men. i use a benchmark to measure life. some things in life measure up, some aren't worth the time to fix. as i look at the world around me, it seems that people are lowering their personal benchmarks, or don't even have one. i could be wrong I do not want to think that there are those who do not have standards. I always believe everyone has a set standard of his/her own. It's either one has a lower standard (compared to the usual) or one has changed his/her standard. There is what we call a substandard though, merely a deviation from a standard or norm. And those changes in standards are based on one's personal experience or priorities in life. Personally, my standards in life changed from the time I started knowing what's best and is not best for me. From the time I started earning for my own. Then it changed again from the time I realized I am the captain of MY life and other people around me can either be my chief mates or my crews. personal experience and priorities are what sets our benchmarks. if you move, the new location may affect your personal benchmarks |
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Edited by
luv2roknroll
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Thu 08/18/11 03:55 AM
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My benchmark in men is Ujgearhead, my benchmark in bikes is Harley Davidson, my benchmark in sex, is excellent and often, my benchmark in dating sites is Mingle, my benchmark in animals is "Boogie", and my benchmark for myself would be Princess Diana,(even though she died, she was beautiful, smart, funny, loving, caring, rich, and a princess)The closest ive ever come to that was my being a "Power Ranger princess, with a wand, and a dress." And my benchmark for food, is "Peeps". I admit it, I am a "Peep" wh*re!
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I guess i have a benchmark, as the only people I allow close to me are people I can trust. So my benchmark is truth, Not that I wouldn't still be nice to someone who lied or decieved me, it's just that I wouldn't let them back into a spot where they could continue to do it.. how do you measure truth in someone you don't know. can you read people, or is everyone you meet trusted until you catch them violating your benchmark Here I am finding we are a lot more open then in America, so it's normally not to hard to work out who is truthful. We know lots about everyone around us and if we dont then everyone soon lets you know.. Basically I will trust everyone until I have a reason not to. There are people who I have been uncomfortable with immediately but dont know why, these people i keep at a distance. but yep I pretty much like to believe everyone is wonderful. Until they show me differently |
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I guess i have a benchmark, as the only people I allow close to me are people I can trust. So my benchmark is truth, Not that I wouldn't still be nice to someone who lied or decieved me, it's just that I wouldn't let them back into a spot where they could continue to do it.. how do you measure truth in someone you don't know. can you read people, or is everyone you meet trusted until you catch them violating your benchmark Here I am finding we are a lot more open then in America, so it's normally not to hard to work out who is truthful. We know lots about everyone around us and if we dont then everyone soon lets you know.. Basically I will trust everyone until I have a reason not to. There are people who I have been uncomfortable with immediately but dont know why, these people i keep at a distance. but yep I pretty much like to believe everyone is wonderful. Until they show me differently things must really be laid back down under. in my neighborhood you can trust everyone is up to something
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My benchmark in men is my dad (notice I said dad not father)
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a standard by which something can be measured or judged. personally, i have set a benchmark by which i measure women. i also have a benchmark by which i measure men. i use a benchmark to measure life. some things in life measure up, some aren't worth the time to fix. as i look at the world around me, it seems that people are lowering their personal benchmarks, or don't even have one. i could be wrong IF I have 'benchmarks' , they would have to be subconscious. Unless standards are the same as benchmarks,,,in which case I dont really think of it is as 'measuring up' as much as I do 'fitting in' with my goals and values. Things like a respectable/respectful man A secure man. A man who is not into the bars and clubs. A man who doesnt think of sex as entertainment. An employed/employable man. A brave man. A good father. A chivalrous man. ...standards I dont plan to lower especially because I am raising a daughter whom I dont want to teach to have low expectations. Is she hitting on me??? First Ash, then Jumper, then Ese, now you....GEEZ...... I'm already taken! lol, very funny
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no benchmarks here, now that I understand what they are...lol
I think nothing and noone is perfect, and there are things I really enjoy about a variety of types of things and people, so that I cant pick out one that I hold ABOVE every other,,,, |
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no benchmarks here, now that I understand what they are...lol I think nothing and noone is perfect, and there are things I really enjoy about a variety of types of things and people, so that I cant pick out one that I hold ABOVE every other,,,, if you have no benchmark, how do you know if something is good or bad. when you meet someone and as you get to know them, don't you think that they are as nice as "grandma", or as mean as "uncle bill". even an old expression like; tim was "as mad as a hornet". the hornet is a benchmark for knowing how mad tim was |
