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I have benchmark I just don't know what it is or met anyone that would define it. Maybe it's too high? i'm sure you know what you would put up with and what you won't. being married before can be difficult when looking for someone. your benchmark has already been compromised in the failed relationship, and sometimes that affects the way you see potential mates. you remember how "she" used to act and if you see signs of that behavior in someone else it is an immediate turn off. in a sense your benchmark has been raised I haven't found anybody I like to see what my benchmark is. I know they need brains, sense of humour, independent but what else I don't know. Kitten would be good I think, but she loves gearhead! I think she is representative of what I term "attractive." |
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I have benchmark I just don't know what it is or met anyone that would define it. Maybe it's too high? i'm sure you know what you would put up with and what you won't. being married before can be difficult when looking for someone. your benchmark has already been compromised in the failed relationship, and sometimes that affects the way you see potential mates. you remember how "she" used to act and if you see signs of that behavior in someone else it is an immediate turn off. in a sense your benchmark has been raised I haven't found anybody I like to see what my benchmark is. I know they need brains, sense of humour, independent but what else I don't know. Kitten would be good I think, but she loves gearhead! I think she is representative of what I term "attractive." that is an excellent start. setting roberta as your benchmark is going to leave a lot of women out of your dating pool, but the few that will find their way there will be awesome. you go boy |
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do you accept their standards in them even if what they allow for themselves is behavior that you don't tolerate for yourself As far as this question goes the way I see it is I will accept others for who they are and what they choose to do as long as they accept me the same way. I just have certain standards I expect from those that I may end up in a relationship with. As far as just friends it is up to them what they do or how they do it. i would be willing to bet you would hold your benchmark even after a case of coors light and a bottle of hot damn In the past, one or two of my benchmarks didn't hold after a case of beer(Fricken beer googles), but one time after drinking a bottle of Hot Damn, I'll admit that those schnapps didn't hold at all.......  But, on a good note, they taste exactly the same on the rebound......
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benchmarks are tests i used to have halfway through a semester in high school.
if one has a standard and constantly holds it against people, i think there's going to be a lot of letdowns. why not just start from scratch each time? |
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I have benchmark I just don't know what it is or met anyone that would define it. Maybe it's too high? i'm sure you know what you would put up with and what you won't. being married before can be difficult when looking for someone. your benchmark has already been compromised in the failed relationship, and sometimes that affects the way you see potential mates. you remember how "she" used to act and if you see signs of that behavior in someone else it is an immediate turn off. in a sense your benchmark has been raised I haven't found anybody I like to see what my benchmark is. I know they need brains, sense of humour, independent but what else I don't know. Kitten would be good I think, but she loves gearhead! I think she is representative of what I term "attractive." that is an excellent start. setting roberta as your benchmark is going to leave a lot of women out of your dating pool, but the few that will find their way there will be awesome. you go boy NO doubt having somebody 'like' Roberta (as if there's a comparison  ) as a benchmark is leaving a LOT of women out of the pool. Why do you think I remain patient while she's STILL on the other side of the country?
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benchmarks are tests i used to have halfway through a semester in high school. if one has a standard and constantly holds it against people, i think there's going to be a lot of letdowns. why not just start from scratch each time? that is one of several ways to skin a cat. if you have a benchmark some people won't measure up at first, but helping them brings them up to a better level. others like to wallow in mire and you would be foolish to join them |
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I have benchmark I just don't know what it is or met anyone that would define it. Maybe it's too high? i'm sure you know what you would put up with and what you won't. being married before can be difficult when looking for someone. your benchmark has already been compromised in the failed relationship, and sometimes that affects the way you see potential mates. you remember how "she" used to act and if you see signs of that behavior in someone else it is an immediate turn off. in a sense your benchmark has been raised I haven't found anybody I like to see what my benchmark is. I know they need brains, sense of humour, independent but what else I don't know. Kitten would be good I think, but she loves gearhead! I think she is representative of what I term "attractive." that is an excellent start. setting roberta as your benchmark is going to leave a lot of women out of your dating pool, but the few that will find their way there will be awesome. you go boy NO doubt having somebody 'like' Roberta (as if there's a comparison ) as a benchmark is leaving a LOT of women out of the pool. Why do you think I remain patient while she's STILL on the other side of the country?
Because you are teasing her?! 
