Based on the fact that they told me in treatment once that I am not terminally unique chances are you might have encountered a scenario like this once. This lady tells me after I told her that I am 54 that her being 12 years younger than me is no problem. So I take a chance and go over and see her. I had met her 13 year old son before. A very talkative child he is. When I talk to her he answers for her and when she talks to me he answers for me. It reminded me of what I was told once and that is the children should be seen and not heard. I just thought I would share the experience with my fellow Minglers as they might have encountered a similar experience while trying to date.

It makes me wonder if children who have parents who were codependent were meant to be interpreters or to be parrots.

I've never had an experience like that
some of my favorite people are dates gone bad
better at being friends, nothing wrong with that

Hey, thanks. I have had better luck with friendships than dating. I think I will stick just to friendships. If it works don't fix it.

She told me that she liked me and I told her that I liked her, too. Its a draw.

Oh my gosh, I hav3e 6 little horrors, who couldnt be quiet if their lives depended on it..

Hmmm but they dont answer for me, they have enough answers of their own...

But i do warn everyone about them, so no man would ever have been shocked, he would have already known that they where horrors who would terrorise his life.

Her son is old enough to be told, by his mother, that if a question isn't addressed to him, he shouldn't answer. It is rude and impolite and he really has no business being involved in "adult" conversations. (The two adults trying to talk and getting to know each other.)

Maybe he has a learning challenge like autism and he feels he knows the answers to the questions and wants to show off. I know most autistic children stay quiet and to themselves, but my daughter went to school with a boy with these characteristics.

Yes, children do like to talk about things they know about their parents, that is true. Even though you had met him before, maybe it would have been better meeting with Mom a few more times before doing something all together. I didn't hang out with dates and my children together for a few months and was sure things might work out between us, and I suggested the same thing to the guys.

Maybe d boy don't really like u nd he is trying to make u stay away.

I got smacked for that once after I was told not to do that.

Her allowing it to continue was rude and disrespectful to you both and poor parenting.

My parrot wouldn't even be that obnoxious.

I never experienced that. I never did that either.

My mom did date some d***** bags when I was a kid, but I wanted her to be happy more than I wanted to get rid of them, except for a couple, who if I see even today I will kick their a**.

I don't remember ever liking anyone she was with.

in a word "tape"

it's the only way to be sure

I have two daughters in the autism spectrum and I was going to ask the same thing. It's quite characteristic of older kids with that condition; especially the high functioning ones. But if this is so, the mom should have prepared you beforehand and calmly corrected her son.

Also, if he is autistic, meeting you would be a bit stressful for him and that would explain his constant chattering. It's the same thing in the classroom situation; these kids know nothing about showing off ... they don't have the social etiquette "filters" that most people naturally grow up with.

Why not ask her the next time you talk?

NewsFlash:
If you date someone with children,
the children will come first.
Good litmus test for compatibility.
Conversely, rude children tend to
be blamed on the parent.

Well, as far as I know. Most of my Lady friends, prefer me as a friend.

I say I'm very lucky. Some guys go there whole lives, without even speaking to a potential Lady friend.

I find friendships more easier.

Also, I find that females are more easy around guys, then most guys are around them.

I tryed to change a friendship once. It didn't work. We went back to being friends. But we were much closer after that

And in most cases, rightfully so.

Hey ED :-)
hehehe so easy for me to agree,
I have none :-)

Bummer , well I have 6 and have to agree..

When my children are rude or do something wrong, the majority of the time it is just a learned habit, either from me their grandparents or their Dad, occasionally friends.

Some is personality, but mostly its what they grow up around. Hmm without there are other considerations..

Aw man, bad dates can be great, as completely contradictory as that sounds. I've made some friends that way, but there was one guy, a bit younger than I usually date, that I didn't even know what to make of him.

Soufie and Josie,

Anything learned, can be unlearned, if the parent is willing to do it. Heck, mom let my brother and I teach dad not to swear at home, by walking around cussing, when he'd get work particularly obnoxious jobs. Nothing like 7 and 10 year olds mimicking him to get him to be aware of what he said. Once he cleaned his ords up, we weren't allowed to cuss.