Something another member posted got me to thinking....it was in a thread about sex and the subject of patronizing prostitutes came up.

Now Ima not so interested in a lot of moralizing about whether it is right or wrong to become a prostitute

but what I am wondering from the other ladies on here is:

If you were dating someone, and were fairly well into the friendship and it became apparent that your male friend visited or had habitually visited prostitutes, or strip clubs would you continue to see him?

Would you continue to see him if he made it clear that this behavior would not stop/has not stopped?

Nah, I'd never want to control someone's free time.
Specially if I was invited along :-)

I mean, I'm inclined to say no to both.... if it had happened a few times as a foolish youth - don;t have a real issue w/ that

but if it was a past or present lifestyle - regular thing - prolly no
don;t think I could get past it
but also do not want to be a rigid person

I would defintely draw the line at any kind of present or ongoing participation in such things.

yes I agree that I would not want to control someone's free time

but I am not sure that this particular use of free time is OK with me from my boyfriend (hypothetically)

Hey!

Hookers are people too.

And they help keep money circulated in the economy.

Besides, the guy might be getting something from hookers his girlfriend isn't or won't give him.

well

then the relationship should end - with his girlfriend, I mean

and prolly it would if she found out

and she will find out.......eventually

as a man why wouldn't u be honorable and courageous enough to end the relationship with someone who you are not compatible with sexually and find a sexually compatible partner?

your justification seems kinda dumm but I also realize u r prolly joking motown

it's not that a guy wouldn't marry a hooker or a stripper, it's that hookers and strippers don't want to be married to a guy who would want to marry a hooker or stripper

if every other aspect of the relationship is perfect, should the couple separate because of the sex problem

No I would not.
Any man that uses a Hooker is not somebody I want to be with.
I feel they are most likely the type of man that has very little respect for women.

They can spend the "hooker" money on a therapist and find other ways to satisfy each other.

Not to mention little creepy crawly things...like crabs..body lice ..all that good stuff.

I would think that having sex with a prostitute and going to see a stripper would be different things. However, if the guy was clean, it probably wouldn't be a big deal if it happened in the past.

But like she said ,what if he is still going to a prositute while with you?

I did say if it happened in the past, it wouldn't be a big deal.

I don't put up with cheaters now, whether it's a prostitute or someone else.

ok...I still wouldn't like it though.

well first, I wasn't really talking about anyone's marriage preferences, and I don't think you can generalize to what others want in a partner. I don't really know what hookers and strippers would want in a man, but my guess would be that being imbued in that lifestyle that is who they would be acquainted with for "dating" as it were. And their preferences would be unique as individuals - just like the rest of us

Should the couple separate? IDK - up to them - but a man should not be sneaking around with hookers - and if he is going to he needs to end his other relationship in my opinion - he would not be continuing with me under those circumstances, certainly, and I don;t know amy women personally who would accept that, no.

yes, it is still cheating even if u are paying for it...

besides there are numerous other avenues to explore regarding sexual hurdles -AND presumably the couple would be together at least in part due to sexual compatability on the first place...

Do you all question a guy about his past relationships? Who he's had sex with? If those past sex partners had STDs? Or anything along that line of questioning?

I tend to agree

but I also agree with Betty as far as the respect issue

and klc - I just agree with anyway usually this time no exception

I wish things would get to that point

I am not sure how I would handle that, actually