This is my situation. I've searched profile before and start to send an email to a guy I find interesting, but I chicken out at the end. I really find it hard to make the first move. My mom used to always say let the man chase you, not you chase men. Anyone have any suggestions? How can I break the ice? Thanks in advance for all the help.

making a move and chasing are two different things. there is nothing wrong with a quick hello to get the ball rolling…..

A man cant chase you if he doesn't know you are there.

If you send an email letting him know your interested and he isn't interested back and you keep emailing...that's chasing.

Nothing wrong with making the first move.

Don't place so much on the outcome, and DON'T put your whole self esteem into it.

Fire off a heap of emails to people you find interesting, tell them why you find them interesting...then do nothing, until you get a reply.

Instead of hanging by the 'mailbox' awaiting a reply, play here in the forums, meet other people here...you would be surprised how many people have discovered their partners here in the forums, through learning about others, by what they write, how they think, and what they want in life.

If you don't send him a message, how's he going to know you're interested? IDK, the "let him make the first move" seems a bit outdated. I mean some people still go by it, but it's 2011 (or somewhere close), not 1950. JMO

Creating a topic in Dating & Relationships is a great way to go.
And interacting a lot on the forums by adding your opinions is
a nice way for people to get to know you.

Personally I like to be chased and I like to do the chasing.
The enemy is boredom.

As hard as it is, stick to being patient. It's too easy to get carried away with it.

I too wait for the woman to say something first. It's how we know if you're intrested or not, don't worry about us guys being intrested, WE'RE MEN, of course we're intrested.
Send somethin that'll make'em smile, that's what gets my attention. Usually I wait 3 days after I nudge them, if nothing happens, then nothing happens. Don't wait for it.

This.

Great advice. I agree. I'm new here too and I've gotten a lot more views and messages since I started playing in the forums. Extra benefit: meeting some great friends from all over!

wait on buses and the sun to come up, friendships and more, need a little chaser to get things started. good luck to you!

Thanks, good advice. You're certainly right about getting to know a little about others from the forums.