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benchmarks are tests i used to have halfway through a semester in high school. if one has a standard and constantly holds it against people, i think there's going to be a lot of letdowns. why not just start from scratch each time? Lowering your benchmarks is accepting failure. Anybody with integrity does Not lower standards! Even though, compromise is sometimes a part of everything we do and we may have to improvise our tactics to reach our ultimate goal, it's HOW it's reached that matters. A FEW of my favorite quotes from a couple of my inspirations....... "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." — Thomas A. Edison "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." — Thomas A. Edison "When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this - you haven't." — Thomas A. Edison "What you are will show in what you do." — Thomas A. Edison "Discontent is the first necessity of progress." — Thomas A. Edison "Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward." -Henry Ford "There is no man living that can not do more than he thinks he can." -Henry Ford "Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right." -Henry Ford |
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I have benchmark I just don't know what it is or met anyone that would define it. Maybe it's too high? i'm sure you know what you would put up with and what you won't. being married before can be difficult when looking for someone. your benchmark has already been compromised in the failed relationship, and sometimes that affects the way you see potential mates. you remember how "she" used to act and if you see signs of that behavior in someone else it is an immediate turn off. in a sense your benchmark has been raised I haven't found anybody I like to see what my benchmark is. I know they need brains, sense of humour, independent but what else I don't know. Kitten would be good I think, but she loves gearhead! I think she is representative of what I term "attractive." that is an excellent start. setting roberta as your benchmark is going to leave a lot of women out of your dating pool, but the few that will find their way there will be awesome. you go boy NO doubt having somebody 'like' Roberta (as if there's a comparison ) as a benchmark is leaving a LOT of women out of the pool. Why do you think I remain patient while she's STILL on the other side of the country?
Because you are teasing her?!
PFFT! |
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do you accept their standards in them even if what they allow for themselves is behavior that you don't tolerate for yourself As far as this question goes the way I see it is I will accept others for who they are and what they choose to do as long as they accept me the same way. I just have certain standards I expect from those that I may end up in a relationship with. As far as just friends it is up to them what they do or how they do it. i would be willing to bet you would hold your benchmark even after a case of coors light and a bottle of hot damn In the past, one or two of my benchmarks didn't hold after a case of beer(Fricken beer googles), but one time after drinking a bottle of Hot Damn, I'll admit that those schnapps didn't hold at all....... But, on a good note, they taste exactly the same on the rebound......
HAhahaha that is because your not as tough as I'm...hehehe  I assure ya after the case of beer and the hot damn I still had my senses about me... 
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I think there comes times when we must take a look at what we expect of others. Not saying it is lowering ones standard but just adjusting to the here and now within life.
Regardless what our standards were 10 years ago or even a year ago as we grow older we find out some of those things do not matter as much anymore. Therefore we adjust what we will tolerate to a point.
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Edited by
oldhippie1952
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Tue 08/16/11 12:11 PM
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"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." — Thomas A. Edison "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." — Thomas A. Edison "When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this - you haven't." — Thomas A. Edison "What you are will show in what you do." — Thomas A. Edison "Discontent is the first necessity of progress." — Thomas A. Edison "Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward." -Henry Ford "There is no man living that can not do more than he thinks he can." -Henry Ford "Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right." -Henry Ford I remember in Network Engineering classes they found I had great success in hardware (my degree) and software (a necessity). One of them told me you had to specialize because no one could do that much. So the last quote hit home with how I felt, they were limiting themselves, how sad. |
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don't you guys ever sleep ???  lmao!
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do you accept their standards in them even if what they allow for themselves is behavior that you don't tolerate for yourself As far as this question goes the way I see it is I will accept others for who they are and what they choose to do as long as they accept me the same way. I just have certain standards I expect from those that I may end up in a relationship with. As far as just friends it is up to them what they do or how they do it. i would be willing to bet you would hold your benchmark even after a case of coors light and a bottle of hot damn In the past, one or two of my benchmarks didn't hold after a case of beer(Fricken beer googles), but one time after drinking a bottle of Hot Damn, I'll admit that those schnapps didn't hold at all....... But, on a good note, they taste exactly the same on the rebound......
HAhahaha that is because your not as tough as I'm...hehehe I assure ya after the case of beer and the hot damn I still had my senses about me...