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no benchmarks here, now that I understand what they are...lol I think nothing and noone is perfect, and there are things I really enjoy about a variety of types of things and people, so that I cant pick out one that I hold ABOVE every other,,,, if you have no benchmark, how do you know if something is good or bad. when you meet someone and as you get to know them, don't you think that they are as nice as "grandma", or as mean as "uncle bill". even an old expression like; tim was "as mad as a hornet". the hornet is a benchmark for knowing how mad tim was I guess I dont have any ONE person or ONE thing that is the definition of good or bad , for me I know them because I have experienced them on several occasions with several different people, so the repetition I Suppose assures me that its one or the other and helps me to know it the next time I Experience it I wouldnt MIND meeting someone as charming and musically inclined AS robin thicke,, but I use his example just because he is well known ir reality, there are far more charming and musically inclined men in the world,,,so he is more of an EXAMPLE, than an actual BENCHMARK,,,for me |
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no benchmarks here, now that I understand what they are...lol I think nothing and noone is perfect, and there are things I really enjoy about a variety of types of things and people, so that I cant pick out one that I hold ABOVE every other,,,, if you have no benchmark, how do you know if something is good or bad. when you meet someone and as you get to know them, don't you think that they are as nice as "grandma", or as mean as "uncle bill". even an old expression like; tim was "as mad as a hornet". the hornet is a benchmark for knowing how mad tim was I guess I dont have any ONE person or ONE thing that is the definition of good or bad , for me I know them because I have experienced them on several occasions with several different people, so the repetition I Suppose assures me that its one or the other and helps me to know it the next time I Experience it I wouldnt MIND meeting someone as charming and musically inclined AS robin thicke,, but I use his example just because he is well known ir reality, there are far more charming and musically inclined men in the world,,,so he is more of an EXAMPLE, than an actual BENCHMARK,,,for me that is what a benchmark is all about. it's a personal thing. everyone has their own idea of what is "top of the line" and they use what they know to compare the unknown. your personal benchmark could change if you come across a better one |
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"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." — Thomas A. Edison "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." — Thomas A. Edison "When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this - you haven't." — Thomas A. Edison "What you are will show in what you do." — Thomas A. Edison "Discontent is the first necessity of progress." — Thomas A. Edison "Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward." -Henry Ford "There is no man living that can not do more than he thinks he can." -Henry Ford "Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right." -Henry Ford I remember in Network Engineering classes they found I had great success in hardware (my degree) and software (a necessity). One of them told me you had to specialize because no one could do that much. So the last quote hit home with how I felt, they were limiting themselves, how sad. Glad you appreciated it!  In whatever career, you CAN specialize, but why (in MOST cases). Why limit yourself? Unless you're only after a paycheck and too lazy to reach your full potential? For my business I specialize in nothing. I do it all. Steering, suspension, exhaust, brakes, electrical/electronics, engine/transmission rebuilds, A/C, welding, paint/body, ANY fabrication, you name it! Any year, make or model! I don't even limit myself to cars/light trucks. Once in a while I still do motorcycles (other than my own and my start), boats, RV's, forklifts, lawnmowers, anything! In the mid 90's did work on NASCAR'S (far from 'off the shelf'). Few months ago did a side project doing paint and body on a one-off fully welded (no rivets) aluminum 30' concession trailer. Just recently, got involved in doing cars for demo derbys. Even besides for 'wrench turning'(I'm a man of many talents), I'm constantly doing my best to expand and never reach a status quo. It's just a hobby, but even from an instrumental way. I started out playing clarinet in 3rd grade. Went onto adding piano and sax. Then guitar in high school (and still my first pick, even though too many busted knuckles hamper it nowadays). Then drums (haven't banged on it for a few years due to SLOW paced 'band room' build on my part) and not very 'lugable'.......I once worked for a few companies as a carpenter/plumber/electrician/drywaller/plasterer/painter/all-around general contractor when my business WAS slow......so ALL work is done only by me.....). Then flute (cause I could ). Bring out my trumpet once in a while, still no success after 20+, but I still try. Then most recently, 5-string bass (still getting ahold of the fret size difference while swapping between 6-string  ). I can go on and on and on and on and on and on with my personal lack setting limitations.........
