actually I think personally men are responsible for it. I have always been responsible for having a condom. I never met a girl that said they had condoms. I only every had 1 person taking the pill and that was a relationship and she didn't want to use condoms anymore.

It seems that men have been doing so all along. Every excuse in the book from nature to society.

You would know the need for birth control being used by both parties if you stood in a Walmart and watched some of the people frequenting the place. There are some strange looking people going in and out.

As I've already said earlier, if I think I'm going to have sex, I'm going to have condoms. Not all men have condoms when needed. So, just because you do and you've never been with a woman who has brought a condom, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

How do you know you've only been with one person who was on the pill? Does that conversation come up every time?

because the people i have been with were not 1 time things. One way or another it comes up. I don't think its any more private a question than do you have a condom. And I didn't always use to carry one. When I was caught in a situation where I could have had sex and didn't have a condom I learned then and there to always have one.

I only date women my age(60). Women my age have gone through menopause so I wouldn't need it.

that part is true, usually men are responsible for getting the condoms and the lube if needed.

whoop there it is....whoop there it is....

I don't remember saying I was talking about one time things. I never said it was a private question, either. I just don't see a lot of guys asking about it, especially if condoms are being used.

I find it hard to believe you've never met a woman who has ever had condoms and only one that has ever been on birth control.

No, I'm saying if men want more say-so, then they need to step up with a better way to prevent pregnancy. Condoms aren't 100% either, and while I commend a man who has them and carries them and uses them, pregnancies are mostly happening to those who don't.

I still find the best method is a
bad attitude wrapped in negativity.
Those swimmers never get
in the pool.

I like the idea that a man would not have to rely on a female partner to take her pill - to give both genders somewhat more equal empowerment regarding pregnancy prevention

on the other hand although tests may show sperm production going back to normal after tests on mice. I know myself, I am not planning to boink any mice any time soon...

so I would stil be concerned about long term usage affects on sperm production and sperm quality as well as longer term effects on libido - we defintely do no want to neuter people just because they are sexually active

If we agree that its 'our body' when we get pregnant (which I dont)

its consistent to accept that its 'our body' to protect from pregnancy

Then again, there are many men who want to have a say in it as well. So, if they want to have a say in what goes on, why not take part in using birth control as well?

That being said, I am fine with protecting myself from pregnancy. Even if guys were able to start taking a male birth control pill, I'm not sure I'd rely on that. Then again, like I said above, it would be nice for them to have a bit more control over birth control if they're not ready to have kids.

I agree. When it comes to contraception, pregnancy, and having children, there is fine line between "me" and "we".

If you have a "me" attitude, then you should do everything possible to protect yourself. If you don't want to have a child, then take the proper steps to avoid conception. If you don't want to be infected by an STD (they changed the term, but I forget what the new one is), then take the proper precautions to avoid receiving one. Gender doesn't matter. Be responsible enough to act in your own best interests even if you don't care who your partner is. Simple right?

If you have a "we" attitude, then there needs to be some communication. If even one of you doesn't want a child, then both of you should act accordingly. Like I said, the more forms of contraception used, the less chance of pregnancy. Don't rely on any one method. Still simple, right?

Because of the logic, a "me" and a "we" should be able to have sex without worrying about an unwanted pregnancy. Unfortunately, too many of us are short-sighted or just can't be bothered. That is the problem that truly needs to be addressed. It's a sign of laziness, apathy, and irresponsibility....especially to one's self regardless of one's partner.

I think if you are going to have sex (and both have agreed not want kids), then it's both parties responsibility!

I think it starts with self, but I agree

adults who dont want to be parents (taking the gender out of it) should WEAR/Use the protection available for THEIR BODIES