  I can hold my own after slugging back a case of Bud or Corona (albeit, occasional WRONG decisions have been made afterwards), but an hour or two after chugging whole bottles of various schnapps or M/D 20/20 or J.D..........not so good on the power puke front....... That's why I keep with beer nowadays!
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ujgearhead;
i didn't mention lowering standards. unless you thought by starting from scratch i meant lowering. i don't know. but i'm thinking art. you're not suppose to compare yourself to others. you'd be screwed if you did. meh. i suppose i believe you shouldn't compare people. i'm sure i still do it, but i try not to let it affect my respect for people. |
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I think there comes times when we must take a look at what we expect of others. Not saying it is lowering ones standard but just adjusting to the here and now within life. Regardless what our standards were 10 years ago or even a year ago as we grow older we find out some of those things do not matter as much anymore. Therefore we adjust what we will tolerate to a point.
i think that is part of the problem. society has lowered the benchmark. you buy something and when it quits working, throw it away and get a new one. a product comes out defective, and people still buy from the company. you get chitty service, just inconvenience yourself by going across town to the competitor |
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do you accept their standards in them even if what they allow for themselves is behavior that you don't tolerate for yourself
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Sure I have my benchmark most likely that is why I'm single I have not found one that can measure up to it as of yet. 
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I think there comes times when we must take a look at what we expect of others. Not saying it is lowering ones standard but just adjusting to the here and now within life. Regardless what our standards were 10 years ago or even a year ago as we grow older we find out some of those things do not matter as much anymore. Therefore we adjust what we will tolerate to a point.
I've become the opposite (from a relationship standard) with how high set my bar is. I started dating when I was 12-13-14ish (38 now) and had 'very little standards'. My average relationship lasted around 2 years (with MOST overlapping.....greatly... ) till '95 when I got into a 12 year relationship. At that time, in my mid 30's, never married, no kids decided it was to change what I was looking for and set the limbo stick MUCH lower and came on here to 'expand my pool'. Met somebody here and 'accidentally' ended up in another 2 year relationship (She lied about her 'height', so the bar was set innacurately).... Live and learn and the bar has reached it's highest tolerances.......
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Edited by
ujGearhead
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Tue 08/16/11 01:45 PM
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"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." — Thomas A. Edison "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." — Thomas A. Edison "When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this - you haven't." — Thomas A. Edison "What you are will show in what you do." — Thomas A. Edison "Discontent is the first necessity of progress." — Thomas A. Edison "Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward." -Henry Ford "There is no man living that can not do more than he thinks he can." -Henry Ford "Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right." -Henry Ford I remember in Network Engineering classes they found I had great success in hardware (my degree) and software (a necessity). One of them told me you had to specialize because no one could do that much. So the last quote hit home with how I felt, they were limiting themselves, how sad. Glad you appreciated it! In whatever career, you CAN specialize, but why (in MOST cases). Why limit yourself? Unless you're only after a paycheck and too lazy to reach your full potential? For my business I specialize in nothing. I do it all. Steering, suspension, exhaust, brakes, electrical/electronics, engine/transmission rebuilds, A/C, welding, paint/body, ANY fabrication, you name it! Any year, make or model! I don't even limit myself to cars/light trucks. Once in a while I still do motorcycles (other than my own and my start), boats, RV's, forklifts, lawnmowers, anything! In the mid 90's did work on NASCAR'S (far from 'off the shelf'). Few months ago did a side project doing paint and body on a one-off fully welded (no rivets) aluminum 30' concession trailer. Just recently, got involved in doing cars for demo derbys. Even besides for 'wrench turning'(I'm a man of many talents), I'm constantly doing my best to expand and never reach a status quo. It's just a hobby, but even from an instrumental way. I started out playing clarinet in 3rd grade. Went onto adding piano and sax. Then guitar in high school (and still my first pick, even though too many busted knuckles hamper it nowadays). Then drums (haven't banged on it for a few years due to SLOW paced 'band room' build on my part) and not very 'lugable'.......I once worked for a few companies as a carpenter/plumber/electrician/drywaller/plasterer/painter/all-around general contractor when my business WAS slow......so ALL work is done only by me.....). Then flute (cause I could ). Bring out my trumpet once in a while, still no success after 20+, but I still try. Then most recently, 5-string bass (still getting ahold of the fret size difference while swapping between 6-string  ). I can go on and on and on and on and on and on with my personal lack setting limitations.........
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