That's the way I am,why limit when there are so many interesting things to do? You can be great at several things if you love to "tinker."
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Edited by
winterblue56
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Thu 08/18/11 07:46 PM
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Ese:
a benchmark is something you would use to compare other things to. for example: is this car "as good as" a cadillac (using cadillac as a benchmark for quality). you may choose your father (or some gentlemen you know to have the qualities you want in a man) and size other men up knowing that they would have to meet or exceed his level. Great food for thought and great input  . I don't know if I have benchmarks. I've been on my own for so long. Even when I was a little girl I had very many responsibilities that I did without question. I learned from a young teen how to make, build, paint, fix just about anything. But it was mostly self taught. I asked questions through the years and looked up stuff to figure out how to repair and maintain a house by myself. That in turn taught me stick-to-it-ness, as I call it. Divorces teach you the value of not compromising, very little money teaches you the value of the dollar, living life alone teaches you the value of a relationship. If I had to choose a benchmark, I would choose "betterment". I know it's not a person per se; but it's what I look up to.
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Ese: a benchmark is something you would use to compare other things to. for example: is this car "as good as" a cadillac (using cadillac as a benchmark for quality). you may choose your father (or some gentlemen you know to have the qualities you want in a man) and size other men up knowing that they would have to meet or exceed his level. Great food for thought and great input . I don't know if I have benchmarks. I've been on my own for so long. Even when I was a little girl I had very many responsibilities that I did without question. I learned from a young teen how to make, build, paint, fix just about anything. But it was mostly self taught. I asked questions through the years and looked up stuff to figure out how to repair and maintain a house by myself. That in turn taught me stick-to-it-ness, as I call it. Divorces teach you the value of not compromising, very little money teaches you the value of the dollar, living life alone teaches you the value of a relationship. If I had to choose a benchmark, I would choose "betterment". I know it's not a person per se; but it's what I look up to.
of course quality of life changes, but your benchmark for life remains. because of your benchmark you know when you are living in times of plenty, or if you are living below your benchmark. the feeling of "i've never had it so good" comes from the benchmark in your mind of what is good. what you have or lack is measured against the benchmark of what you already know |
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No, I don't rate, categorize or hold anyone to MY standards. I hold them to theirs. I do that with the Bible. Mainly with the new testament. Everyone else had better be as good as I expect them to be... ...or else. |
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the golden rule, treat others as you would have them treat you. i guess the benchmark of respect for others is hinged on how much you respect yourself
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the golden rule, treat others as you would have them treat you. i guess the benchmark of respect for others is hinged on how much you respect yourself SO very true |
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neither a borrower nor a lender be
to thine own self be true was william shakespeare on to something, or was he on something |
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my benchmark for men is my heart
if I feel good with him I want him, and if he lets himself feel good so I can love on him even better |
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neither a borrower nor a lender be to thine own self be true was william shakespeare on to something, or was he on something I got half that statement right!...and it's NOT the second half
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neither a borrower nor a lender be to thine own self be true was william shakespeare on to something, or was he on something I got half that statement right!...and it's NOT the second half
lol, you sure are right. two different lines |
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