how many men & women out there can say, they can really talk to someone with out being attracted to them?

I talk to everyone ... doesn't mean I am attracted to them on a physical level.

Everyone is interesting.

I Cant, If I find someone interesting enough to 'really' talk to, then they will be interesting enough for me to find attractive on some level,,,,

I have to be attracted in some way to talk. It's not always a sexual attraction, could be an intellectual attraction, curiosity, entertainment, etc.

Ummm is that get past your ego, or get passed on your ego?

I'm a wee bit literal...and your grammatically challenged thread title has me baffled.....


I can talk the leg off a table, and back on again...and find everyone interesting...and am usually drawn to similar minded folk...do I want to hump their leg?....err not usually.

so i'm a bit sleepy....

feeling better

Whose feeling better? you??? or me???


umm what's sleepy got to do with the questions you asked?


Or are you saying you are Sleepy the dwarf?

I would have said you were grumpy the dwarf...???

Im attracted to everyone,(unless they give me a reason not to be), and on every level, physically, mentally, emotionally...

what can I say, im a lover!

I can get attracted or not, outside of the speech or not, and due to the speech or not.

With men, the attraction is there, but only on a Platonic level.

With women, the attraction is not always and necessarily borne out of a deep emotional-mental connection, but from physical stuff. I remember I had a houseguest once, an incredibly unattractive woman. She was almost scary, because of her looks. She stayed in my house for ten days, and on the third day I developed an incurable attraction for her. By sheerly her being there, around, her scent and her personality filling the room.

She was not attracted to me.

I could never explain how that happened. I even hated her, because she never put the milk back in the fridge, and she gave me a stupid book as a present for my gesture of keeping her for ten days. But God I was attracted to her.

If I spend ten minutes or more alone with a woman in a room, I get attracted to her. When you are in my position in society, that happens most often with female therapists. There was one exception, with one woman therapist, from this rule. That woman turned me off. I don't know why.

Now that I am older and have more mature diseases, I've started to see ECG technicians, blood-takers, doppler-machine operators, etc., who are also female, and I am attracted to them as they look at their instruments very focussedly, and it does not matter whether they are fat, slim, tall, short, old, young, stupid or smart. I get attracted to each. Except maybe not the stupid ones. I take that back. That only happens when she is good looking to very good looking.
We ought not to have allowed a stupid person do the Intelligent Design of this world we live in.

My bad self only talks (I mean really talk) to someone I have the attraction to - at least no matter how trivial is the source of attraction.

Other then saying "Hey, How are you?" Yes, there has to be some form of attraction. There is always something that attracts us to that person to make us want to talk to them.

I talk with everyone, but the conversation will be longer and more in depth if I find something about them attractive, be it their sense of humor, their common interests. Their looks can't help a conversation very much, they can look beautiful but be as boring as watching moss grow.

Amen to that

Hummmmm my dad use to tell me I would talk to a telephone post if it would talk back.... Sooooooooooo I guess in my case attraction has nothing to do with it, I just like to talk.

So, so you DON'T have the hawts for me?????
But, but we talk so well..

I can. I talk to just about everybody. Even scammers, critters and inanimate objects. I also talk to myself alot, but in that case, I'd do me.......

And he does regularly!

Ohhhhhhhhhh hell ya sooooooooooooo Hawt ya sizzle girl....

Wow, hawt mama, we are attracted, yet,
still talking !!!